-I earn more than him
-I give him my share of expenses but we end up using my savings when we ran out of money and I can't even go shopping anymore.
-Dining out doesn't sound romantic anymore when he ask me to go out for dinner coz I know we'll be spending my dough.
-Surprises aren't surprises anymore coz I know he's using my dough.
-I'm not really the type of person who shares her money with her man, till he came and it sucks.I'm not liking it.
2006-06-14 18:01:38 · 20 answers · asked by Victoria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him how u feel. @#$% he will never know til u tell him. That's the problem with us women we are their so much for theses dudes.We are so loving caring giving doing for theses men that they get comfortable and we still keep doing and giving caring and loving. So just tell how
2006-06-14 18:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by SEXXYDARKCHOCO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you make way more than him, are we talking hundreds of $ or less? Help him budget his money, sit down and write out all him monthly expenses only and let him know how much $ he has left over from each pay check to spend. How would you feel if you were the one that made less and he did not want to share. My best suggestion is tell him when he wants to do something and you know you will be paying that you do not want to waste your money. Sounds like he is blowing his money and expects you to cover him. However I made more $ that my husband when we 1st got 2 gether a lot more and now he makes way more than me so I am glad that we always shared from day one it was not mine or his it was ours that is part of being in a relation ship if you want it that way otherwise cut it off now (sharing $)and never share again. Does not sound like you will be marrying this guy so why are you wasting your time? Find someone that makes more than you so you can feel pampered.
2006-06-14 18:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by rioladymorris1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, start watching those court shows like Judge Judy. You see so many women doing the same thing as you, they get screwed every time. You are worried about rubbing your boyfriend the wrong way by not wanting to share the money. From what I just read, it's not much of a sharing thing, it's him taking advantage of you and if he gets pissed about it, then that is because he is no longer able to have access to free money. Why do women do that? Trust me, don't ever do that, even if I were married, I would have my own money. We would have an account for the bills, but I would have my own cash. I'm not selfish at all, but you must maintain your own!!! Stop that now!!!
2006-06-14 18:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to cut his butt off. Sounds like he might be taking advantage of you girl. It might be different if you were married but your not. Start putting your money in an account that he is not aware of. If you need shopping time or whatever you should be able to spend and enjoy what you work for. He needs a budget. If he is unhappy about having less money in the house...oh well. Tell him you decided to invest in stocks at work or that you are putting more into 401K. Good Luck
2006-06-14 18:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by poodlemama1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to say it some special way? Tell him the truth. Tell him that your money is very important to you. Tell him that your scared to tell him this because it might say a lot about you that you don't want him to know. Let him know how materialistic you really are and then you and your "dough" will be safe. Could it buy you some confidence to be direct with someone?
2006-06-14 19:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a douche bag for a boyfriend. But I am only the seeing this from my perspective. I would just tell you to find another boyfriend, but if you decide to stay with poor boy just tell him straight up. Don't dance around it, don't bullshit, and most importantly don't let him tell you otherwise. Love is about two people working together, but if your the only one working then look out for yourself.
2006-06-14 18:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by megal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is kinda sad.. Guys do it all the time.. What difference does it make who earned it. A relationship is a complete sharing of everything.. Very convenient for you not want to pay when you earn more.. You make us (women) all look bad... Guys, We are NOT all like this..
2006-06-14 18:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no man should be touching your money. I would tell him straight that you would like to stop sharing the money. Far out girl are you nuts! I wouldn't even have someone like that in my life
2006-06-14 18:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to rub him the wrong way. Ditch him, he is a user! The money will only be the start.
2006-06-14 18:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by ba_tche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to set aside 30 dollars a week in a kitty bank
and you match it, so that way at the end of the month he
can feel like he treats you to a place of his choice
because if this trend keeps up he's going to eat too much..LOL
2006-06-14 18:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋