j e a l o u s y?

Question

How do you get over being jealous? I am terrified that my boyfriend will leave me for another girl, but then again I don't think he would, but I am still scared that someone better will come along and he will dump me. We have been together for a long time, so why haven't these feelings went away? HELP!

No he hasn't done anything to make me think that he wants someone else. I do love him very very much, but when we are out, and I walk by another pretty girl, I feel horrible about myself, like well he would probally look at him more than me, I suck. I think it is my self esteem, I know that, but I don't know how to be more confident, without sounding conceeded. Thanks everyone.

I meant he would rather look at HER rather than ME

We've been together for 5 years

Answer 1

has he ever hurt you before if yes then i guess thats why you feel that way

also if you dont trust him then you are jealous = you dont love him enough

also if he does love someone else dont you think it will be better for him to go

ask him if he is saisfied with you or does he want sth else

is he still looking for potential gfs

talk to him

Answer 2

look jealousy is a very bad thing i have never had that feeling, I want you to know its ok to admit you have this problem thats really a lady of you. 1 think are you being dised by your boy or if jealousy is the case.Think about all the damage jealousy does to the world and how nothing good ever comes from it and usally the nice ones end up getting hurt and you might fill like crap and they will never trust you even if they wanted to think if he left you then hes not thinking correct or he dosent appriciate you and you on a natural higher level anyways so you have no need to be like that toward another human being

Answer 3

It starts within. Either that or he has done something before to make you think he would leave you for someone else, but more than likely it's an issue you've been struggling with for awhile and it comes from low self-esteem.
Work on that and that's the only way to get over your jealousy issues.

Answer 4

Don't feel bad my wife still feels that way. We have known each other for 12 years now and 10 of those 12 years we have been married. I have never given her reason to feel that way but she still thinks I will find somebody better. I love her so much to the point that she is my very best friend. There are times when it bothers her more than it does me. I have just come to accept it as a part of her and her feelings. All I can say is don't dwell on them but don't ignore them either. They are your feelings after all.

Answer 5

Jealousy is not a healthy emotion - particularly the way you described it, with words like "terrified" and "scared". Why are you working yourself up over something that may or may not happen? Stay in the moment and enjoy the relationship. It may help for you to remember that you are worthy of being loved - whether its by him, someone else or even yourself. When you realize that you are truly worthy of being loved, you won't fret so.

Answer 6

You know ill give you a little secret i use to be like that myself, and its not so much you being jealous its him that makes you feel that way. If he choises to leave you because of this then u know what hon, u will find someone that you can totaly trust and always be there for you. Ive been there once and my jealousy was true and what happened was that he had no trust in himself. They will go away when you are ready to let them go. Trust him, open your heart to him and let him know what your feelings are.

Answer 7

jealousy is a wasted feeling. It is an emotional response to ones feeling of insecurities and inadequacies. My father use to tell me that if you have to worry about your mate's fidelity then you should not be with them. You have to have more self respect and self confidence. You have to accept the fact that if your relationship ends it does not end your life. Life still goes on. If this relationship ends through no fault of your own..... it was not meant to be.that one that lasts forever..... and that that one still is out there somewhere for you. So don't be in such a hurry to seal your relationship as if it were the very meaning of your life. We don't choose our lifes loves..... The love chooses us.

Answer 8

I have the same problem sometimes. It has a big thing to do with self confidence. The more self confident you are, the less of a problem it is. I'm getting better at liking myself therefore, making the relationship more happy!

Answer 9

build some confidence in yourself and stop thinking about him leaving u. enjoy the experience of being with him, and tell yourself that jealousy would only lead to unhappiness. if you're really scared, one way to make sure u'd be fine if he DOES leave u is to keep your friends close... dont be the type of girl who'd ditch her friends becuz of a guy. so whatever happens, u know u still hav your friends around.

but really, dont stress about it. u'll only ruin the experience. u wanna be happy, u need to take risks. not to mention, if he finds out that u're always jealous, (jealous not in the cute aw-she-loves-me way, but the annoying-why-the-hell-cant she trust me kinda way) your rship is doomed. so yeaa... good luck. jealously only creeps as deep as u allow it to. so relax! have fun!

Answer 10

Just realize that if he wants to be with someone else, he will. Don't fret, pretty girl. If he dumps you that only frees you up to find someone that wants to be with you. It is part of life, I know it isn't easy, but we have to not worry about these things. It will drive you crazy and drive him away.