Is there anything called as true love?

Question

Is love a second name of physical attraction if not than why don't ppl fall in love with ugly looking persons.Why everybody wants to fall in love with some attractive good looking person. Isn't it true that we are trying to fool ourself by calling this total animal instinct for procreation as love??? If there is true love than why there are so many divorces. Please give frank and honest opinion.

Answer 1

Look Phill, there are two takes on love. One is the way the world views love and the other is the way that God views love. I am sure you are knowlageable about the world view. ie. lust, sex, satisfy me first, etc. etc. Now, God's love is the only perfect love and no one can come close to that kind of love. However, since we are stuck here for now and we are not God, the question becomes: What should true love mean to us, as God would have us love each other? First of all, do not confuse lust and admiration with love. They are very different. The root meaning of love is respect. Without respect, there is no love. In other words, love is not just a feeling that is based on one or two things. Love is based on everything. Yes, the bad as well as the good in a person. You see, it isn't how a person deals with the good in another, that's easy, but it how a person deals with the "not so good" in a person. There is where true love comes in. Being able to accept and respect a person as a fellow flawed individual like you and I and everyone else is, now that is true love. Acceptance with compassion, understanding, and wisdom is what creates true love. Being able to forgive someone, no matter what, that was Christ's message to the world. He forgave all kinds of people that had done wicked deeds. Why? Becasue He loves them and He loves us. Now, we can't come close to God's perfect love, but we are called to do as best as we can. Now, all that said, lets get to the current state of divorces and our fixation on appearance. I beleive that much of our current state of affairs is due to mass marketing and advertising. Don't laugh, not just yet. Prior to TV and modern marketing practices, people would meet and find out that they liked each other and shared the same values. The got married becasue it was the right thing to do. Many weren't so corrupted by physical appearance as they were impressed by the person behind the face. They remained married and loyal to each other because it was the right thing to do also. They took vows before God and witnesses. In general, their values were much higher. So now we have today! Mass marketing teaches us, no brain washes us; with the help of cameras, TV, and print media, that we should be flawless in appearance, possess anything that we desire, own the best car, the best house, the best garden hose, etc. etc. We are taught to demand the best because we deserve it! They tell us that nothing else matters as much as ourselfes and satisfying our own desires. Sounds great doesn't it? It doesn't work very well however. Now God teaches us to give and not take. To put others first, not ourselves. Why on Earth would He teach us to do that? It is contrarry to all this media hog wash that we are being sold. He teaches us this becasue He is smarter that us and knows that the only way to find complete satisfaction and the fulfillment of all our own needs, is to think about others first then our needs are met by default. It is automatic! This is especially true in marriage relationships. Think about it, most divorces are casued by one or the other person thinking about themselves more than their mate, and yes, even more than their own children! They beleive the lie, "what about me?" "I deserve better." etc. etc. etc. In closing, I hope I helped you understand all this better. Phill, when you find someone that you respect enough to put first and not yourself and they intern put you before themself, then you have found true love. (p.s. excuse spelling)

Answer 2

Of course there is true love. There are so many divorces because either people are being abused and they get out (as they should), or people give up. So many people are so delusional when it comes to relationships...Saying "it wouldn't be this hard if it was meant to be..." NOT TRUE!! Anything worth having is not going to come to you easily. It's the stuff you work for that really means the most. And "attractive, good looking" people are different for everyone. I think my husband is gorgeous, but that doesn't mean everyone does. It's just a matter of finding someone that you can have conversations with about anything and everything. Because when the looks have faded, and the animal instinct is gone, all you have is good conversation. That's why people always say to marry your best friend. :)

Take care.

Answer 3

People don't just fall in love with "beautiful people". True love is about more than sexual attraction, it's about friendship, trust and loyalty as well. You can be sexually attracted to someone without loving them, but you can't be in love with them if you're not attracted to them. That in my opinion is why there are so many divorces, people just don't know the difference. I believe that friendship above all else is the best base for a good marriage and I've been married for 33 years.

Answer 4

True love does exist but it is usually between parents and their children. Unconditional love is the purest form of true love that I know. People are so superficial these days. If you are good looking or cute every one wants to be your friend. What is that all about. The element of committment is missing and the law has made it way too easy for people to divorce. They marry with no plan figuring that if they do not like it or dealing witht the marriage thing they will just divorce. Kind of like shopping for a husband and trying him on.

Answer 5

First of all, I know lots of ugly people who have found love. Second, people tend to get married too quickly so they don't get a chance to really get to know each other to find out if they're "the one" or not. That's why there's so many divorces. Looks are great but it's not enough for true love.

Answer 6

Well i think that there is true love...deffinatly. Divorces happen when people havent found the one person they are supposed to be with. Just someone they maybe start to feel more lust then love for. Or maybe just get fooled into thinking that they love someone

Answer 7

Love is not just a feeling. It is physical, emotional and intellectual (mind, body and soul). You can love someone intellectually, physically or emotionally. To have all three is ideal. As people mature, they change their attitudes and priorities. Sometimes they change so much that they are no longer compatible and they see divorce as a solution. I believe in love, but it is rare that it lasts a lifetime.

Answer 8

True Love exists. And please don't give up on it. People get divorced for many stupid reasons. Usually because they refuse to try to make things work or because the person they married really isn't their true love. One of my favorite quotes is "It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it. -La Rochefoucauld" Just because few have seen it though doesn't mean it doesn't exist though. . .

Answer 9

When I was young ,I truly believed that when you love someone truly from your heart and that person loves as much as you do.
When I was older to my middle age, I truly believed love is true if you have money , power,attractive plus your ability for sex .
When I'm old ,ugly ,sick and losing your ability as younger,I still believed there's a true love if you are rich only.
I name this " True Love With $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$".

Answer 10

Yes, please believe in that. There are many divorces these days because they haven't met the one person who is right for them. People tend to look for their true love, that's wrong, true love comes when you least expect it..someone is out there for you. Just keep on believing..