My mom is moving to N. Idaho next week. Needless to say, she will be thousands of miles from me. I have my own home and family, but my mom is my very best friend, and I'm not sure how to handle the move. It is for the better, as she will have a much more fulfilling life there. Anyone have a very close relationship with their mother, and been through this before?
2006-06-14 17:10:31 · 10 answers · asked by BlackWidow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thousands of miles away? She is moving to Idaho? Are YOU at least still within the USA? I too had a very close and loving relationship with my Mother. I once moved to Guam of all places, leaving my Mom some 7000 miles away, well it took me 17 hours on a plane from Georgia to Guam, so how ever many miles it was............. I missed my Mother dearly.
But we maintained as close of a relationship as we could considering the distance. First let me say that to not go crazy with the phone calls, that can financailly burden you both. Make phone calls on occassions. But write often and share pictures.
E-mail is an option if your Mother has Internet. It is a wonderful way for staying in touch and picutures can be sent for free of course, and you probally know that.
E- Greetings cards are free as well.
But maintaining contact is easy enough and the distance won't be too bad if you close the gap via letters, cards and pictures.
I did all this and my Mom and I became even closer with the absence.
I also put together a very special diary or journal for just US.
Chose a light weight notebook with no metal spiral or heavy cover. And more notebooks can be added. The mailing cost remains pretty much the same. A samll increase due to weight and size after a few months. But very affordable.
I would write a certain memory or event from life or childhood or a Holiday in the diary or journal and mail it to Mom. She was to keep it for two weeks or longer, then make a note of her own or comment to mine, then mail it back to me and visa-versa. It was only to be used for OUR closeness and not a vent for everyday life.
Some of the best conversations I now remember of her are from that journal. It has now become a keepsake that I share with my brothers and sisters when we get together for Christmas.
It will be an adjustment for you both. But go on with life and make wonderful memories to share with her. And since you said it was the best for HER, then you have to accept the distance.
I wish you both much comfort in your new page in life. Turn each one with LOVE.
Anna M.
2006-06-14 17:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anna M 5 · 13⤊ 5⤋
Look at the bright side she is still alive. With all of the forms of communication there is the both of you can stay in contact with each other. My mother passed away 6 years ago and there still isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about her in some way. The one thing that I miss the most is the sound of her voice. It was always so comforting to hear her speak. Yes I know it will not be the same but it will be better than nothing at all.
2006-06-14 17:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Hand raised) That would be me!!! My mom is my best friend!! We live 3000 miles away from each other!! That is due to my moving though!
It is hard!!!!!!! But if it is going ot make things better for her, than try to be happy for her!! It' hard, I know, but try!
It helps if you get to visit often! There will be times that you will consider moving youself to be closer to her.
I dont know how it will work out for you, but for me it has taught me that I will survive without my mom.
If you need to talk, I'm a pretty good listener!
Just try to say happy! It will be ok!
2006-06-14 17:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter and I were best friends, and she moved away last year. It's been tough. However, I came up with a good idea last week. For an early Christmas present, I am buying them a web cam and program for their computer, so we can "talk" in real time. I can see my grandchildren grow up that way too, and they will be able to interact with me daily.
2006-06-14 20:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by ecology minded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will survive. Everything is a life lesson. This will make you a much stonger person, and you will love and appreciate your Mom that much more, I did!! Time heals all.
2006-06-14 17:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was. But then I got married, and moved. You know it was really messy at first, but we talk on the phone everyday, and she helps me always. Don't worry, you'll get on.
2006-06-14 17:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by bla_bla_bla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too close with my mom but i marry n go to another country is worst when c pass away i was not there that is my luck
2006-06-14 17:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always give her a call on the phone or e-mail everyday.
2006-06-14 17:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,i'm sorry...my mom gets on my nerves sometimes but i still want her close...i think i'd go with her...
2006-06-14 17:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no answer but sorry your mom's moving.good luck sweetie.
2006-06-14 17:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by swat team commander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋