My gf and i have been going out for 2 years now. We get into many fights and i made her cry alot but this takes the cake. My gf and i were at dorney park with a bunch of friends and i got mad about how she was acting so i went up to ask her what was up with her but she only responded i don't know. That just got me more mad and i began to yell at her until she started walking away when i grabbed her hand really tight and hurt her by accident. Her sister and her sister's bf came to see what was going on and when they got in the way, i yelled at them too. When her best friend got in the way i yelled at her too. So i pretty much yelled at everyone and hurt my gf's arm. Now my gf doesn't trust me and thinks that if i get mad again i might even hit her, and she doesn't want to talk to me for over a month and her sister doesn't want me anywhere near my gf. How do i show her that it won't happen again and how do i get her to trust me?
2006-06-14 16:35:31 · 30 answers · asked by justcurious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok kid, i was in your situation before. i was exactly like you but different situation. first off, apologized to everyone you disrespected. then go and buy flowers to her and a nice card for her in the card do not express ur emotions this will hurt ur chances now i do recommend anger management for u believe it works and it will help u in life. first off too u need to improve ur self u broke her trust and now that s hard to restore u may need to prove it to her. i recommend on buying this book "how to get ur lover back" it will teach u everything u need to know
good luck kid
2006-06-14 16:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for her and good for you! You were out of line this time, and you are paying the price for your actions. The fact that you have realized that you did something wrong, and you crossed the line is a step..but you got a whole bunch to start climbing buddy before you prove to your girl this wont happen again. It is only normal for her to believe that the next time would probably be even worse, it is not unknown that many boyfriends/husbands are abusive towards their partners, she is just trying to protect herself..as is her sister.
Think about why you get so angry, think about how you could help those urges to lash out at her for no reason. You need to learn to calm down a little, not get mad at every little thing, you can't demand everything out of everybody just because you get upset or you don't like it. So now you crossed the line, because you didn't take that step back before and realize on the outside people are seeing how stupid you are, how selfish and self-centered you have become and how disrespectful you treat your girlfriend.
Prove to her that you have changed, take it slow and let her know you are turning you act around. If she doesn't take you back, use this as a life lesson on what NOT to do.
2006-06-14 16:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, what u did was not a very smart move. right now ur gf needs time away from you. but time is good. in this time, write her a letter, not call her, not an email or IM, a real letter than u send by mail. explain to her the situation and how u feel and basically whatever you wrote here (you might even want to actually copy the page to show that you care so much that u r willing to ask other people for help). also, start planning on how you are going to make it up to her and slowly but gradually win her back
2006-06-14 16:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by answer4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you sure you have yourself together before she gives you a second chance and you mess that up?Sounds like you know you are wrong and that's a good thing.Why don't you try calling her or text her even if she don't reply you'll know she recieved it.She might not want to talk to you again and if that's the case you also need to prepare yourself for that so if you see her with someone else you wont flip.It really does'nt matter if she moves on or not you still need to get you together for you and the next person that might be in your life.All I can suggest is that you don't press her that might be a turn off or make her even madder.If she wanna talk to you she knows your number.Goodluck!
2006-06-14 16:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf is right to want to distance herself from you. It sounds like you do have some anger issues and she does not want to feel intimidated by you. You made a huge mistake by grabbing her arm because all that did was make her feel that things could get worse. In relationships like that. it often times does get worse. If you really want to try and get her back, you need to work on yourself and figure out why you get so angry to the point of yelling and grabbing on her. I also understand her sister's feeling on this too. I would feel the same way if a guy grabbed my sister's arm. Fix yourself first before trying to fix the relationship.
2006-06-14 16:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you have some soul searching to do. Give it time. You need to get your anger issue cleared up first. Just be friends with her for awhile. That will get her to trust you again. Talk to her instead of yelling at her. Tell her your sorry. Write her and tell her your sorry. DO almost anything to get back in her good wishes and apologize to all those you hurt in the process. IF I were her I would not trust you. You seem like the type who has good intentions but snaps easily. What ever you do to get her back you need to keep doing it to make her stay.
2006-06-14 16:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me ask you a question. Why would you want to be with someone who you fight with all the time (as you said) and brings out the worst in you?
If you still need her back then talk is cheap. You obviously need some more self control and there are classes you can attend. Anger management therapy makes a strong case for wanting to be a better person,for her and more importantly, for yourself.
2006-06-14 16:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by marilynsplaytime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give it some time. Afterwards, let her know that you know how big of a jerk you were and how sorry you are about and that all you can promise is that you'll try your best to do better in the future. Thats all a guy can do thats within reason. Of course, if she isn't willing to give you the benefit of the doubt then I'd say screw her. You won't fall apart and you will find someone else.
2006-06-14 16:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gonna be tough. They always say abuse starts with something small like that, whether those are your intentions opr not, IM sure thats what shes thinking. Im sorry but it almost sounds you guys are better apart. I wa sin a 3 year relationship and we fought all the time, and finally i ended it, NOT wanting to , but i knew i had to because it wasnt healthy! Now if you REALLY want her back....you gotta work hard buddy. Getting trust again is tough. Take things slow, let them go at her pace. Go to her with flowers and a well practised apology speech!!! GOod luck
2006-06-14 16:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you truly love someone, you should bring out the best in one another. It sounds like it is the opposite for the two of you. It may be really hard at first, but distance yourself and see what happens. If you are that angry with other people, I would seriously considering getting help. If not, then as hard as it is, you should find someone who can bring out your good qualities.
2006-06-14 16:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Smiley1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋