My Fiance` is allergic to my kitten, what should I do?

Question

My fiance` is really allergic to my kitten. But i dont want to get rid of her. I bought these wipes to get the dander out of her fur but i dont know how often to use them. Are there any better remedies besides getting rid of her?

Answer 1

Keep her skin clean (bathe her 1x a month) and brush frequently (when the bf isn't there), use the wipes following manufacturers directions (some are no more than 1x a day, some say 1-2x a week). Keep the house well vacuumed, including the sofas. Use a product like Hypo Allergenic Febreeze on rugs & soft areas. Keep her off your bed, keep the bedroom door closed if you have to. If none of this works, you tried to help your fiancee, he should make an effort to help you & try allergy medicine.

Good Luck, the pet vs. Honey problem can be a tough one.

Answer 2

Many times when people report an allergy to cats, they usually have underlaying allergies to other allergens as well such as dust, pollen, etc. When confronted with a cat, the symptoms many time start to kick in.

To counteract the chain of reaction, you would need to vacuum regularly (preferably daily when fiance is not there) with a HEPA filter vacuum, get a air purifier, etc. Many of the suggestions listed here are very good; including limiting access to sleeping areas. However, although many recommended bathing the cat, research has shown that it can make the problem worse by drying out the skin and releasing more dander into the environment.

I would suggest that he also visit an allergy specialist (not his family doctor) to be tested for ALL allergens. If you need counselling for the problem, any good animal welfare agency will be happy to help out with more suggestions and consultation with you and your fiance.

And yes sad, but true.. the love of your animal friend will probably last a lot longer then your fiance. Seventy-five percent of relationships end in separation/divorce within the first 10 years. Whereas the life expectancy of a cat is 15-20 years. And although I don't expect you to dump your man; maybe just letting him know it's a possibility will make him want to do all he can to help out the situation. How you two work out this situation will determine how you will work out other issues in the future.

Furthermore, there are just too many unwanted, abandoned animals in the world to add another one to the list. Please do all you can to work out the problem.

Answer 3

I guess you could get rid of the fiance... or the cat.. but if you wanna love both.. best thing is to either use the wipes keep the place clean, and brush her... not onle does brushing her keep her clean but also keeps hair from going al ove rand dander from going all over... as well as make her happy! Your fiance could take some meds for awhile... also some people have small allergies.. and for short times cant deal w the animal, but after awhile become ammune to the allergies cause him a sniffy nose... I know that from personal experience.. ive been around cats all my life but not until i moved out and went to visit my mom did i have to take allergy medication.. simple antihisimans... like the lil pink pills work just as well as the claritin... and they dont give him the drowsy or drive throat feeling.... good luck!! oh btw.. the wipes work.. but not alone, you have to use the brush as well, a soft tip rubber brush works best... petsmart uses them.. so if you go in there soon adn see a red rubber brush.. ask them where they sell them.. my kitty loves it!!!

Answer 4

I say get rid of the fiance.

But, if you are not willing to do that...they have an all natural product that puts tiny bits of various animal hair into the system and slowly, you build up an immunity to it. It is all natural and in health food stores. I have a box of it downstairs but am too lazy to get it. It worked well for my sister. You take it and over time, your system builds up an immunity to the dander and the problem is solved. And I know first hand, it works. It is inexpensive. If people tried some of these natural remedies, they could save themselves a lot of pain.

If you are interested, contact me and I'll get the name of it. or you can go to the health food store and get it. A good health food store will have it. Again, the product has the hair of cats, dogs, horses, etc in it (it's purified, no worries). The amounts are small enough so the body slowly builds up immunity. Once that happens, the problem is history.

Answer 5

My fiance said my cat was a possible "deal-breaker". I told him that being without a cat was my possible "deal-breaker". Before the wedding, I told him - If you consistently take medication, I'll consistently use the wipes on the cat and brush and bathe her. However, if we both do everything we can do and your health is in dire straits, then I'll find another home for her. (As I hoped to live out my life with this man, not a cat). Five months after the wedding, I came home to find another kitten in our apartment. My husband found the new kitty and we took him into our home. He is now my husband's "little man, best buddy, etc." You should see how much my husband loves his cat. He still doesn't get along with my cat - but he actually tries. The allergies? My husband does not take any medication regularly. He has bouts of allergies from time to time - but we can't blame the cats, as he has allergies to numerous things. Still, he never really complains now that he has his own "little buddy".

Answer 6

I read in Cat Fancy magazine years ago about rinsing a cat with distilled water once a week. Apparently this help with allergies. Either way, try everything you can before "getting rid of" the kitten. I have a friend who is allergic to cats - she has 7 of them. My sister is allergic to cats - she has 4. Humans can build up an immunity to cats they live with. Ask your fiancé if he is willing to try shots. Hopefully this would work until he built up his own immunity.

Good luck.

Answer 7

You can get an air purifier if that doesn't work, then ask him if he can take Zyrtec or any other perscription drugs after seeing the doctor. Also, if that doesn't work, then you may consider allergy shots. They are given so you can build immunity to them ask your doctor for more information. When cats cleanse themselves, the enzymes in their saliva produce dander which is what he is probably allergic to, so wiping your cat from time to time might not cut it.

Answer 8

No, you're stuck on the horns of a dilemma. Honestly, it would be so very wise of you to find another home for your kitten, and learn to accomodate the man you're hopefully going to spend the rest of your life with. He can't do anything about his allergies. You CAN do something about your choice of pets. It's a kitten, right? How attached can you be? Tough love for you--UCSteve

ps: I'm a total Cat-person. Sometimes their dander even gets to me!

Answer 9

It depends on the severity of his allergies.

He can take anti-histamines. See his doctor about what is best.

The wipes should be used thoroughly twice a day. The entire place should be hard surfaces (hard wood, tile, vinyl) and be dust-mopped every day. Leather furniture instead of fabric and wipe down each day. Vacuum the bed regularly, use hypoallergenic linens, and change them every couple days.

If his allergies are severe you'll have to choose between the cat and the man. I know which I'd pick :-)

Answer 10

Make your fiance take an allergy test. I was told the same thing and got rid of my daughter's cat, just to find out later after tests were run that he was not allergic to them he just didn't like them. (Keep the cat lol)