I been seeing this guy for a year now.He is 22 i am 25. we dated a few times and now he wants me to live with him after we are done with college. what should i do? I am not sure if he is serious about me or just wants a room mate.
2006-06-14 15:56:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It should be no either way he does not respect you and what little he has now will soon be all gone
2006-06-14 16:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by sophiepa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying - I am old and old fashioned - and my answer would be no - for several reasons - one you don't sound all that committed to this guy and two if he wants a committed relationship the question is "Will you marry me" Now this answer is based on if he is intending ya'll share a bedroom
If the question is Would you share an apartment as a roommate in separate bedrooms - then that is different and altho it bothers me cuz of my old fashioned nature - I have a son who has had a girl roommate as well as a guy for the last 9 years and they are all just friends and it works out great - it is the only way to survive in New York - where he lives - so a friends sharing expenses I guess would be ok - except that since you all have dated just being roomies may present complications - but then again it may cement the relationship - it is all about how "adult" everyone is willing to be! Good luck and God Bless you
2006-06-14 23:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let see, you've been seeing this guy for a year now, dated a few times and now he wants you to move in with him after you are done with college. Hmm, only dated a few times in a year that you have been seeing him sounds a little peculiar to me. With the little information you have shared about this relationship I would stay, heck no. If you haven't slept with him yet, this is what he's hoping for if you move in. If you're not sure if he's serious about you after seeing him for a year, the answer is definitely no again. Who cares what the reason is he wants you to move in, why would you move in with that kind of history. You're better off finding some female roommates so you can have a life.
2006-06-14 23:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well me and my fiance have been dating since i was 14. we moved in together when i was 16. things worked out great, but you do need time alone which does cause fighting. things are better when you are older, though. sometimes the fighting is a good thing. we now have a little girl and we all three live there it is good to be prepared to ahve somewhere to put a family. you do not want to first move in together right after you have a kid because like i said with the fighting and u dont want to do that in front of a baby. you deff. need to be prepared. but wait until u know if he is serious or not. talk it out.
2006-06-14 23:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if u are into this guy go for it. But dont be afraid to say no. There are other fish in the sea. Just live ur life the way u want to u dont have to live with him. Life is about choices!
2006-06-14 23:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sccrchck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very heavy question ! how we can suggest you for such a question ! But different of few years of age is not a problem ! If you are happy together ! one more things what he wanna to marry with you ? it is must to know before you live with him as a room mate !
2006-06-15 10:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by bhagawan20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!
Don't do it! I made that mistake. He moved in with me cause he was always here anyway. When I figured out I couldn't stand him, it took FOREVER to get him to move out.
We had only dated a little while and it was supposed to be more of a roomate thing. Right... that didn't work out.
Run!
2006-06-14 23:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by MissCan'tBeWrong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I was in your situation, I don't think I could ask him what he meant by that. So I think you should just wait and see. If your last date with him was a while ago, I would think he would just want a roommate. If your last date with him was recent, it could be either.
2006-06-14 23:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by goshimwaycool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just my opinion but i wouldnt do it if you dont even know if he is serious. and you are very young and i think that if you move in with him to be in relationship and not just roomates you should be certain that you want to be with him for along time because otherwise it will most likely end bad
2006-06-14 23:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Natalie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him flat out! If it'll benefit you both financially then say something like "Well if we break up, are we still going to be able to live together?" And feel out the situation.
2006-06-14 23:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by onemoreordinaryday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see how things go if you've only dated a few times id wait a while to move in with him
2006-06-14 23:00:15 · answer #11 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋