have you had someone close to you die? how did you deal with it?

Answer 1

Yup, been happening to me about once a year for the last 7. You don't get over it, you just get used to it. And I didn't deal with it well, it's hard to.


Hey Maximus, the Elysium fields are calling.

Answer 2

Yes, when I was 10, my grannie died of leukemia. We were very close, and I was quite angry at who I thought God was then. I'd prayed so hard! I think it ultimately led me to really look at what I'd been raised to believe. I found rather simplistic beliefs with no foundation. Just what I'd been taught was true. Ever since then, my views of God, and hence death, have changed. I know now that the veil between life and death is thinner than most would expect, and a very distinct part of our life. We fear the unknown, and so it becomes tragic for us, but it is part of our cycle of learning, which, I believe, is the reason we are here. I've been visited by two relatives; one mine, one of my husband's. It was brief, and not visual, but overwhelming. Death to me now means that whoever is close to me no longer has to drive however long to see me, they can be around me now as much as they want! And I welcome their presence. Some souls move on, others stay close to help those still in the physical. It can be a beautiful thing, it just takes changing a few beliefs. :)

Answer 3

Personally, I know that everyone deals with deal differently. People live forever, and death is a resting period before that individual goes to the next life. It's heaven or hell for the next reality as the person will know as life. Death is like turning 7 it is inevitable. You will either turn 7 or die but it is a natural phase in this life journey. Then God will judge everyone. The absence of the person hurts but the joy is they are onto the next life with God thinking in high hopes.

Answer 4

My mother passed on in Sept of 2003. I still miss her, one never stops missing a loved one who's passed on.

On the day she left us, I was Sounds creepy, but hear me out. Her physical condition on Earth was so so sooo sad, so when God took her, she was FREE and not suffering anymore, and will never suffer again. She couldn't walk, couldn't sit up, couldn't write, couldn't eat or drink, was like a rag doll, completely bedridden. Her skin and flesh got hard and dark due to morphea scleroderma. She lost her hair and couldn't open her mouth enough anymore to put in her dentures. She also had diarrhoea for a complete year, every single day, including while she was bedridden. Her skin peeled and itched like crazy, and the scleroderma was very painful at times. She went from 318 lbs to 135 lbs without trying, it was all due to illness.

She accepted her fate gracefully, beautifully. She had such faith in God and prayed all the time. This never stopped, even when she was the sickest. She even had chemo to kill the scleroderma, but it did no good. Eventually it went to her heart and lungs.

So you see, I was relieved for her. It broke my heart to see her living like that.

There's another reason I took it well. I have a lot of faith in God, and death does not frighten me. It's actually birth, birth into the afterlife. That day she didn't die, nobody dies, she was BORN! Everyone is a spiritual being having a physical experience here on Earth, but we are spiritual in nature. She didn't die, her soul lives and always will.

The highest, loftiest existence in this world isn't even a speck of dust in the lowest plane of heaven. I she's fine, she's more alive than we are!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I lost my father at the age of 12, I had two brothers die in there thirties, accidents, and my mom died about 3 years ago, and the only way you can get through this is to look to God, he says he wont put more on us than we can bear, and that is very very true, and I dont think you get over it ever, but time helps also.

Answer 6

My grandmother died two years ago, I was very close to her. I still weeping when I think of her. But I have to let her go. Life has to go on, eventually all of us will die. We do not want others to feel too sad while we are leaving the world, so do the others.

Answer 7

yes, my mother passed away recently. at first i was just in shock so basically i was numb. when i saw her i accepted the fact that she was gone & i let her go. i even told her that, so that her soul can leave in peace. after the 1st day, i just carried on my daily duties & constantly prayed so that the Almighty will keep her in his safe hands & protect & bless her. That offered me some peace knowing she is well & safe forever. A few weeks later i was lonely & wanted badly to talk to her, but then i realised she is not there anymore. I just talking to her in my room alone. If anyone else was around they probably thought i was crazy since i was just talking aloud to the empty air. i was angry, sad & crying, saying why did she leave, how was i going to cope & who do i talk to now? that was the 1st time i really cried since her death & it relieve the heartache i was feeling. I felt better after that. I still miss my mother very very much but life goes on. I think of her everyday & offers prayers to keep her safe in His Hands. Its been six months since that day, but i don't talk about it yet cause it can still make me teary eyed, and i don't like to cry in front of people. i guess we deal with the grief in our own way and i am lucky that i have my friends & rest of my family around.

Answer 8

My best friend in high school developed lymphetic cancer and died from an anaphylactic reaction to the chemotherapy. I guess I dealt with it by remembering the person he was and by making regular donations to the American Cancer Society. I also talked to the other friends we had in common about how I was feeling. I think that helped all of us quite a bit.

Answer 9

unfortunately yes....i have almost evryone in my family die..when i was 7 both my parents died and then i moved to canada with adoptive parents and my adoptive mother died in 200 and now my cousin died 3 years ago....so my only living biological family member is my grandmother on my fathers side....i think because i was that young it was easier to deal with it cause i did have to think about...now i'm REALLY afraid about loosing my grandma to the point that i try not to be so close to her so that it would hurt less.

Answer 10

my mother oatcell lungcancer my step-father protate cancer then heart failure then my father-inlaw heart and mother-inlaw emphysema and heart failure and my best friends in the neighborhood he of heart and she from lung hemorrage and so on in each case i prayed and made my way through it and asked god to help me deal and also i gave food and support to the family around the deadones to help like i woke up on the day of my aunts funeral and made breakfast for 12 people and washed down the kithen walls and then got ready to go .. its tough but you just remember Gods plan isnt always ours and i want to live forever and it isnt probably gonna happen in this place so we pray and work out our own salvation and time heals some of the pain