A very whiny 19 month old, advice?

Question

When I come home from work, instead of her showing me she's happy she backs away from me, asking for attention this way.
If I try and change her shorts, she throws herself on the floor so dramatically and starts to cry. If I give her soemthing to eat that she doesnt want, she cries like theirs no tommorrow. Etc Etc.
I feel the only way she'll let me nurture her or get involved is if I feel sorry for her.
She gets attention and no one has passed away and no big changes. I'm just tired of going thru a big dramatic scene just because I try and give her 5 quick kisses on her ear.
Any advice?

Answer 1

It's crazy, but this is love.

She's able to show you all the frustrations and drama that she's saved up during the day. Nice, huh?

When my daughter did that, I would respond in a very matter-of-fact way, and then go cheerfully about my business, occasionally asking if she wanted to join me or help me. She could have her big dramatic fit, but I wasn't going to stand around and be the audience. That worked OK.

I also found that humor was a good trick. Sometimes I would throw a light blanket of her, saying that I couldn't see girls who whined. And then I would wander around, asking my husband and younger daughter if they'd seen Phoebe? Where was Phoebe? She was just here, but now I couldn't find her. Hmmm, where could she be? Eventually, she'd peek out from under the blanket, giggling, and I'd scoop her up and take her to the kitchen with me to help make dinner, or we'd cuddle and read a story or something.

The point is to empathize with the fact that she had a crazy day, and she's tired and stressed and in need of love, but not to let her stress everyone ELSE out with her melodrama.

Those two techniques were the ones that worked for us.

Answer 2

The 2 people below are stupid. I'm a mother of 3 little boys ages 8, 7 and 4. I am now a stay at home mom. But the point is, I used to work full time, so did my husband. My kids were all different. One of them used to beg me for attention, the other one used to just whine a lot, and my baby used to do exactly what your daughter does. He would try and make me beg for his attention. The best thing to do is to kind of ignore it. Then wait till she settles down, THEN hug her and tell her you love her. Try to (when you are with her) spend as much time as you can loving her, that way she doesn't feel like your job is taking from her attention. Make sure she knows that you're not going to pay attention to her while she's acting that way. I know it's hard. I was a first time mom too one time.

Just remember that being a parent doesn't come with instructions. Everybody learns little by little. It doesn't make you a bad mom. Every mom needs advice once in a while. Feel free to email me if you want to talk.

Take care

Answer 3

I know that it is hard because she is still little but don't give in to her because then she'll realize that when she cries you'll give whatever she wants just to shut her up. It sounds like if there is not much discipline going on but you should start know cause the bigger she is the harder she is going to be to control. Or maybe it is her way of getting your attention if she feels that mommy is working all day and has little time for her, she might be more used to the care of her babysitter.think about it .

Answer 4

You're in a classic power struggle. She whines, you jump. Many of us had to learn that lesson the hard way. Children respond best when they know what to expect. They crave rituals. They must know who is the boss, and this can be done without spanking or screaming. Experts say, on average, it takes three days to create a habit and three days to break a habit. Get the little one into a regular routine and you'll be surprised at the results! Good luck and above all, remain patient!

Answer 5

end the punishments. they don't artwork. All punishment does is turn it right into a them vs. you component. that is what my buddy did even as his daughter went by the whining level a million) He grew to grow to be deaf to whining. each and every time she may whine he may merely shake his head and say "daddy can not hear whining" 2) He may use empathy (you truly really really really really really really favor that ice cream in spite of the undeniable fact that it truly is too on the brink of dinner and that makes you mad) 3) do not say no except there's a competent reason to. some mom and father say no only for the sake of declaring no. one in all my acquaintances did some thing because his six 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous daughter had to and his buddy couldn't understand why he did not merely say no.

Answer 6

19months old kids will do that. She is expressing herself to you. Babies are very creative when it comes to emotional things. Just let her cry it out. Don't give her attention when she is doing throwing herself on the floor. She needs to know that she will not get any attention from you when she acts likes like that.
It will get better. She will eventually get pass this stage, that is until she hits puberty !!

Answer 7

ok the terrible twos start at age 18 months - just ignore the tantrums. if she starts crying, put her in her bed and tell her if she is going to cry she can do it in her bed. my mom watched 3 grandchildren - if they cried she would make them sit on the couch and tell them to let her know when they were done. if she walked thru the room and they cried even louder she would ignore them. they believed that if they sat on the couch she couldn't hear them and soon the crying business stopped.

Answer 8

whoop her *** and show her whos in control. shes testing her limits dont baby her so much. dont let her control u.

Answer 9

shakeit untill it stops = PROBLEM RESOLVED