should I get a nanny to help me take care of my two children.... I do not work?

Question

my husband is away in Afghanstan...... and I am overwhelmed.

Answer 1

you need to become aquainted with a support group with other woman whose husbands are in the service. The nanny will not be much help as far as your mental status goes but might help once in a while to just give you a break. Thank you and God Bless... Hope he comes home safe and soon!!!!!!

Answer 2

Before your husband went away there were 2 people taking care of your children and now this is 1. What you were used to is no more and of course you're feeling overwhelmed. As long as you are there for your children the majority of the time then yes get some help. A nanny, a housekeeper, a family member, whatever works for you is fine. You'll be a better parent.

Answer 3

Rather than a nanny, which would be very expensive, you should look into whether there are any mother's day out programs at churches in your area or think about bringing in a babysitter, perhaps a local teenager who is looking for a summer job, to give you a chance to run errands, buy groceries, go to the gym, get out and relate to other adults. It must be very difficult to be worried about your husband and having to deal alone with the kids 24/7, no matter how much you love them. You would not be asking this question if you were not feeling on the edge of losing it, and you are wise to understand your limitations. Your children need you to remain whole and sane, so do whatever you need to do for yourself to keep yourself that way. I pray that your husband will come home safely to you soon.

Answer 4

I think that you should not get a nanny. Instead, I think you should try to get family and friends to help out occassionally so that you will not be over burdened. Treat yourself every once in a while without the kids. I am speaking from experience because I was once in the military with a husband in Iraq. I had a 1 yr old and one on the way and no family around to help me. I had to do everything on my own. I was frustrated at first, but I picked up a system and stuck with it til this day because when My husband got out of the military, he became a truck driver and is gone most of the time still.

Answer 5

If you don't work, why pay the extra money?
Your children need all the support they can get from a loving mother, especially now, when their fatehr is off fighting and who knoes when he'll return.
As long as you're unemployed and have tnohing better to do, why not keep your mind off the harder things in life by doing a few arts and crafts activities with your kids, or learning a new dish, rather than moping around. Live life to its fullest, whatever the situation!

However, if you're incredibly stressed and need a break- go on ahead. But not for long. Sure, take a short vacation and let yourself relax, untense your muscles, take a bit of me-time. But then get back to work, and get back to your family. Your husband, I'm sure, is counting on you to uphold the household- and your children are countign on you to support them in everything they set their hands to...they all need you: so I suggest to go on out there, and do the best you can do!!!



{{{without hiring a nanny =)}}

Answer 6

You are scared and lonely you probably just need a break, I'm sure you have family or close friends you can trust, Ask if they can take the children for a couple of weeks, Hire a maid to come in and clean everything. Then just take a break. Those who care would be willing to help. I was a single mother of three, working full time for seven years, It can be very overwhelming. after a break you will feel refreshed. and there's nothing wrong with needing some time for yourself.

Answer 7

sounds like you do need a break of some kind. maybe a nanny is your best answer. but hiring a nanny seems so long-term. maybe just find a teenager to help out this summer, a few hours each week. maybe friends and or family would help you if you ask. I do think you need to seek some type of counseling or a support group to help you cope with the stress of having your husband in a war zone. are you religious. if so, please remember to turn to God for support.

God Bless you, your husband, your children, and all military families. I think we often forget the burden carried by the families. Thank you for all you have done...

Answer 8

Yeah yeah yeah! Stop being a little helpless person. You don't have it like that so stop acting like you do!!!
You need to grow up! I bet you're spending money like crazy just cuz he's making more. You need to be smart and save all the extra money he's bringing home.
I agree 100% with Hockey Kisses, And I hope you two didn't get married for the money either.
Kathie is RIGHT ALSO!!!
Your husband had to make some changes also, instead of sleeping in a warm bed next to you he has to sleep in a tent or if he's lucky a bunker. Instead of getting a warm cooked meal he has to eat what they cook. Unless he's lucky to go to a fast food restaurant.
Instead of "getting some" when he wants he has to take a cold shower.
Instead of driving his own car to work he has to ride in hummvees.
Instead of seeing his kids everyday he has to talk to them, and not soon enough or long enough.
Maybe he should get a nanny so she can help him out some.
THINK ABOUT ALL THE THINGS HE HAS TO GIVE UP AND NOT TO MENTION THE LONG HARD HOURS AND THE GRULING CONDITIONS HE IS IN. HE IS WORKING HARDER NOW THAN WHEN HE WAS HERE AND JUST TO MAKE SOME MONEY SO YOU CAN "GET A NANNY"?
YOU HAVE TO OUT OF YOUR MIND!!!!!!!
SHOW SOME RESPECT!!!!! TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN THAT YOU HAD AND TRY TO BE A REAL FAMILY.

If anyone deserves a nanny sweety its NOT you

Answer 9

Ummm, two kids, you are home and not working outside the house... two children, and no husband at home now. I'd say nix on the nanny. Spend your time enjoying your children and not have someone else care for them steadily. If you need time off and away, call a babysitter for a few hours.

Answer 10

i think you might want to think of preschool if they are young because it really helps them to learn a lot and get interaction with children which they need or if they are older get them into activities like dance, sports, theater etc...as for a nanny..i wouldnt get one..maybe a babysitter once in a while but thats what comes with the package of being a mom, it is going to be overwhelming at times..you just have to plan your days out rather than be stuck at home, make sure they take a nap at a certain time, and got to bed at a certain time and stay on top of things..and keep them busy!