I like this guy at church but he is 10 years older than me. I'm 34 and he is 44. Is that to old? I wanted to ask him out, but I have no idea what to say. Any suggestions?
2006-06-14 15:01:04 · 48 answers · asked by doc_is 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. The older us men get, the younger we tend to date. I am very intersted in a 28 year old, so I am in the same boat, but the age difference is only important if you don't have anything in common. You already have something in common with this person, church, religion, so you are off to a good start. Try to sit next to him in the future or close to him and start up a conversation. If you are already on a talking level with him, ask him what other days (if any) he goes to church, than ask him what he does for a living, by than he will get the idea that you are intersted in a date. More than likely he will ask you out if he is interested.
2006-06-14 15:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by pbuandl 2 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Is he old enough to be your dad? At 10 years, I highly doubt it, so no. I have a friend who's 20 and is dating a 37 year old.... now that's too much of a difference. Also, with you not being 17-18 years old (no offense) makes the age gap appear as not a big deal. Go for it. You know if he's interested in you? If you think just the slightest bit that he may be, then definitly. What's the worst that can happen: you ask him to dinner, he says no, you go back to before. Nothing gained, nothing lost. If your looking for a subject, talk about work, maybe kids ( although that can get a bit touchy when it comes to bringing up the past). Well, I hope that helped & Good luck.
2006-06-14 15:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think the guy is too old. Do you know for sure this guy isn't married or has a girlfriend. I mean he is 44 years old. If he never has been married, maybe he doesn't want a girlfriend or wife. If maybe he is divorced or widowed then maybe he does need to meet someone. I would just approach him, start talking about church stuff and then tell him maybe you two could go out to dinner sometime and see what he says...
2006-06-14 15:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number!
You being the beholder, hold all the power to this question!! You two are both legally able to go out. One things for certain, many couples consist of a slightly older man, and a younger woman..that has been pretty common in society for as long as I can remember. What is too old? No one can tell you what that is....how do you feel? IF you go out with this man, are you going to constantly be reminded of his age negatively, or is it not a big deal ? The bottom line is this, you said you want to ask him out. Not me, or anyone else have the ability to make that decision for you. If you like him, give it a shot! Just remember, just because he is older...still means he deserves someone thats not going to resent his age!
Good luck! =)
2006-06-14 15:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not too old for you. You're not a teenager. If you're ok with taking the chance of falling in love and marrying a guy this much older than you then do it, but if you want a guy the same age as you in the end, then I don't think I would get involved.
2006-06-14 15:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah that is only 10 years apart, perfectly fine. My aunt and uncle are 15 years apart, and my counsin is 34 and she is dating a guy around the same age. He will probably be flattered by you noticing him. Don't be pushie tho, men do not like that. I have noticed that they like a women to carry herself well (you know with class). At your next chruch function like a homecoming or something in that nature, casually introduce your self and go from there. Really good luck you already have one thing going for ya he goes to church, so he sounds like a real good guy
2006-06-14 15:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by momtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are legally grown and so is he, it's not too old. If you are interested and know that he is not married or seeing someone, I would probably ask him what does he do in his spare time. Find out his interests and if he mentions the movies or anything like that, then ask him if he would like to go see a movie with you. All he can do is say yes or no, and if he says no then you know that he's not interested and you can then find someone else who can share a common interest. Good luck.
2006-06-14 15:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because it's only a ten year age gap. I've seen people married that have a larger age gap than that. Besides, you're old enough to choose who you really want to be with. If you were 20 and he was 30, then it wouldn't probably work because you would still be growing and maturing. However, both of you are mature enough to have a relationship.
2006-06-14 15:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too old. Ten years isn't really a big deal, especially since you both aren't in your 20's. Just ask him out - you are both adults. Maybe ask him to go out to lunch or dinner - or even just a cup of coffee. See what you both have in common and go from there.
2006-06-14 15:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are at a mature age where you can understand one another. I'm five years younger then my husband... and we get along fine. Ask him out to lunch somewhere or dinner and a movie.
2006-06-14 15:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by firefly37830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋