I am about to go away to college in the fall and I am totally in love with my bf!! the problem is that I live in NC and so does he but I am going to college in CA!! we trieda long distance relationship b4 when he lived in MO it worked out but it put a strain on it!! any advice would be helpful!!
2006-06-14 14:58:27 · 12 answers · asked by Devin S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for you ppl who said that he should move the reason he can is cuz he has a career that requires him to stay in NC! or around that area!
2006-06-14 15:03:17 · update #1
I love him and trust him!
2006-06-14 15:04:42 · update #2
I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 years... He lives in Wales and I live in Pennsylvania USA... thats over 3700 miles. If you really want him and he wants you... and you trust each other and make time for each other it'll happen. It is very hard, and sometimes you might feel like giving up, but don't. If I ever gave up on my boyfriend I'd be totally lost. We're making plans to get married as we speak and if we didn't put up with the hardship of a long distance relationship, we wouldn't end up married and living our lives together. Make time for each other, that's the most important thing you can do, send him letters and pictures, get on the internet and use a webcam, call him. Do whatever it takes... it'll ALL be worth it. Good luck!!
2006-06-14 15:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by * 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you love him and trust him then you have nothing to fear. Ur probably going to be at college for like 2-3 years and during that time you'll get vacation so you can come home and spend that time with him. I'm sure you also have a cell phone and an e-mail address so you guys will still be able to keep in contact. I think it's good to have test like these that determine how strong one's relationship is cause if it lasts then u know that watever obstacles come ur way, u'll be able to overcome them. So just trust that it will work cause it will, after all, this is not the first time u 2 went through a long distance relationship and ur still together so that should tell u something. Talk it through with him and try to find ways to maximize ur time so u 2 can be in contact as often as possible. Depending on how ur courses go, u may have some off days and during that time, he could probably pop over if he's in a position to so u guys can spend quality time together just talking, studying, relaxing and having fun. Long distance relationships always work when communication, trust, honesty and unconditional love not to mention confidence are involved. So go to college do well and come out with first class honors so u can make yourself, family and ur man proud of you. Take Care.
2006-06-14 22:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long distance relationship thing is hard. When you say you are in college, I am assuming you are young (18-22). I just moved to California, and my g/f and I could not make it work. I thought I was in love, and it hurt, but it was for the better. I have really let myself open up to the people I have met and I don't have to be burdened by my conscience every time I go out. Take a break, and if you end up back together in the end, than that is the way it should be. Give yourself time to get over it, and see where you end up. If you need any more advice, or if you want to hear ways to adjust, just email me. It is tough, but it could be for the better. Good luck!
2006-06-14 22:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go your separate ways but do so lovingly knowing that this person was special to you for a part of your life. You or he will just end up cheating and it will not be so special anymore then. Either that or it will be a strained relationship, exactly like you've experienced before. My advice is to say goodbye for now and thank the other person for some good memories... besides, the world is small, just coz you say bye now, doesn't mean you can't say hello later.... it will be goodbye forever if you try to stay together and one of you cheats.
2006-06-14 22:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing that you can do - unless one of you is willing to compromise and either move with you, or you stay with him. Long distance relationships are very hard, but if you are both commited you can do it. But if you are going to be in CA for 4 years in college - thats a long time to have a long distance relationship and only be seeing eachother at holidays.
You need to talk to your bf about the future and if he is going to be able to remain faithful to your relationship. You also might wanna talk about whether either one of you is willing to move to be together. Best of luck!
2006-06-14 22:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is keeping him there if it can be change get him to go with you if he won't well then to bad for him if you want to stick it out and he just can't go with you maybe a break will have to happen until you come home to him and hope things are the way you left them if you two really love each other and it was meant to be you will pick up where you left off
2006-06-14 22:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by ange449 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strain is good for a relationship. It separates the people who can't make it from the people who can. Embrace your challenge and follow your heart.
2006-06-14 22:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Flutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I could say is if it TRULY is LOVE then all should work out .....!!!!!!!??????? I know this myself . ,my girlfriend and i were miles and miles apart .... years have come and gone ........Here we are 16 years later ,..married with three terrific children ..still happily together...and it will put more stress on your relationship ..however ..like the saying goes "what don't kill you , makes you stronger "
2006-06-14 22:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by durtfarmr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how long you will be gone and if you think it will work. also do you truely trust each other and love each other enough to make it work.
2006-06-14 22:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by hateday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EITHER COMMIT TO IT OR LET IT GO..... IF HE LOVES YOU THAT MUCH WHY CAN'T HE MOVE TO CA WITH YOU.....GOOD LUCK
2006-06-14 22:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by rawdawgsgo_hard2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋