After going to his house and having sex with him whenever he wanted it a few times, he's been blowing me off by saying he's sleepy. I have been patient and understanding and let him know I am available. I believe he was honestly worn out and I work 2nd shift. No probs there.
But today, while at work I saw out of the corner of my eye he had his arm around a coworker. He was obviously comforting this needy [b]itch. But then he put his fingers in her hair and gave her a scalp massage!! AT WORK!! IN FRONT OF ME!! (he may not have known that I was within eyesight) We are careful to not let on at work that we have a relationship outside of work and we don't touch eachother. But he was massaging her head and I haven't been able to so much as touch him all week!! We are supposed to have a date tomorrow and go out to dinner and stuff. I don't want to sever the relationship I just don't want him to do it again.
2006-06-14 14:56:54 · 16 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me clarify that we've dated for months with out even kissing before we became serious 2 weeks ago and agreed not to date other people and then started having sex. We had 6 or 7 dates prior to starting sexual relationship.
2006-06-14 15:08:54 · update #1
Well, don't jump to conclusions- what you see is not always the truth, and that happens a lot with couples and then they fight, divorce/break-up, ect... it seems you like him a bit, i don't know about loving him, but you need to ask him nicely. Like "Is that girl a friend?" and don't seem aggressive, men jump to conclusions pretty fast and assume that you are cheating on him- not the position you want to be in after only 2 weeks. Just approach him, and say, hey, whats going on? and see where it goes. If he's honest, perhaps give him a second chance depending on the degree of wrongdoing he did, but if flat-out doesn't want you sexually or in partner company at all, dump him, it'll save you a lot of grief later on.
2006-06-14 15:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's only been two weeks that you've been seeing him. That hardly counts as having very much of a committment. Take the whole thing lightly. Don't let your life revolve around him and what he does and when he wants to see you. Go out with some other guys as well. The trick is to not let on that it bothered you to see him interacting in this seemingly innocent, yet flirtacious way with this other girl. This might come off as you being too possessive and jealous before you've even had a chance to commit yourselves to eachother. At dinner tomorrow, casually mention that you saw him giving this girl a scalp massage, but don't mention it to him like you want answers. Instead, bring it up as if you've already made your own assumptions, and you are fine with it. For example: "You're such a sweet guy _______ (fill in with his name). I really admire how caring you are with everyone around you. Like, the other day when you were giving __________(fill in with needy bitches name) a scalp massage and comforting her when she obviously really needed it.....that was just really sweet of you hun. I'm glad we're such good friends!" If you really want to throw him for a loop, suggest to him that you noticed the two of them together the other day, and you thought to yourself what a nice couple they might make. And then encourage him to ask her out, as if you don't mind sharing him. Believe me, he will cling onto you more than he ever has because he'll be so dumbfounded. Guys don't like girls to have a leash on them. Give him his space. If he decides to give his heart to you and only you, then you'll know it's because he wanted to and not because you steered him in that direction. And don't make yourself so sexually available to him all the time. Say no every once in a while. Make him want it for Pete's sake. You're not his little toy. He's lucky to be with you hun. Remember that!!!
2006-06-14 22:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by CrimsenAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you two ever had a relationship. He wanted sex, he got it, and now he's onto other "things". You didn't say much about your relationship other than that you went over to have sex with him whenever he wanted. If that's what you consitute as a relationship, then I'm afraid you're now suffering the consequences of this type of "relationship". He's a pig. Get rid of him and don't ever look back. Then find someone who wants you for you and not just to have sex with!
2006-06-14 22:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by jeanhack42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are either young or stupid honey...the clue here is sex after only two weeks of dating. he's gotten what he wanted and no you are old news. He's moved on and does not respect nor deserve you. Have respect for yourself and build a friendship and love interest before sex...any guy he is going to stay with you will be because you made him work for you, earn you, deserve you. sex after two weeks says easy and worthless.
2006-06-14 22:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I hate to say-it has nothing to do with you personally...but I think he used you and led you on about wanting a relationship and I think he's messing with that girl to peeve you off. If he felt you two had something-he was aware you were there...what was his motive? I think he created a way to anger you,because its easier than saying....I like to sow my seed all over work, this way he can say you went "all serious " on him If he didnt see you, he knew you'd find out. secret work relationships are never as secret as you think...you told your girl-he told his guy..et cetera
2006-06-14 22:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is not really your boyfriend. may hurt but the fact is you gave him sex whenever he wanted and he took it. have more respect for yourself. ignore him. find a real man and move on!
2006-06-14 22:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by SHE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up the guy's a player. He doesn't care about your feelings as long as you're still willing to be his bed-mate.
2006-06-14 22:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmythekid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are an idiot for going out with this guy to begin with, you are even dumber for screwing him whenever he asks..what kind of guy asks..it just happens. and you are a complete moron for not understanding what to do now, you sever your relationship with the guy.
2006-06-14 22:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...
That's an easy one. Just tell him that if he wants to be with you, then he is not allowed to flirt with anyone else. If he does, then move away.
However, you can't use his sleepiness against him. If he's tired, he's tired.
2006-06-14 22:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by scott m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's moved on to a new conquest. That guy is trouble. Don't ever think he "won't do it again." Just cut your losses and move on.
2006-06-14 22:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋