So I been with this crazy chick for like 1.75 years now, right. Anyway she is crazy and bi polar and I love being with her at certain times (approx. 1/5th the time). The s*** is getting old. Now there is this chick at my job that is fine as fine can get, she is smart, and responsible and my age (the other one is like 5 yrs older). But I know what I should do. Go with the new one. I am a nice guy though. I do care about the crazy one but I cannot stand her like 2/5ths of the time. The thing that sucks is that the new one is engaged to some dude that used to be one of my bosses/coworkers at one point. But he is in jail and she is not too happy bout it. She looks at me this way you know and I just want to get myself a taste of what she has to offer. I want to tell her that I want to pick her fruit and slurp her tasty fruit juice, but SHE IS ENGAGED. And i am shy. Hmmm Help me with wise words of advice.
2006-06-14 14:50:43 · 17 answers · asked by Toehead 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you shoot yourself in the face how are you going to use the word "like" all the time?
2006-06-14 14:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was with this bi polar dude once, im sorry, i know exactly (sorta) what ure going thru. is she on medsor seeking ne other help? maybe if u love her u should talk to her bout getting sum or seeing bout upping her doses or changing to a diff med. ne thing that would help. the best thing for me was to jus get out. he would have never gotten on medication. dont think that you should leave jus cuz there is some fine hunny across the street. you need to be careful with that situation. big daddies coming home from jail to find their fine hunny w/ someone else r not always very nice. but if you do go for her i wouldnt tell her u'd like to slurp her tast fruit juice (jus cuz she's hot doesnt mean it'll be tasty) unless that is all you want to do then get her drunk first, drunk n horny that'll be like the most romantic thing she's ever heard.
good luck w/ life
2006-06-14 14:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by mommaslosthermind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right....
You have two issues here. First of all, if you have no qualms about calling your poor bipolar girlfriend crazy, and you can not stand her 2/5ths of the time, then you have no business being with her. I don't know if she is having therapy for her bipolar issues, or if you just diagnosed her yourself. In any event, you are just making her and you miserable.
As far as the second one... You can hit that sh** if you want, but remember that if she is willing to cheat on her incarcerated fiancee, she will be more than willing to cheat on you. If you are lucky, that only means sexual infidelity. If you are not so lucky, it means that she will be telling the jailbird about you during their next fight. When he becomes an ex-con, he'll be looking for you.
So.... unless you don't mind the idea of being chased around your company parking lot by an ex-boss/ex-con with a baseball bat.... go right ahead.
2006-06-14 14:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by scott m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the crazy chick as you said, I don't think you would ever be completely happy with her because, somehow, I could feel that you want a younger one to love and to hold. Make a graceful exit from her life trying not to hurt her feelings along the process before you set your emotions for the new one.
The younger girl, right now, has reasons to be unhappy because possibly she's deeply hurt with her boyfriend's going to jail. At this time, what she needs more is somebody to support and sympathize with her rather than someone who wants her for sexual reasons.
You have to grow with time for, in maturity, you will find peace and contentment with what you have for the moment. Don't engage your thoughts with things that would not make you a desirable man at the end because women's intuitions, more often than not, are valid and true so they say. No matter what you will say or do to her about your desires right now concerning her will not prove to be helpful for her malady. Just wait for the right moment before you let her know about your feelings. Respect their relationship the same way that you would want others to respect your future serious relationship.
When she has overcome her feeling of emptiness and sadness, when by chance, she let's him go or he lets her go, that's the most appropriate time for you to enter her life without hurting anybody along the way. You need to buy time and patience to wait for the right moment. And when it does come, give it your best shot and you will never go wrong.
2006-06-14 15:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that with the bipolar freak. You need to spend some time on your own now, so that you can figure out who you are and that you aren't crazy. (Bipolars really like to make you question your own motives in life and WILL drive you nuts while they are already bonkers.) Get away. Get yourself relaxed for a while, then get back into dating normal people again. Don't take the bipolar baggage into another relationship because your new date won't believe the stories you have to tell. I don't believe mine half the time and I lived through the horrors of them.
2006-06-14 14:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the surviving spouse of a bipolar that committed suicide my advice is to get out of the relationship while you still have YOUR mind in one piece. I loved my husband dearly and for many years but he was a handful to say the least. If you're not married then there shouldn't be any question about what you should do. It's up to the "new" one anyway, isn't it?
2006-06-14 14:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy Lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh you sound so much like my friend Steve!!! Free yourself of those crazy chains boy!! Make sure you are okay on your own, and deal with the engaged chick after you have lived your life for you!
2006-06-14 14:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by BluStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd prefer that you shoot the SINGER in the head, but the authorities tend to frown on that. Alternatively, I suggest switching channels/stations/tracks if it happens again :-)
2016-03-27 04:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do both opf them a favour and not chase after either of them until you grow up a bit and learn how to be encouraging and unselfish. If you think the bipolar one is driving you crazy, imagine how she feels!!!!
2006-06-14 14:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by canadianrobynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words of wisdom for you would be grow up or you might just get slapped in the face.
2006-06-14 14:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else, neither of these two. one is off limits and the other obviously is not for you, unless the engaged one becomes available, then you have one option, any other girl but her.
2006-06-14 14:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋