should my 16 yr old daughter spend the nite with her boyfriend he 16 too?

Question

he 16 very nice he loves her she loves him if we say no they will still be involve have sex so give me feedbacks

Just great this is not funny listen she just read your answers he just look I said there you go now what I love to teach but you just forget to be the parents I parent I good one sometime it happen I not promoting sex but love down the road thank you all just honesty respect she knows her self so i trust her and talk openly about safe sex but love rules all

She got her high school diploma he be getting his soon so great answers !

She open to me and we talk lol she like wow you people blew her away i sorry but sometime kids do have sex behind our back there party drugs sex so i rather know she mature to handle her own affair I raise her well she loves him he loves her they told me lol she knows sex protection come on people sex is not everything but love rockon I say she told me what in her heart ... I trust her ! AND HAVE A TALKWITH HIM TOO
HE KNOWS WHAT CAN HAPPEN HE SMART INTELLIGENT BOY

God are you crazy my Man home hell I not that stupid great answers your all great I love all your answers.... My daughter knows He knows I hope common sense hit you all I not telling the world .... WHAT HAPPENING HERE IT NONE OF YOUR BUSSINESS NOW I THINK I HIT THE JACKPOT !

LOL THIS IS CRAZY I AGREE BUT YOUR ALL INSANE NOW I INSANE I DID NOT ASK YOUR PERMISSION JUST FEED BACK I SAID LOT NOW IT SNOWBALL IT CRAZY BUT IS IT HAPPENING IN AMERICA SORRY BUT I JUST WISH THE WORLD WOULD STOP AMISH FAMILY A BOY 13 A MAN I THINK JEWISH BOY 13 IS A MAN TOO

all you people blew me away now what a mother to do i told my daughter and her boyfriend i just wish they had more common sense this is too much for me o well love happens i think young love is worth waiting for I told her to be careful so I open to her I wish everyone could talk to thier children help them become wisers and sex safe and use wisdom now I shock so I guess this is not funny

OK I UNDERSTAND IT WRONG OK NOW WHAT I TOLD HER SO LET HOPE SHE RESPECT ME ENOUGH GOD IT HARD TO RAISE OUR CHILDREN GEE A PARENT JOB NEVER ENDS THANK YOU ALL

Answer 1

No. At one time even courting adults had someone with them to help cool the heat of youth. Parents should set parameters......rather or not they think the children will do the right thing. One should be told the right thing to do. Then it is their choice. In the case of children the parents set the rules. like it or not. I believe 18 is the year of the emancipated teenager. The law is another for competent parents to teach their children what is acceptable. They there is the case of people of yesteryear of moving to the states or places where they can legally marry before that age. Right now the answer is no. If spend the night means sleeping in different places (rooms) then ma by. Bundling bags are no longer in use. Do not allow it............if it happens then you take corrective action....if its not too late by then.... Love. Sex. Marriage. Pregnancy. Baby. are all different things and should be treated as such. each one has its own set of challenges and need to be discussed separately. Once each issue is discussed separately ma by they could all be experienced in a natural order. We need to offer the options and consequences to our kids because they do not think of them all in the heat of passion.

Answer 2

You are right, they will have sex whether or not u let her spend the night with him. So that being the case, don't let her. Calmly tell her you understand how she feels about him and he her but she is still to young to be sleeping around. Before anyone can respect her, she must first have respect for herself and her body and wanting to give in to her hormones because she feels she can't help it is no excuse. Sex is something to be treasured and it is also something to be shared between a HUSBAND AND WIFE NOT 2 horny teenagers. What if she sleeps with him then he dumps her the next day or same night after having gotten wat she wants, how would she feel? I think that as her parent, you need to be more firm, don't allow ur daughter to control you or set the rules. Sex will always be there but youth won't so that's why it's very important that you encourage her to put her priorities first, namely, getting a good education, settung goals and reaching them and listen to u cause i'm sure u only want wat's best for her. Boyfriends will come and go but the one only comes along once so unless she's absolutely certain that this guy is someone she intends to marry and spend the rest of her life with, then I suggest you encourage her to cool it cause once you play with fire, you will get burned.

Answer 3

Interesting!! Some parents are just nuts........and some are just too over protective. What i would like to know is.. ARE YOU INSANE? I suppose you've taught her every other thing in life there is to know...and now you're just out of options, so why not, let her at age 16 spend the night with her 16yr old boyfriend. I want you to know that it just takes one wrong turn for a million things to go wrong. Hell, I'm 18 going on 19 and guys are scared to even call my home!!..Now, be a very wise mother and erase that idea and any others resembling it!!!

Answer 4

Your right. Ive always found if you give permission for all the evils in life and let them feel and understand that not everything in life is really that big of a deal. It worked for me when I was growing up. My dad would let us drink beer on the weekend with him so we didn't go get into a car with someone else who was drinking and driving. I'm no longer a drinker but I found out at an early age that it was not as big a deal as everyone made it out to be. Trust me, the reason most get into trouble with stuff like that is because the element of "forbidding" someone makes you want to do it more! I think you are fine in doing what you are doing. Sex is a normal healthy part of life even though most people enjoy disagreeing with me but I'm very liberal in my ideas and think abstinence is not the answer-responsibility is!

Answer 5

I am amazed at the answers you have received. It looks like good sense is still alive and kicking. Nice guy huh? Yeah, they're all nice when a little nookie is right around the corner. And it is free. No commitment, no responsibility. Just sex. Oh man, what a sixteen year old guy wouldn't give to get that! Well welcome to the real world. Heartbreak, baby, herpes (or worse), abortion (or grandma takes care of baby), looking for happiness in all the wrong places, and all at sixteen. Kind of early to let life wallop your daughter in the head. Nice to think you would strive to delay that as much as possible, at least until the is an adult. Right now she's a mere child. Don't expect her to have any sense, but you the parent should. The answer is no.

Answer 6

No 16 year old should be spending the night with her boyfriend. You should talk to your daughter and ask her why she wants to. If you allow her too then you are asking to be a grandparent. If she does it anyway after you tell her not too then just make sure she is protected.

Answer 7

You are going to let two 16 year old hormone hurricanes spend the night in the same room, with the door shut, naked and then expect nothing to happen because he is a nice guy? You did not say how your husband feels. Do you have a husband? or did a nice guy make you pregnant when you were sixteen then leave you. You have got to be the worst mom I have ever heard about.

Answer 8

had someone with them to help cool the heat of youth. Parents should set parameters......rather or not they think the children will do the right thing. One should be told the right thing to do. Then it is their choice. In the case of children the parents set the rules. like it or not. I believe 18 is the year of the emancipated teenager. The law is another for competent parents to teach their children what is acceptable. They there is the case of people of yesteryear of moving to the states or places where they can legally marry before that age. Right now the answer is no. If spend the night means sleeping in different places (rooms) then ma by. Bundling bags are no longer in use. Do not allow it............if it happens then you take corrective action....if its not too late by then.... Love. Sex.

Answer 9

Yes and they should share the same rom and bed naked with the door closed and locked. Of course not! I'm sixteen too, and I already know what I would've done if my mom was as irresponsible as you. You may trust your daughter, but can you trust this boy. Can you trust them under the constant hormones "splurts" teens get? By letting your daughter do that, you are silently opening the door for sex, and then shutting it to give them privacy. When your child is no longer a child, she can do what she wants, but as long as she's under your roof, she shouldn't be staying overnight with any male that's not a relative, because once she's out of your parental jurisdiction, she may go buck wild.

Answer 10

Personally, they are both the legal age, and both 16 years old, so there isnt anythign legally stopping them. Sooner or later they are going to be thinking about sex, and instead of going against it- i would support their decision (if they wished to). I would be honest and open with them and say that you were fine with it, as long as they were careful, ready and took precauctions!

if they love one another and have respect for one another thena sexual relationship is perhaps what they would like. But i guess you wont know until you ask your daughter! Be honest and open :)

Alot of parents i have known (not all) have shyed away frm talking about sex openly-but i personally dont think that sexual education is very good at school-i learnt most of my sexual "education" through friends and rumours at school! Its good to be able to talk to your mum or someone close to you.

I would also give my daughter a talk and tell her of the dangers, and the best form of protection-i.e Condoms, The pill, etc!

I would much rather have told my daughter all she needs to know to be safe, than to lock her up and wait until she does it, uninformed behind my back :)

Hope this helps!

xx

Answer 11

Good God!
Is this like a family thing? What kind of parent would ask millions of people if her daughter should spend the NIGHT with her boyfriend!
He needs to go home and you should talk to your daughter!

JUST SAY NO!!!