Guys can you Please help me!!!?

Question

I feel very stupid for asking but i need help.

the guy i really like right now, knows i really like him and he says he feels the same, but he won't ask me out because he says he's still "feeling this out" while he's feeling this out we have had s* e * x twice and he's always wanting to take me out and omg he always wants to chat.

Ok now my Question's

*Am i being used for sex,AGAIN *sigh* or is he really thinking about asking me out??

*how much longer should i give him to ask me out before just letting him go?

i don't wanna let him go cuz he is amazing and i really like him but i can't keep waiting like this.

thnx so much for your help :)


P.S.
I'm 20 and haven't been dateing for very long. :(

Answer 1

I think you should drop him like a bad habit. It sounds like he's just using you for sex.

Answer 2

Gurl!! don't be surprised if he never asks you out. Coz guys just luv doin' this. They will tell u the bestest of things and make u feel really good and get all the sex. U may feel stupid to just let go at this stage but if he has told u that he likes u and is also enjoying all da sex, then wots his problem. Actually he does'nt have a problem. He is getting what he wants without a commitment. So, put ur foot down and get an answer. Or the best thing keep enjoying the sex without any expectations

Answer 3

hi, honey.. No, I'm not a man.. I think you don't need a man's answer here.. (I'm old too.. 53/F.) It hurts me to read this. I think some of the more 'wonderful guys' in here will give you bad advice on this! You know the answer to this (deep down.) You 'feel used' but are torn because you genuinely like this guy. It hurts like hell (we've all been there.. trust me, I know!) You need to (it's nearly impossible, since it's happened twice) to try and SKIP the sex thing, honey.. See if then he shows some interest in asking you out, o.k.?? You can do it! rooting for ya, my dear.. later (Melancholia)

Answer 4

You may want to ask his wife or girlfriend about him. It seems his 'feeling you out' is feeling you all over.
You are giving of yourself, for nothing in exchange, he's just using you for sex, sorry, but there seems no other explanation.
It seems you have this thought too, or you wouldn't be troubled by his lies and lack of a commitment.
I'm sorry, but you should just count this as a bad experience, and seek out another man, who will take you out and make you his girl.
Without having to 'feel you out'
Follow you instincts, and let him go. Your own gut instinct, is letting you know, that it is the right thing to do.

Answer 5

Yeah, I think you're getting used. People are supposed to get asked out first, and it is possible he's as confused about dating and life as you are, however, you're not dating, but you are sleeping together.

Is the sex good? Can you live with just that? - answer those questions will help you decide.

Answer 6

So sorry, sweety, I think he's using you.. but I don't know the nature of you guy's relationship, so I can't judge... But I say that you stop having s>e>x with him, tell him to make up his mind, and you can be friends in the meantime. You should wait until you have a stronger relationship so that s>e>x can actually mean something deep for you two. Bless You!!

Answer 7

If the guy really liked you, he'd ask you out. Sounds like he's just using you. Drop him...you deserve better.

Answer 8

he's using you for sex, but you already knew that. tell him that those types of things are acts that you reserve for people that you are dating. he'll either climb aboard or you can let him go.

Answer 9

using you come on now use ya head
yall had sex twice and he aint ask u out
yet damn

Answer 10

you are his sex toy. don't wait around for him.