My little sister went out with someone this week for the first time. They talked for sometime prior to going out. He was polite, opened doors for her,but seem uneasy. They went back to her place and hung out for awhile. He didn't try to make any moves on her when he left, no handshake, no hug, no kiss, nothing. She said that they have spoken by IM/email a few times since the meeting, but nothing else has been planned. I don't know what to tell her, I've been married 13 years and have forgotten what it's like to date. My gut feelings say that if he was into her, he would have called and set up another date with her. What do you think?
2006-06-14 13:52:36 · 14 answers · asked by Jennifer R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me as if he is quite shy. she should try to initiate another date and wait for his reaction. We live in the 21st century after all.
2006-06-14 13:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Last spring, I met the most amazing guy. He and I did stuff together at least once a week. But I found out many months later that he didn't like me the same way I liked him. I kissed him and after that, I never saw him alone again. I think that the guys have to be the one to call and set up the dates. When I've been the one to try to intiate anything, I've always had my heart broken.
2006-06-14 20:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on the age too. It hasn't been too long since I was a teenager, and I can attest to the fact that sometimes, guys just aren't ready for a relationship. "He's just not that into you" is a lil more hurtful...I'd just say that he's just not into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship right now. I think the other thing is that...they were friends beforehand. And teenage guys are a little skeptical of dating girls...who were their best friends, a lot of times. She should give it time...and remember not to rush into things. Maybe a more serious relationship would mess up their friendship, and we don't want that happening! :)
2006-06-14 21:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by lilsedalemami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree if he really liked her than he would of set up another date or at least called by now, i could understand him not hugging her or not kissing her, he might of been nervous or was trying 2 show her respect, but 2 not call her is a different story, he might not b interested in her.
2006-06-14 21:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be really shy and nervous. He might be thinking maybe she didn't enjoy herself. Tell her to say she had a good time and would like to go out again, that leaves the door open for him to ask her .
2006-06-14 20:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating has definitely changed, he might be waiting on her.. but I would definitely tell her not to wait on him! If she really is interested, she should call him up and ask him if he wants to get together again. If she's not, then she should just forget it and go about her life.
2006-06-14 20:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no, probably not. this is just a "omg I'm so nervous"thing. he didn't make moves.why? maybe because he doesn't want to screw things up because he was going to fast.hes nervous to call her because hes waiting for her to set up a date. trust me, when i was younger, i always did that. if hes like me, hes probably sitting on the couch staring at the phone thinking"what do i do?"
2006-06-14 20:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sandman23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he wasnt all over her doesnt mean he didnt really like her. Maybe he just wanted to be a gentlemen. She'll be fine if he's not the one.
2006-06-14 20:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm just tell her to ask him what he feels toward her and just aske her to make the move her self maybe the guy is shy and think she dont ike him so you always have to risk it all in a relation ship or thats what i think
2006-06-14 20:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is shy, really shy or gay. Or as you stated, he isn't in to her. He may not fancy her as a girlfriend.
Being uneasy with her, leads me to suspect that he is gay.
2006-06-14 20:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋