i am a cutter but im afaid of telling my perants cause i dont know how they will reply.?

Question

i have been i cutter since 6th grade but i havnt told anyone not even my perants. i stoped cutting in 7th grade but the need to cut came back this year. a few ppl sespect me of being a cuter but i never have the guts to tell them. i had alot of childwood problems and still do since im only 13-14. i have an eating disorder and iv been bolimic. i cut myself so hard somtimes that i might be at risk of commiting suicied. i have tought about it but it seems like i never have the guts to do it even though i have a rough life. does any one know how to help my problem?

Answer 1

I use to do the same thing...It comes in waves for me. Like for a few months straight I'll do it for any reason imaginable. Then, when my arms and legs would be a mess with scabs and scars, I'd stop for a few months to let them clear up. Then I'd start again. I started in the seventh grade...You need to tell your parents so that you can go see a psychiatrist if you aren't seeing one already. How THEY react will NOT be your fault so don't blame yourself. What's the worst that could happen? They get mad or scared or confused and you end up getting the help you need? Just don't think to hard about telling them, just DO it...If you take to long thinking about it, the harder it'll be to do it. Good luck, hun.

Answer 2

First of all, you need to find a good therapist that you can be honest with. You'll probably have to go through your parents for that, because of your age. And be honest with your parents. They'll probably will freak out, mine were very upset when they finally found out about all my problems. Don't expect them to understand why you cut, or to understand your eating disorder. I've had both (anorexia) and I understand, but I've found that it's very hard for people who haven't been there to understand, even if they're well meaning.
Since you said you think sometimes you might be at risk of suicide, you need help right away. I've been where you are, and no matter how bad things are at the moment, suicide is not the answer.
Your therapist will give you advice more specific to your situation, but you need to learn how to deal with your negative feelings. You've found cutting, which is obviously not helpful. I've found that having realistic expectations of myself, and expressing my emotions to people when I'm angry with them or frustrated with them is helpful. It will take time, but you can learn how to do it. Also, journaling has been helpful. Even writing about how much you want to cut is better than actually doing it.
One type of therapy that I found helpful is called Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You should look into that. It's often used to treat borderline personality disorder, but I think it's very helpful in general. It teaches ways of coping with distress, among other things.
I've been exactly where you are, and I'm telling you, it gets better. Don't be discouraged when people don't understand you. You need help, and the sooner you get it, the better.

All the best of luck to you!

Answer 3

First of all...stop. I know it's easier said then done, but you're the one doing it and no one can stop you but you. What's worth hurting yourself over? Heartache? Girl or guy troubles? Family problems? Maybe you can try some place anonymous first, but the best place to go, in my opinion, would be your family. Will they be upset? Of course. But you know what? I'd rather be that kind of upset than, 'oh my God, they're never coming back again' kind of upset, you know? You were put on this earth for you...not me, not your friends, not your dog...you're the only one who can stop it. Look...at some point, you need to realize that waking up is a gift in and of itself. Do days get sh!tty? Sure they do...but you woke up to see it at least.

Look. You're the only who can help yourself the most. Nothing out there is worth taking away one of the most sacred and misunderstood things in the world...life. Someone or something created you, and for a reason. You don't know the answers and neither do I, but to end what someone or something else has created is an ultimate slap in the face. You're young, and I'm not going to blow smoke up your ace and tell you that life is going to get easier...cause it's not. But that's what makes life what it is....teaching yourself to roll with the punches, take the good from the bad and learn to deal with things better the next time they show up.



Don't sweat the petty things...




...and don't pet the sweaty things.



Seriously though...get straight...if for no one else, do it for yourself. Don't let life pass you by, and certainly don't give it the chance to run you over.

Answer 4

if you wanna cut, at least learn how to do it right...

anyway, i used to self-mutilate a longgg time ago starting in sixth grade too but i ended it about a year later. i found new ways of dealing with the stress and hurt. i never told anyone; they just found out and the school sent me to visit a psychiatrist once every week afterwards. i had to take anti-depression pills too.
but cutting doesn't always help. your problems are still there. cutting doesn't resolve them. if you want to stop, do it now and focus your mind into a new hobby or an old hobby. fresh air helps when you're overcome with stress and anxiety.

but a year after i stopped, i cut myself again for a little while but now i can swear to god that it's over. the temptation might still be there if you look at a knife or razor, whatever you cut yourself with, but you have to be strong and will yourself against the temptation. if you truly want to stop, though, the first step is admitting you have this problem and seeking help. but i found out it kind of depends how your parents are like.

Answer 5

If you aren't comfortable speaking with your parents, is there someone you do feel comfortable speaking with? Many teenagers struggle with the same issues you do, and while there's nothing to be ashamed of, you definitely should seek help. If you are concerned your parents will react badly, see if there are any confidential help lines or counselors for any of the above issues you're talking about that can help you. I don't know where you live, but most areas have some sort of confidential help lines that can tell you where to find the help you need. Good luck!

Answer 6

um...
I know a lot about this.
I've been a cutter.
And I've also gotten over it.
It's not something you can do all by yourself.
I didn't tell many people.
But I told one of my friends, and we agreed that whenever I felt the urge to cut, I'd call him and we'd talk about something COMPLETELY random.
And it worked.
The more you resist the urge to cut, the less the urges will come.
But right now you really need to find a trusted friend or adult to talk to about this.

Answer 7

Sweetie,
You are screaming out for some help. I'm sure that things have not been easy for you and being a teenager certainly doesn't make it any easier. It sounds like you want to stop this behaviour which is a very good sign. Now you just have to do it. Obviosly, you want to feel better, not hurt yourself
My friend committed suicide after years of cutting and all that time i had suspected but was never quite sure. I wanted to ask but i figured if she really wanted me to know she would have told me what was going on.
Cutting is a way of using physical pain to overcome your emotional pain. I don't know what your situation is with your parents. I don't know if they've done anything to contribute to your painful past but maybe... like many other teenagers you only feel that you can't trust them, or that they don't love you. In reality, MOST parents try very hard to be the best parents they can be and want to help their children with anything. You need to figure out if you feel comfortable enough to tell them. But you NEED to talk to SOMEBODY. Your freinds may be able to help. BUt try to find an adult that you trust or that you feel comfortable around and tell them. You don't have to start off by telling them you're cutting. Maybe you can just ask them for advice about how to deal with what you are feeling. This may be a good start.
I am NOT a councilor but i really hope this advice helps. I really wouldn't want your cutting to lead to suicide as it did with my friend. Honey, there are ALWAYS people out there who care for you so much more than you can imagine and many of them are willing to help you... but they can't read your mind.
Does your school have a councilor. Maybe you can talk to him/her first. but talk to someone. You don't have to deal with your problems the way you are right now. Bulemia, Cutting, all these are signs, to me, that there are a great deal of emotions that you are trying to control. FIND HELP. You may not be able to find it here.. you need to look around you and see who you can turn to. You hang in there.
Good Luck & all the best.

Answer 8

you really need to go talk to some one. It maybe hard to tell your parents try telling some one that might understand at first. Maybe Find a self help group or talk to a consular at school. It may seem like its the only thing you have. But there are other things like writing or drawing. But the best thing is to talk about it to get it out

Answer 9

You have already admitted part of the problem and that is that you know that you have a problem.. So my advice to you is to not only sit down and tell your parents but insist that they help you to find those that specialize in in helping kids with your type of problems. and if that doesn't work please tell your teacher and ask if him or her if they can help you in over coming your current situation. And no matter if you understand or don't understand what is going on around you, Just never give up on yourself.and never stop trying to get the help that you require OK......

Answer 10

When someone cuts themselves it is because it is something they feel that they have control of. You can control your body, your pain. You need to get help now, a parent, professional, a teacher, 800 help line. It is all about how you feel about yourself. Remember you are special, you are important and many people love and care about you very much. Get the help that you need and love yourself,,,,, please.

Please take care of yourself and get the help that you need, this can develop into much worse things. And remember, you are a good person, you just need some help and guidance.