I got prego by my ex but I had an abortion cause we were too unstable to have it..Do i tell my next BF?.?

Question

or do i keep something like this secret? Or, do I just lie and say that I has miscarriage instead?

Answer 1

I'm gonna have to tell you like my mama, it is none of his damn business. He is not gonna sit down and run the details of his past to you. Nobody's business is everybody's business. The only person who needs to know is the gynecologist or obstetrician.

Don't tell him nothin' about nothin'

Answer 2

The relationship with the next BF might not work out either so I wouldn't say anything. If things start to get serious and he asks just tell him the truth. Your were mature enough to make the right decision in my book, let him prove to you he will be mature enough to deal with it. What is in the past should stay in the past. This really has nothing to do with any BF to come.

Answer 3

If you are considering lying about it, you are probably feeling some unresolved guilt. Before you try dating again, I would get some counseling so you can resolve it within yourself first.If you are feeling ashamed of your choices, you need to find a way to forgive yourself and move on. You made the best choice you could at the time and need to make peace with that. Anybody who loves you will understand. But don't expect someone else's opinion about it the key to making you feel better or worse about yourself--you have to do that. Once you are really at peace with yourself the right person will come to you.

Answer 4

Well, I'm a huge believe in relationships requiring a few things. All successful relationships require trust and honesty. I wouldn't just come out and tell him, but I think it is something that is important for him to know. It's in the past, if he's going to judge you for what happened in the past, then he's not fully accepting you. If he wants you, if he wants the relationship to work, he must accept you. All of you. Your good, your bad, your skeletons as well. It's all part of you, and if he can't accept it, then he can't fully accept you. Now, you have to ask yourself if that's the type of man you want. I say tell him, just not right away. If he says not to worry about it, that it's the past, before he met you, that he accepts you, loves you, mistakes, skeletons, beauty and all, then he's for real. If not, then he didn't accept you, just part of you, and that's just playing the field, as far as I'm concerned. Good luck, regardless of what you choose.

Answer 5

No, whatever you do don't tell him......take it to your grave. Because some men can't handle truth like they will look at your different and might start thinking you do the same thing to their kid. Some things you just do not share with a man. You don't have to tell him anything about being pregnant, since you terminated it. DON'T TELL HIM? You don't have to lie, just don't mention it and if it comes up just say nothing.

Answer 6

Gotta love the "don't tell him" advice. Whatever you do, never hide your past. It WILL catch up to you and you'll have to atone for years of living a lie. That aside!

Don't tell him right away. Date whomever you please, and for God's sake, don't get yourself knocked up again. When you start getting SERIOUS with the right guy, it would be a betrayal if you didn't tell him. Tell him when you discuss your exes, past relationships, etc. If he can't accept it, he isn't the guy for you. If he IS the guy for you, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.

Answer 7

It's NO ONES business what happened. If and when you get into a relationship and it grows into something that is going to last then you should talk to him about it but NOT every other guy you go out with.

Answer 8

well unless the subject come up i wouldn't until you get very serious with a guy honesty is the best policy!! don't start out a new thing with lies!!!

Answer 9

I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM, BECAUSE IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU, HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOUR PAST, AND THE PAST IS THE PAST... NOT EVEN GOD CAN CHANGED WHAT HAD HAPPENED, AND WE ARE NOT PERFECT AND WE ALL DO MISTAKES. JUST HAVE PATIENT, AND TELL HIM THAT YOU NEED TO TELL HIM SOMETHING FROM THE PAST, AND TELL HIM TO NOT TO GET MAD, BECAUSE AT LEAST YOU ARE TRYING TO BE HONEST WITH HIM... AND THAT WE ALL DO MISTAKES...
GOOD LUCK!!!
BE BRAVE!

Answer 10

wow, thats a tough one, i mean i guess just wait until you know that this guy is gonna stick around..... dont just tell someone you go out with once or twice....


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