When you've been with someone for about 4 years and the relationship seems perfect, suddenly you break up. He told me that he doesnt want a relationship right now and its too much stress. However, i get text messages and sad looks in his face whenever i see him. What's up with that. Do you think he'll call me once he realizes what hes lost. Or is this just a case of wanting to be out with the boys type of thing? help- im heartbroken. Not only that- we made plans together and this is so sudden. You're probably thinking about why i posted this into the pregnancy board, but theres all types of women who've been through stuff there- please help me. What should i do? We were engaged?
2006-06-14 11:05:00 · 7 answers · asked by Jessica S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh, I'm sorry. I've been through this. I was with the same guy for 8 years when all of a sudden he was done with me. I found out he was cheating on me with someone I used to be friends with. I didn't think I would make it through everything, but I did. And you will too. It's hard, but you have to start trying to move on. Don't try to read anything into his sad looks and text messages. My ex would try to act all sad too, but I didn't buy into his act. Although I lost 15 pounds the first week after we broke up from the stress, I eventually became stronger and more independant. You can too. I believe things happen for a reason. As it turns out, my ex ended up getting the girl he was cheating on me with pregnant, and has recently had a baby with another girl, this one much younger than him, and he is a dead-beat dad, not wanting to pay child support for either kid and not even bothering to see the kids either. It makes me thankful that I didn't end up pregnant by him! I know it's so so hard right now, but I promise, it will get easier.
2006-06-14 11:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...this happened to me too...Basically what happened is everything was fine...we were living together, making plans and blah blah blah...and then all of a sudden he started being a d1ck all the time (this is over the course of like two weeks) and then one day he tells me "I need space" ...well what he was actually saying is..."I need to go have sex with this girl I've had a crush on for the last ten years and she's finally giving me the time of day" ...So we were off for about 4 months until he realized Darci was a whore and an idiot...and he spent the next 6 months begging me to come back ...
After I did...things were picture perfect for six more months...we went to hawaii, he proposed, I said yes, a year later we were married and we've been together ever since (four years next month)...now we're expecting our first child.
Long story short...Do nothing, he's either freaking out cause of the whole marraige thing and he'll snap out of it, or he's got some wild oats to sew or something...bottom line...if it's meant to happen...it will and in the end...it will just make your relationship stronger
The BEST thing you can do is remember that you didn't do anything wrong and you need to just get through day by day and DON"T wait for him, don't hang on his everyword, DONT chase him...let him be the one that wakes up and come running back.
2006-06-14 18:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. I was married, 6 months pregnant and one day he left!
I went through all the emotions: I acted mad at first, then I was sickeningly sweet and bent over backwards to do things for him, then I even begged him to come back! (not proud of that one)
I finally realized that none of that would make any difference to him. He just wanted something different! You know "the grass is always greener on the other side" At least until you get there.
Believe it or not, when I stopped try so hard and started to go on with my life, independently single and with my head held high, that's when I got his attention. In the end, we decided to stay apart, but if he really loves you, he will come to his senses. Especially once he sees you may actually be able to survive without him! You might have to fake it at first, but eventually you will BELIEVE it. If by then you have gotten back together great, if not , inside you will know that you can survive on your own!!
2006-06-14 20:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyes091473 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably with your for four years because it was consistent and predictable. I don't know how old he is but sometimes guys and gals wake up one day and realize that the person they are with is not the person they really want to be with. That being said, if he's still text messaging you and such he is being unfair to you. He can't have his cake and eat it, too. I say kick the guy to the curb regardless of how you feel. Spend some time with yourself, write your feelings down and don't offer him anything. You can't be friends with someone who breaks your heart. Stay away from him! You'll be glad you did. Trust me, I'm a guy! :-)
2006-06-14 18:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by leonard_leroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found someone else but when he see's you he remembers all the good times and probably is asking himself if he did the right thing. You will be fine over time. Get out and have fun :)
2006-06-14 18:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by MAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just try to go out and dont be sad he going to be back in ur life just try not to be sad that's just not going to help u he going to realizes what a good person he left
2006-06-14 19:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by rocha510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe i know what you're going thru, and it does hurt. i am separated from my husband right now and after i got over the hurt and pain i concentrated on me. meaning getting out talking with family and friends. guys will give mixed signals, why i don't know. it's up to us to be strong, remember we girls mature faster than boys.
keep your head up gurl*****
2006-06-14 18:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋