Am a young man who thinks I should enjoy life before settlin into any commitment.But lately I have found the perfect girl I have always dreamed about.The problem is she is looking for some one who is willin to live with her to the end,although I would love to be with her I can not promise to be with her till the end and she need confermation.I don't what to do???I can just go out with her and if things don't work out we could break up no problem with me but I know she would be hurt and I care too much for her to do that!!!!!!!so........................wat ya sayin????
2006-06-14 10:28:32 · 30 answers · asked by Sun A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess wait until you are ready for a commitment, enjoy life, and then go back to the girl. Make yourself happy before you can make others happy! I know that sounds selfish, but think about it, if you're not happy how can you make someone else you love happy?
2006-06-14 10:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by laurennn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that you have found the perfect girl?
If she is prefect as you say you would be looking to live with her to the end!
Thing is,no one can promise to be with someone to the end and I think that she is asking too much to ask that considering she may be the one to change her mind many years down the line.Personally I think she is asking for reasurance that you arent going to dump on her and you will treat her right in the relationship.If it doesnt work out (be it from her side or yours) at least the relationship has run its road and you will both have got the best out of it together.....Go for it and good luck
2006-06-24 13:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by pipparita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one knows what the future holds. In theory saying that you are not going to settle down until you have lived a little is great. But in reality, when the right person comes along it can put all our plans & ideas out of whack.
The questions you need to ask yourself are these... "If I pass up on this opportunity with this girl, will someone else just as great ever come along again?" "Is it worth losing her just so that I can live the single life a little longer?"
2006-06-14 17:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her all that. And dont make false promises. She should be allowed to change her mind about you, instead of risking her time and heart.
Theres nothing worse than being a woman who's in love with someone who's not in love in the same way with you. Ive been there and done that many times.
Although i also met my husband when he was 25 and he INSISTED he was never going to get married and that he was faaar too young for such a thing.... but he married me less than a year later. People change their minds, but its NOT WORTH it for her to risk it, and not fair for you to give her any false hope by sticking around just because you "like" her.
2006-06-14 17:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate...come clean. Tell her that you really like her and that you think she's perfect for you but you simply can't commit to forever. I'm a bloke too and sure as hell have had one of those situations. Just sit down and have a conversation with her about this. All I can tell you is that it's important.
After all, it's just a plain and simple truth, isn't it? Should be a good start if you two really belong together, don't you think?
2006-06-27 14:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by binga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her, don't go out with her. If she wants a life commitment and you don't, there's no point to dating. I doubt she wants you to commit to forever at this moment though. If you could see yourself committing in the future (like a couple years or less) than go for it. "The perfect girl" doesn't often come around. If not, don't waste her time. It will only hurt her.
2006-06-14 17:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think at the moment that you've got a future what's wrong with just that?
Women can get a bit neurotic about these things. I know I do. But if you're not entirely honest, erring on the side of telling her what she wants to hear, it'll be better.
What? I'm just telling it like it is.
2006-06-14 17:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Moggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just really sit down and talk to her about it, but if you really think she is the ideal girl, then take a chance. and see how things work out; as long as she can deal with taking a chance.... but really like is all about taking chances so just see how things go and don't rush into anything your not ready for, cuz then is when all the drama starts and the both of you will get hurt form it.
2006-06-14 17:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by xox Kate xox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how worried you are about hurting her if you can't live up to her expectations...show her this website to show how you feel. Just be honest....if you feel it is too soon to settle down, she may understand and be willing to wait for you until it feels right, and just date for the next six months, but she needs to be the one to make the decision. Don't make a heavy commitment if you don't think it's right for you - as you may come to resent her for tying you down in time to come.
2006-06-27 10:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want different things at the start then it might be tricky but if what you both want in the end is the same then theres the chance it could work and u might really want to commit, i cant understand it if shes perfect for u why let the chance slip away??
2006-06-23 10:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋