My 18yo son is beating me up and calling me words:'(?

Question

I lost my husband 5 years ago. What should I do???

Answer 1

Report him to the police. I KNOW that sounds terrible, but it is for your own good and also for his own good. Chances are if he's hurting you, then he will hurt his wife when he gets married one day. He will probably also hurt his kids. The best way to help him is to get help for him now.

Answer 2

You haven't given much information. However the question is why is he behaving like this? One can not imagine such behavior form a son towards his mother. Did you not give him love and attention he needed? Is his hatred due to the reasons associated with you or due to some other frustrations? In my humble opinion you need to think hard about the real root cause of this problem before taking any drastic action. Probably you should also involve some psychologist in solving this issue.

Only you know it better.

Answer 3

You are the mother and "pay rent (mortgage) to be the boss in the house". By law , believe he is able to be classified as an adult. He must realize that there are rules and regulations where he goes. You must take a stand. If you have asked other relatives and professionals to take to him about this behavior, then you should talk to him about getting his own place. Though he may be reacting to the demise of the other parent, he needs to realize that you are the remaining parent, and he is indeed the child. I assume that you have care for this child (financially and physically). Maybe you should try to get a recruiter to come and talk to him concerning a tour and how he could service his country. We do have to let them go in order to grow up. When he calls you names, keep your composure, speak firmly, and let him know that you do not appreciate him calling you names. Try not to yell but speak with authority

Answer 4

I am so very sorry. I know this is tormenting you. Sweetheart, you have to put a stop to this - NOW! You owe your son unconditional love, but he owes you undying respect for bringing him into this world and being a woman. Unless she picks up a weapon, no man has a right to hit a woman, especially the one who gave birth to him. I would speak to him when he's calm and tell him you will no longer accept this behavior. If you fear he will blow his top and hurt you, DON'T DO THIS ALONE!!!!! If, after this conversation, he raises a hand to you, call the police and file for a protective order! THIS IS NOT A JOKE! Your son is going to hurt you, seriously if not fatally. This boy needs counseling, possibly court ordered. Don't take this lightly. I know this hurts you a lot, but you're helping him as well as yourself. PLEASE take a stand. He needs your help. God bless you. I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 5

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Regardless of the situation, no one should endure physical or verbal abuse. Please seek help by contacting a local domestic violence service in your town. The police department will have counselors that can advise you. Since this sounds like a dangerous environment, the first thing you must do is protect yourself by either kicking him out (with the help of the police) or leaving to a safe place (shelter, neighbor's home, etc). I'd not hesitate to have him arrested for assault.

Answer 6

The next time he starts his mouth or raises a hand to you, call 911 and have him put out. Don't try to do it yourself. He's stronger than you and he's out to hurt you. Do you have a male relative in your family who will help you get him out of your house? This is a dangerous situation. His hormones are out of control and no telling what else he's doing (drugs?). A man is handy to be around when boys get this age. Go see a county social worker or file charges on him. Do not back down, that's what he's expecting you do to. Do not take his crap!! Do you understand??? I'm not telling you to harm yourself by making him angry, but I'm telling you tough love will do him a big service. Or.....you can let it go and get use to visiting him in jail. What's it gonna be, Mama???

Answer 7

Run very fast and file charges on him, while you are there get a resraining order to prevent him from coming around your house...then come back home and put his *** out with all of the thing that "He" bought...!!! Then get your locks changed and get some of that mace spray in case he wants to cause some more problems...I wouldn't put up with it, I would have hit him over the head with a baseball bat when he first started the stuff and we would be the best of friends by now..

Answer 8

Im sorry about your husband, but noone deserves to be beat . I would report him the next time or let the rest of your relatives know. Maybe they can help or talk 2 him. If all else fails put him out of your house. good luck

Answer 9

Call the police and have him arrested. There is no excuse for hitting anyone, yet alone your mother. You need to make him realize that his actions have consequences. You should also kick him out and get a restraining order against him.

Answer 10

GET AWAY FROM HIM ASAP!!!!!!! Get help for yourself b4 you try to help him! Do whatever you need to. Call the police. Call anyone you know who will help you. Go stay with a friend or other safe relative or get your son out of your house. NO ONE DESERVES ABUSE!!!!!! Know that there are people praying for you who don't even know you. God will keep you safe, but you must try to make the right decisions. You must get out of an abusive relationship.

Answer 11

Call the police, do not tell your son that you did or he will have a bigger fit. Get them to escort him out and if needed file a restraining order. He is your son but you have to take action. He maybe angry about the death of his father but taking his anger out on you is no way to resolve it.