2006-06-14 10:24:36 · 28 answers · asked by d.pow 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would invite them to let them know that while they didn't support my marriage, I still loved them and want them to be a part of my life. I'm not one to burn bridges with family easily.
If they are really opposed to my marriage, then they would RSVP that they aren't coming.
2006-06-14 10:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister should not have to share her special day with anyone she does not want to see. Their disapproval is a good enough reason to exclude them.
On the other hand, (and there will always be another hand) family peace may be maintained by issuing an invitation anyway. If they disapprove, they likely will not come. Her invitation will show that the feud is not of her making.
If your sister is afraid that they will make a fuss at the wedding or reception, that is another good excuse for not inviting them. Again, in support of family peace, she should discuss her decision with the family members who do support your sisters feelings.
2006-06-14 17:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the high road. Even though they may not support her getting married, they should still be invited to the wedding. It may seem like a big deal now, but it may be an even bigger deal in terms of family relations later on. If they don't agree with her decision to marry, they may not attend the wedding. But at least they cannot say later on that they were snubbed.
2006-06-14 17:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because it's insulting and it will seem like she's either trying to force their hand or hit them up for gifts.
She should only invite the people who'd be willing to be present at the wedding and send out nice, polite wedding announcement cards to the other relatives to let them know that she's gotten married. That way she hasn't completely snubbed her family, but she hasn't given them reason to wreak havoc on her special day.
2006-06-14 17:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by prussianbluelady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - as long as they won't make a scene and they are on good terms. It will say 'I respect your opinion but would still like you to be a part of my wedding'. And she should seriously think about why so many people don't support the wedding - it could be a serious warning sign.
2006-06-14 17:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I understand her reluctance, I'm afraid that the answer is 'yes'. The family members who tight now do not support her getting married will still be family members after the wedding... and the worst thing she can do right now for herself and new husband, and her future children, is to ensure ongoing family strife. Give them the chance to come around, and it will be better for the whole extended family... and especially for her children.
2006-06-14 17:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by The Padre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is something two people do with and for one another, not to please other people. Your Sister should do what pleases her and her Fiance, and not feel bad for anyone who will have a temper tantrum about it.
My daughter got married without my knowledge, and the only thing that mattered to me was that I wanted her to be happy on that special day, and all the days after that.
2006-06-21 16:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by None 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she should invite them. She has to me the Mature one in the situation.
I say this with hesitation though. Without knowing why they do not support her marriage. But as long as it is not putting them before her husband then yes invite them.
I suggest her talking with the relatives as well to make sure that there is not a misunderstanding.
2006-06-14 17:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mike B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ultimately your sister's desicion, but I think she could invite them because 1) they are family 2) they would have a chance to see that they might be wrong.
No matter what, hope you all enjoy the wedding!
2006-06-14 17:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by dugu$ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't HAVE too but family is family and they should at least be invited so that way they are the one's who can decided if they want to come or not if they do coem isn't that a way of supporting and remember if she doesn't invite them that could cause more hostility in the future
2006-06-14 17:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It would make her the bigger person, willing to forgive and forget on her special day. It's then up to them to decline the invitation if they feel they need to, but your sister can always feel that she did everything she could to preserve family relationships. It's the right thing to do.
2006-06-15 03:26:59 · answer #11 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋