He asked me to marry him 2 years ago and he bought me a ring 1 year later, but then he went and asked me for it back so he could pawn it to pay a bill. He saved over $20,000 in the first 2 years we were going out, but he used it all to buy him a Lincoln LS and he gave me a cheap ring. He kept promissing to buy me a nice one, but then he took that one back from me. After 2 years should I keep believing him that he still wants to marry me or should I just give up?
2006-06-14 09:56:39 · 14 answers · asked by simca w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get rid of him he is only asking you to marry him so that you will stay around. He is afraid of losing you but does not really want to marry you. Get rid of him and move on there is a man out there that will love you more than you have ever dreamed and guess what he will not think twice when it comes to marrying you.
2006-06-14 10:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by Layla 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that way, then you put it this way, your actual marriage would have broke down in 5 and 1/2 years or maybe less. I understand that you may have looked forward to such a great thing such as marriage but the fact of the matter is this.. you should have looked at this 5 year togetherness as a model for marriage. Treat him as your husband even if he is legally not. Use your past relationship as a model ( I will assume nothing that has happened in your past). You have fallen out of love because you want to experience a single day in your life but much more the concept that this day will bring. Do not break this man's heart. You don't know what he is thinking. He might prepose to you next week. I bet right now you are his everything. Give him a chance like he is giving you. If you have been together that long with him and he lives with you and your child/children....think about who else would do that for 5 years. It obviously means something. I understand you viewpoint but good things are not rushed. By all means this is advice to answer your question, I am sorry if I intruded on your personal space. But that's just me. Consider not only yourself but all the others in life as well.
2016-03-27 03:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, if you're even thinking about giving up, then you're falling out of love. I know, you're tired of all his stories about the ring. He gave you a ring and took it back? To buy a car? For himself? Bad move on his part. What's he going to do when you 2 are married? Ask for the wedding ring back to pay a bill? Sell his ring.
He took it back. So, that means you're not engaged anymore. He must do it all over again. Will you say yes this time? I think it's time for the ultimatum. "Marry you or you walk out." Simple as that. If you say yes, the other ring better be a whole hell of a lot better. $$$
What would I do in your case?...... Time to wake up. Ask myself is this what I'm to expect after we get married? Better weigh the options and make your decision.
Good luck sweets.
2006-06-14 10:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes down to a ring...hello...you answered your own question. If he won't raise up the money, how he surposed to support you? Are you earning money and putting it in YOUR own account in case you need it, ie. not giving it to him no matter how worthy his cause is it's your money.
If you love him and he loves you, the ring, money, petty things shouldn't be the difference between yes or no. If it is, then you should seriously reconsider why you're in this relationship and look at all the facets in your relationship first before even thinking about giving him and answer. If you say no, he may run, if you say yes, I dunno. If he can't follow through on his promises and complete them, then I'm sorry honey, but I think you're with the wrong guy. BUT then again, you're the only one that knows that. Listen to your mom, if she's around. Or a good friend, but not everyone. The one you should learn to listen to is yourself. If you can't do that, you'll never trust your own opinions. Get going girl.
Keep posting your progress. You may be helping someone who doesn't have the guts to post this stuff, or anything!!!!
Cheers.
2006-06-14 10:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by Light W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl let me tell you what i think, i think if a car is more inportant than you, you need to really sit down and think about things. i mean i have been in a relationship for only one and a hlf years with a son involved and he still hasn't proposed to me yet. i am a little weary about that. but for you to have been together longer than that and he already proposed and you two still arn't married, i would be and am a littl shcocked. if you love him and thinks he still loves you after the last few years, maybe you should have a talk with him, and remember though it is not how much the ring costs him but how much love is behind the ring!!! ask him if you two can set a date that right there is the start to it all. ask to start making plans and remember this was just the engagement ring make the ring you really care about the wedding ring!!! if you still want to chat email me anytime, i have a few quetions i would liked answer to!!! wetherill_33@yahoo.com
2006-06-14 10:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by wetherill_33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the bigest reasons couples fight is about money. It doesn;t sound like he is very stable financially. And he definately does not know where his priorities are if he is getting a car over your ring. Better to get out now before you get married and it gets worse.
2006-06-14 10:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by ohnoslen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure its fine for people to say 'dump him' but its just not that easy- this is love and your heart we're talking about. I would just ask him to sit down and talk about things. Also you need to look ahead to your future and think of what its going to like married to him. When you look into the future do you like the life you see? If not, make your decision about him.
2006-06-14 10:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by DerG4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him why it is important to you. As a guy I think it's stupid to spend that kind of money on a ring. But if you tell him how it shows how much he loves you and is a status symbol to you just like his car is a status symbol to him maybe he'll get it.
2006-06-14 10:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by -Uriah- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is important to you? Getting married of having a ring? Sounds like you should think about saving your own money and buy yourself the ring because that's what's important to you...not him or getting married.
2006-06-14 10:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kookala 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he won't save up he is not worth it if he wants u 2 marry him he has 2 save 4 a ring.that ring shows that he is comided 2 u!
2006-06-14 10:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋