when my brother died he was cremated and i collected the ashes do i have the right to keep them?

Question

there are other members of the family who want to take the ashes somewhere else, but i want to keep them with me?

Answer 1

what would your brother want?

Answer 2

I'm not sure you have the legal right to keep the ashes, especially if your parents are still living, unless your brother had a will in which his wishes were expressed.

Talk to your family and see if there's some way you could come to a mutual agreement. There have been some good suggestions so far.

Answer 3

According to Hindu Rituals the ashes of the dead must be flown in the waters of a Holy River like the Ganges. The ashes if kept does not give peace to the soul of the dead. If u want u may keep it.

Answer 4

i'd say the Stretford end penalty area at previous Trafford yet football grounds no longer enable the scattering of ashes on the playing floor. i think both merely outside the floor or around the pubs in Salford Quays. all people fancy a face complete of Chris on a windy Saturday in about 60 years into the destiny?

Answer 5

when my son died his brother wanted to keep his ashes as well
i wanted them scattered on hid gran and grandads grave.in the end i did both..i bought the son a hollow pentant that he could wear and filled it with nigels ashes.. that way a part of nigel was always with him..the rest of the ashes were scattered on his grand parents grave..please remember that it is not only you who has lost some one..but other family members as well..

Answer 6

Ask yourself, who decides if you have the right to keep them? If they were given to you then they belong to you and you are the rightful keeper of the ashes. If they were not given to you then you are not the rightful keeper. He was kin to you, so that alone should be a major factor in you being the rightful keeper. So if anyone who is not kin to him wants the ashes, they are wrong, they should go to kin first, others second.

Answer 7

Legally, they probably are the property of his next of kin, whoever that is. If he has no kids and wasn't married, it's probably your parents. If they're no longer alive, it's whoever he designated, if anyone. The best option is probably to talk to the rest of your family and decide as a family what to do with the ashes.

Answer 8

FIRST, WHAT DID YOUR BROTHER WANT? USUALLY WHEN SOMEONE WANTS TO BE CREMATED, THEY STATE WHERE THEY WANT THEIR ASHES TO GO? IF YOUR BRO DID THAT, THEN YOU MUST FOLLOW HIS WISHES . iF HE DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HIS ASHES, DO WITH THEM AS YOU SEE FIT. IF YOU DO KEEP THEM UNDERSTAND THAT THEY ARE NOT YOU BROTHER, ONLY ASHES. DID HE HAVE A HOBBY, OR A FAVORITE SPORT(FOR EXAMPLE, IF HE LIKED CAR RACES YOU COULD SPREAD THEM AT A TRACK) OR MAYBE A FAVORITE PLACE? THEY COULD ALSO BE BURIED WITH SOMEONE WHEN THEY DIE, SAY YOU OR MAYBE A CHILD IF HE HAD ONE, ETC. HOPE I HELPED YOU. GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

First off, I am terribly sorry for your loss.

Ashes don't come in one big solid chunk, you know. Peoples ashes are divided up every day. Some people are arranging to have theirs put into little lockets to have given to family members after they are gone. Not necessarily lockets, but dividing them up could solve your problem.

Answer 10

keep them. or give them half. what we have to remember is they are dead and feel no misery or pain anymore, the pain is with you and your family, whatever happens to the ashes he will not be angry, its just sometihng to make everyone Else's heart at ease. i d just suggest you let them know how strongly you feel about keeping them, but also understand they feel the same, share your brothers ashes

Answer 11

if you want to yeah why not, why don't you buy a special urn , and put some of his ashes in there , give the rest to the family, that why you have your little piece of him always with you and everyone is happy I am sure your brother would want everyone to be happy, and not arguing