Should I date a man who is 20 years older than me?

Question

I'm 26, he's 46. What do you reckon?

For those who have asked, no he's nothing like my dad, for a start he's quite a bit younger. No, he doesn't have any money. Also he is my co-worker. Does that make a difference?

Answer 1

If you do he is a lucky man. Age isn't a huge factor in every relationship. The question is really is this the right guy and the right relationship for you? A age difference like this will always present some problems but nothing that you can't deal with or predict if your honest with yourselves. Think it through and don't worry about what others think, do what is right for you.

Answer 2

Well Mr.Evil's mum is 20 years younger than his dad. They have been married for 27 years(or something like that). They have been together since she was 16. I don't think they hae had too many problems with that. Saying that, I'm not sure about dating a co-worker. It could turn out ok but if it doesn't and you work really close, there could be problems if you have a bad break-up or something.

Answer 3

Although it possible to enjoy and even love someone older. The question is what do you two have in common and is it enough to build a relationship on? A person that much older is likely to be at a different point in life than you and this can become a source of tension. FYI I am 30 and wouldnt date someone 46 the difference would be to great. Over all you need to follow your heart.

Answer 4

If your not in for the money(no offence) then dont. Cause remember that 4 years from now he wont be able to do many of the things your going to want to do. Stick with the ones 35 and under, otherwise your going to shorten your life dramatically. belive it or not you'l be forced to live like a 40 year old, thus taking away your opportunity to enjoy your 20's the way you should. Like sex everyday(seriously speaking) ,themepark rides, up to date music, and so many other things a 26 year old does that a 46 year old cant do anymore.

Answer 5

the good thing is that you are both adults, Girls mature faster than us mortal males, so in reality instead of looking at an age gap of 20 years it may be only be 10 to 15 mental years.At the same time do not allow yourself to be used as a trophy. Girls have a natural built in defence system and sense danger, my advice is if you have to ask then listen to your inner thoughts Its detected something is not right get to know the person as a friend first keep your mind open walk with caution Best of luck

Answer 6

It all depends on what the 2 of you want out of life. There's a male that has me by 15 and at first I thought that he was the one. But I asked him questions about certain things and I discovered that we wanted different things out of life. I want to get married again. He doesn't. I want to have at least 2 children and adopt 2. He said he already has 2 children and I can help raise them. I'm a Christain. He doesn't beileve in all of the ritual that Christains do. He's spiritual.

And then there's the he been there, done that and will try to sway you from doing certain things. You're still young and there's things that you might want to do ie clubbing, hanging out with friends late, things like that. He's tired of the club scene and doesn't want you to do it. I been there done that with a male that was 18 years older than me.

Answer 7

Most people would probably think that it´s weird. But if you Love him or think that you might then go ahead. My parents started dating when my mom was 23 and my dad was 46 and they´ve been very happily married for 32 years now. When it comes to Love, you can´t think about age, just do what your heart tells you.

Answer 8

Well, I reckon you won't have a whole lot in common. You were both born in totally different eras and there is a huge gap in your life experiences. It can't hurt to give it a try though, just for grins and giggles. You might have a good time. But he could also be some lecherous old man ogling young girls.

Answer 9

I used to date a girl 20 years younger than me, but I had difficulty finding the time and, eventually, I had to give up the relationship.
Thought it would be a good opportunity for her to meet people her own age - 25.
Yesterday she phoned again, asking for a meeting at the weekend.
She can't stand guys her own age, and wants us to give it another try.
The sex was always great for us.
We will meet at the weekend and see how it goes this time.

Answer 10

Hi! I am in a relationship with this guy he is 19 years older that me, I am 23 years old. I care about him alot, but I am still wondering do I really want to spend the rest of my life with him. I suggest you have to ask yourself that question. Do he treat you right, love you for you(unconditional love) how do he act around his family, look for the little thing, becauses it make a big difference in the future. But if he love you for you it sholdn't matter what no one think.