I had been dating a guy for 4 weeks. He cancelled our plans for the third time Friday. I told him I was not happy about that, and then he blew me off the rest of the weekend. He called me last night and apologized for not calling sooner. He said he got scared, and he didn't know what exactly he was scared of. He said he didn't know if it was fear of commitment, of taking things to the next level, or of letting himself have feelings for someone. He asked that we just be friends until he can figure things out. I asked him if he would want to try to be with me agian once he gets through this and he said yes, he would, but he doesn't want me to wait for him. He seemed really sincere in his answers, and so, I don't know what to think. I'm wondering if this was his way of breaking up with me without causing too many hard feelings, or if he really is just scared. What's your take on this?
2006-06-14 09:21:35 · 16 answers · asked by Sally Mae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ow Id say move on. If he wanted to be with you he would be spending ALL his time with you, even if it pissed off his friends, his family and etc. (trust me on that one) ;)
good luck finding a guy that does deserve you !
2006-06-14 09:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the guy is a whimp, I mean if everything was going so well with you 2, why start getting all emotional and pesimistic about it. My advice move on, dont need to waste your time with some one who isnt willing to commit to you and only you. Its not that he doesnt want to commit to you, its just that he must have other choices, or his just afraid of his own heart. Either way dont waste your time, move on.
2006-06-14 09:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by stud989 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's making time for you when it's convenient for him. He wanted to spend time with his friends on the weekend, and then when Sunday rolled around he suddenly had time for you. You can't put your life on hold for him. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't scared and who will not give you the run around. Move on with your life, and if he changes his mind, he'll come to you. Don't wait for him.
2006-06-14 09:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by aqsgtriad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I feel ya!
What you're dealing with is someone who doesn't know how to handle his emotions.
You've only known each other for 4 weeks and he's afraid of commitment? No he's afraid of how he FEELS. How can you be friends if he can't even handle his own emotions?
Your decision of course but you know what to do!
All the best!
2006-06-14 09:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes got someone on the side ..honey kick this gut to the curb!! Hes playing you and youre falling for it,you see the reason he didnt come around you over the weelend is that he had another booty lined up and you came in second.and that apology was bull$hit, find you another
2006-06-14 09:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,this guy has moved on a found someone else,but now has to find a way to break up with you. Dump him. He isn't worth your time.
2006-06-14 09:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been 4 weeks! Break up with him and move on. You don't need this drama!
2006-06-14 09:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My woman's intuition tells me there is more to this story than he is telling you. I may be wrong, but I am thinking he may already have another woman, and is trying to let you go gently.
2006-06-14 09:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by dailybmine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. He broke up with you and told you not to wait - that was all the proof you needed...forget being scared.
2006-06-14 09:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by m r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt know either, but i would prolly believe him until i saw him with another girl then go confront him
2006-06-14 09:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋