I am currently in a realationship with this guy who I been dating for 8 months. I am starting to wonder that h

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I think he might be seeing someone else. Also this guy is 19 years older than me age really not the issue if you love someone it should not matter. But I am thinking do he really love me or is he just playing me for a fool. I am thinking about calling it quit, but I have deep feelins for this man know. What's a woman to do.

Answer 1

That's an awfully big age difference. Did you sit down and think VERY carefully and in detail about your motives before you took action? The reason I ask is that some time back, I managed to fall in love with a guy 20 years younger, and I remember doing some very serious thinking.

In your case, since you are the younger party, the line of questioning would be a little different, but I would strongly suggest that if you haven't done this already, that you sit down and ask yourself such things as 'Am I trying to prove I'm "really grown up"? Do I like to be taken care of or have someone to depend on? Or, to put it another way, do I want to avoid taking responsibility for my own life?' Etc.

And then another thing: in your case, I suppose you would imagine your own mother's questions rather than his, but yes: think of all the tough questions your mom would ask you about this situation, write 'em down, write down the answers to every question you can think of, whether or not it is related to the question of your respective ages.

I could see moving forward in this situation only on three conditions:

1) you have detailed and satisfactory answers to all of the above questions,

2) you have found that both you and he *already have* everything you could be possibly looking for in a relationship with that kind of age difference, so that the relationship is based on something other than 'I need you', and

3) you have found that he has gone through the same process with a positive result.

If ANY ONE of these conditions is not satisfied, let me suggest that you need to have enough self-respect to avoid dead-end situations from which no good can come.

For more ideas about things you can ask yourself, somewhere in my Yahoo! Answers you will find a question 'How to get a really, really cute guy to notice you?' or something to that effect (it should be on the last page - it was one of the first questions I answered), in which the bottom line is that the person needs to do a lot of thinking before she takes any action at all. Probably you are a bit older than the person who asked that question, but I think you'll still find something relevant to your situation.

If you go through this questioning process, you'll either make your present relationship better, or have a good basis to start over again with someone else.

May God bless you with wisdom as you consider your way and decide on a course of action.

Answer 2

Have u asked him if he is seeing someone? I would ask and pay close attention to what he does when he isnt with you, if you dont want to break up with him thats pretty much the only thing u can do u just have to trust him until you have prove that he is cheating! Good Luck

Answer 3

it is a case of hanging your self in his sneakers. in the event you met any one and inside a month you allow them to meet everybody you already know then you definately get a divorce. then meet any one and do it once more what might that started to appear like. a dating is a private factor and must be proportion handiest while each persons are comfy.

Answer 4

Are you Anna Nicole Smith ??? 19 Years ???? He just wants the booty and $$$ probably attracted you to him at first. Right ?!

Answer 5

You should just tell HIM what you are feeling. Ask him what HE is feeling. Relationships should be based on communication, and it seems to me that this relationship has NONE.

Answer 6

Talk to him

Answer 7

ask him what he thinks