Questions on adoption?

Question

My entire life, all I've ever wanted to be was a mother. My husband and I have been trying for 5 years, and still nothing. We've gotten tested, there's nothing wrong with us, it's just not happened. So we've decided instead of doing the whole invitro thing, that there are millions of kids out there with no home we should adopt. However, since both us don't know anyone whose been adopted we have no clue on how to begin this, or what is even required. Any help is appreciated. Thanks.

Answer 1

Contact a local adoption agency in your area could cost at least 10,000. Or look into becoming a foster parent. You can ask for only placements that will heve the opportunity to adopt its free that way.

Answer 2

Just my two cents .... don't go into adoption hoping that the process will take your mind off reproduction and that you'll end up getting pregnant! Yes, it's been known to happen, and it's also NOT happened that way for a lot of couples.

First of all, you have to decide whether you are ready emotionally to adopt. Are you both really done with any grief of not conceiving a biological child. You can't adopt a child while holding on to any sorrow or wish that he/she were biologically related to you. The kid will sense it.

When you're ready to start the process, be prepared for the paper chase. Call an agency in your home state for a 'home study.' That's the very first step, required in all adoptions in every country.

Decide whether you want to adopt domestically (open vs. closed) or internationally (always closed - i.e., you don't know the birthparents). What country do you want to adopt from? If overseas, be ready to 'adopt' that country as part of your family heritage as well. Your child will be a citizen of your country, but they will always be part of their birth country as well.

Your home study agency will guide you through the requirements for your state and help you get your 'dossier' together.

Adoption.com is a good site for getting info about the process. There are also a ton of Yahoo groups on adoption, depending on whether you do want to go international or domestic.

It can get overwhelming, so do get a lot of support from other adoptive families! You will end up really loving the process and this way of forming your family, especially when you rely on a community of families who are doing the same.

Much luck and happiness to you both -- and may you find your child very soon!!

Answer 3

It's going to take a lot of discussion between you and your husband. Domestic vs. international. Then there's all the pros and cons of that decision. Time is also a factor.

There's also local contacts. That's always a good place to start.

My wife and I knew 18 years ago when we got married that we would be adopting. Unlike your situation, adoption is very big in our family. My wife was adopted as well as my younger sister. When we found my wife's birth mother, we found out she was also adopted. Time, money, and hassles were all concerns for our decision. We did a Chinese adoption.

If God is leading your heart to China, I'd suggest the following website. Also, be prepared. If you start your journey to adopting and commit to that mental state, odds are you might get pregnant. Once the pressure is off to have your own genetic prodigy, nature usually takes its course.

Answer 4

Adoption is a wonderfull thing, it gives a family a chance to love someone new and a child the chance to be truley loved and cared for the way they deserve to be.

I was adopted about 25 years ago, I was raised knowing that I was adopted and I believe that was key. I have no memory of being told I was adopted, I just knew I was; like knowing the sky is blue.

First step....look in the phone book and do not use ads in the paper and speak with local non-profit groups as well as you physician. Your doctors office is the moet reliable source you have, and they will be able to reffer you to a local group or representative.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Start by checking out adoption.com. As for the "millions of kids out there," well, it depends where you're looking and at what age. For example, if you will only take a newborn, in the US, there are 6-10 couples waiting for every one that's born. And you have to find a birthmother (attorneys and agencies can help) that is willing to place with you. In other countries, there are more kids looking for homes, but the costs of adoption are higher, as well. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

I was adopted when I was 3 days old! The frist step to to find an adoption agency ( they can be found in the phone book) then there is a lot of paperwork, but then you get put on a waiting list, but trust me the end result is well worth it!

Answer 7

Honestly, the best research is google. I would go there and just look up stories, research some agencies, and see what there is. Another good thing to try is going to planned parenthood because a lot of young women need help for various reasons, such as the father left, died, etc.

Answer 8

Listen there's alot of kids in foster care and up for adoption. I am enjoying the six kids I got out of foster service and I had them for six years and we are doing great. So take it from me any child you choose will be just wanting to be love and have a family.

Answer 9

where do you live? if it is anywhere in the US call SAM (thats her nickname) or Laurie at A is 4 adoption.
toll free (866) 5 MY-BABY
phone [phone]
fax [phone]
A is 4 Adoption
[e-mail] this is the owner's (Laurie) email.
they work with adopting parents and birth parents they are like a family and very resourceful and nice. tell them jennifer zamarripa sent you. :) good luck!

Answer 10

We went through the foster care system, It worked out very well, and we adopted through them. It is free, and they will pay you a small stipend to do it. You will have to go to child raising classes, and be approved, but it is well worth the time. You will be greatly blessed, good luck