That would probably brake my parents hearts
2006-06-14 08:44:44 · 27 answers · asked by didi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A lot depends on the relationship you have with your parents and how open minded they are. I know that our kids can tell us anything the wish and we know they keep some things secret from us. Because my wife and I have an open relationship our kids tell us most everything and we are glad they do. They can ask us any question or tell us anything about their sex lives and we listen and give honest answers. We know we are the exception in the case of most parents but that is how we are with our kids...we have 4 girls that now range in the ages of 28 to 39 and they still tell us about what is going on in their lives.
So it really depends on what your relationship is with your parents if you should tell them or not. You know your parents better than anyone on YA. So this has to be your call. If, however, you are pregnant you may need to tell them so they can help you with medical care etc.
2006-06-14 08:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you and your relationship with your parents. If you would like to get on birth control to be safe, then it might be a good idea. If you feel that you have questions or concerns and need someone to sit down and talk to you also might want to talk to them. I would not just casually say hey mom, I had sex last night! I would approach them and tell them you have something to talk to them about and it's a serious subject. You may even just want to talk to you mother alone and not your father. If you have been sexually abused, molested or raped and this is why you are no longer a virgin then you should absolutely talk to your parents. I hope you can make a decision and feel good about whatever you decide to do. Good luck!
2006-06-14 15:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you are having unprotected sex..Maybe you should talk to your mom when you are alone,and if she understands and if you are still sexually active she will put you on birth control.But remember there are so many diseases out there among us. And yes it might break their hearts but in the end, I think you will feel relieved.I have a 15 year old daughter and she knows all she has to do is come to me. I wish you all the luck..I know how it feels to break parents hearts,I did when I got pregnant at 15,but I kept her and she is a GREAT tenager!
2006-06-14 16:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by gdraben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say tell them only IF You need to get on some birth control if you aren't already.....As long as you are being responsible and protecting yourself you shouldn't say anything if you don't want to....At the same time if you are not on any birth control tell your parents and be honest "I'm telling you this because I want to be put on some type of Birth control......etc......." You should'nt be afraid to say anything especially about that unless they seriously will hurt you then you need to talk to a counselor at school. I know when I was in High school I got pregnant, I was so scared to tell my mom....Luckily i didn't show at all so I was able to hide it well up until I gave birth but the nurse at the time helped me get tested and applied for W.I.C. and just was my shoulder to lean on when I was too scard to talk to my MOm.....
2006-06-14 16:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a parent, I would want to know. And I would let you know that from day 1. Your parents are your guides in the first 20+ years of your life. Let them guide you, before it turns into you having to tell them something much worse. They know all about it, they were your age once too. And just as much sex happened then as does now, possibly more! And as far as breaking thier hearts... it is temporary, and much more brave of you to tell them than to try and hide something that is inevitable.
2006-06-14 15:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by C P R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should. I had the same dilemma only 10 years ago. It seems long ago sometimes but after I read your question it seemed like yesterday. I say please be honest and tell your parents because though it may hurt them initially, they can help you deal with the feelings you are going to have and keep you safe. You may have had sex that one time or several, but you are now susceptible to STD's such as HPV, chlamydia, or genital herpes. Then, you could be a teen mom. But, the worse situation could be you could be a statistic. Dead and not experienced life yet. Be smart and talk to them. As my aunt always told me, "You are old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to deal with your parents' consequences." It is never as bad as we think it will be. Good luck
2006-06-14 16:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by hurting inside 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell them. However, I would be extremely responsible. You're parents would be more heartbroken to find out you got HIV or could never give them grandchildren because a sexually transmitted disease left you infertile. And, nice boys can give you a disease too. It's not just the scum of the earth catching stuff anymore.
2006-06-14 15:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
It will kill them, esp. Mom. At least if she has an ounce of care for your sexual growth and health.
It is up to you. But tell Mom. Let her tell Dad. This will cut down on open outburst of anger and hurt.
This is you saying your growing up and your going to be going out on your own someday. I think most parents don't like the thought of that. Even if they joke about one way tickets and suitcases for graduation.
2006-06-19 12:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by jnrockwall@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is tough but my answer would definetly be yes. You wouldn't feel right if you kept something this big in your heart.
Go to them in the right time and in the right place. Once you say it, it's over and they can't stay mad at you for ever, can they?
So take a step and say, with the right words, that you aren't a virgin any more.
2006-06-14 15:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by altinok_aylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should let theme know you are sexually active i made sure both of my teenage girls felt comfortable enough about sex that they knew/know that if they are having sex they need to protect them selves not only from std's but teenage pregnancy my 17 year old is on the depo shot and my 15 year old is not active yet but when she is you can bet she will tell me so she can be protected trust me sweetie it is tough being a young parent i was 18 married on my way to divorce court with 2 kids and one on the way be four my 19Th b-day because my mom didn't know i was sexually active in till it was to late always use protection
2006-06-14 16:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋