2006-06-14 08:33:47 · 21 answers · asked by ANGELA MAE W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No - get your tubes tied
2006-06-14 08:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you have the other kids in your care? If you have 3 kids and you don't have custody because they were taken away by the state then no way should you have more kids - odds are there are some issues in your life you need to deal with and you should work on getting your kids back.
If you don't have your kids because your ex has custody or something like that then thats a different story. If you are in a relationship and you and your partner want to have a baby then that would be up to you.
2006-06-14 15:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to stop and think about what you want for your future. I would think that if you don't have your children with you, there's a reason for that. You don't need another child. You need to find out what to do with your life. Having babies is for those who intend to put the babies needs before their own. Go back to school. Study hard. Graduate. Get a career. Be satisfied with your life. You may meet a nice guy and get married. After spending a couple of years getting to know one another, then you can start planning your family. This is what responsible people do. Too many girls have become baby factories, only to lose them to foster care because they can't, don't know how, or don't want to care for them. Instead of having another child, you might want to do some growing up yourself. You don't need a baby to make you feel better about not having your other children with you. You need to be satisfied with who you are first. Do something constructive with your life. You're young, you still have plenty of time to have a family. Learn from your mistakes. Make new goals, plans, and attitudes. Stop thinking in the same rut. There's a big world out there. You can go anywhere and do anything you want. You have nothing that ties you down. You could get a job on a cruise ship and work in a daycare with little ones, seeing other countries and still surrounding yourself with children. Plus get paid for all the fun. Again, go back to school. Get a degree in child care. Then do something with it. Get some experience with what's going on outside your world. It just might be that if you're seen as someone who's turned their life around and are doing some positive things, you might have a shot at being with your children again. At this point, you don't have anything to lose and everything to gain. So, you go girl and get 'er done! <*)))><
2006-06-14 15:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only have as many children as you have the financial, physical, mental, and emotional ability to care for properly. Each child needs (aside from the basic food, shelter, clothing bit) some indiviual time with you every day. If you are a single working mom, I wouldn't recommend any more. If the other 3 are not in your care, why do you think the next child will be any different?
2006-06-14 15:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by wabbitqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should work on correcting the problem that is preventing you from having custody of your other children. When you become a mother to those children then you can contemplate becoming a mother to others. After having the responsibility of three children you may not want any more!!!
2006-06-15 14:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont have the other kids in you care you dont need more! when you get the other kids back and actually take care of them and be a good mother then you can think about having more kids but right now you dont deserve anymore if you cant even keep you other kids
2006-06-14 15:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience is that if you don't have custody of your other kids why are you considering have more? you obviously cant take care of the ones you had. If you are looking to have another child so you can find love , you need to take a step back and search within, and work on getting the kids you already have back, and taking CARE of their needs and loving them.
And if you do not have the other kids due to daddy having them then you need to consider why he has custody , and not you? Where did you fall short? and can you take care of another child.
2006-06-14 15:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by blessedmaconmiracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have then in your care, you should not have more, think about the reason you don't have them in your care, what can you do, these children need a mom, you don't erase on thing by creating others, them children are still there with a void in their life.
2006-06-14 15:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by bryton1001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have more if you are financially able to support the child but you said that you already have three kids that are not with you so why would you want more if your not even taking care of the ones you got... THINK...
2006-06-14 15:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by China B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have enough money to feed, clothe, schooling, doctor bills and everything else.... have as many of the little rugrats as you want.
Although I do wonder why you don't have your other children in your care. If you were deemed an unfit parent and they were taken away then you shouldn't have any more.
2006-06-14 15:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should examine with you do not have the other kids in your care. If the anwser in negative then NO do not have more kids. If the answer is acceptable then sure why not, keeping in mind the other kids will not understand why you are haing more kids when they are not with MOM.
2006-06-14 15:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋