I'm getting married next april but I'm only 17, should I go though with the wedding?

Question

I love him and everything but I just cant get over other guys. I almost made out with his friend the other night but I didnt and I was honset about to him and he says he trust me and he loves me very much witch scares me because he has been through alot and I dont want to hurt him. I LOVE HIM!

Answer 1

If you have to ask you aren't ready.

Answer 2

You're probably not ready to make a commitment to marriage - YET. That doesn't mean you and this guy aren't meant to be together, but what's the hurry? You are only 17. The feelings you have to "mess around" with other guys is totally natural and this is something that won't go away until you've been a young adult and dated. You should perhaps "take a break" from your fiancee and see what's out there before you commit. Because marriage is forever. You better be sure it's what YOU want.

I know you don't want to hurt this guy, but wouldn't it be worse to be married to him for 10 years and cheating on him, or always wondering what else was out there? Go find out, and when you realize that there is no one better than the man you are with now, then you can commit. You have the rest of your life for this guy once you are married - take some time for you, right now, to figure it out. Don't wake up one day 10 or 15 years from now in a marriage with 3 kids wondering what dating other guys is like.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I don't think any 17 year old can possibly know what they in life and who they want for life.

Just think it over in your head. I know it sounds cheesy, but listen to your heart. Is this what you really want? Are you really ready to take on the responsibilities of married life? Do you really want to be burdened by a husband and running a household at such a young age? Don't you want to see what the world has to offer first?

You'll never be able to feel truly independent if you get married and isn't that what being that age is all about? Breaking free from your parents and experiencing life on your own through the beginning of either college or a job? Why would you want to ruin all of that?

And if you truly, truly love him why were you so tempted by that other guy? That doesn't make any sense.

Wait a while. Think it over. You still have plenty of time to get married. There's no need to rush to the altar.

Answer 4

Some places you can only get married when you are 18.
This is your decision, if you are having doubts about it, then you should at least postpone it until you figure out what you want out of life. I knew when I was 17 that I was going to marry this guy and we are getting married Saturday but I am now 20. I wanted to wait until after high school. This was our decision. There is not an age that is better then another age, just know what you want and go after it.

Answer 5

Forever is a lonnnng time. Studies have shown that 50% of marriages end in divorce. If u r not ready to commit to one person I do not recommend it. Unless of course u r doing it for the experience. Do u want to add to the statistics mentioned. Some of us fail to remember that it takes more than love to sustain a "til death do you part" marriage. I sure hope u have more in common than luuuv because humans can luuuv from a distance after divorce. Also, we must remember marriage is a partnership; what one partner says or does has an impact on the other.

Answer 6

No do not do it. Be responsible for yourself first, and love later. Don't marry someone because your homelife sucks/ My MOM and DAD did that, and they are not married now, and my Mom never finished school, and has had 4 kids total, and been on welfare practically her whole life. Get yourself together first establish yourself. And for Heavens sake wait until your of age to make a life long commitment. If you want to be with other guys, then be with other guys don't tie him down and hurt him. He will either respect your decession, and wait for you, or he will like most men, leave and move on to the next young girl. Don't have sex or get pregnant. Getting married because of pregnancy sometimes leads to future distruction especially if you are so curious in other men right now. Don't end up on Jerry Springer flashing your boobs for mardi gras beads

Answer 7

Its way to early in your life..you need to find who you are before you can give yourself to someone else. And if you are asking this question...then its should be obvious that you dont really want to get married....postpone the wedding and stay engaged for a couple years....if it ends because of this..then it wasnt meant to be anyway. At 17....do you really know what loving someone for the rest of your life is all about?...and what those vows really mean?...think about it very hard and long...please

Answer 8

Sounds like you and your fiancee should go to pre-marital counselling with your minister before the big day in April.

Then you two will truely find out if you are right for each other. Just do not rush into marriage because it will always end in a divorce.

Answer 9

If your having doubts that your ready to get married even a year from now, call of the wedding. There is no reason to rush to get married young. People who get married young are more likely to get divorced later.

Answer 10

People change. I think that I am a different person now than I was when I was 17. If you are not sure, wait and don't get married.

Answer 11

If you feel that you need to ask then it means that you are not sure and if that's the point then why go through with it . You don't love him enough or you are not ready for it either way it's not your time yet.