I am 24 and married with a daughter. I also live with my mother and 17 year old sister. Everyone has their own room and all, but the sight of my sister really annoys me. She has a boyfriend and when he's around I don't bother her. But as soon as he's gone she follows me where ever I go. I want some alone time and usually I go to my neighbors tho chat for a little while and now she goes over there too. Its really bugging me. I'm I wrong for not wanting to be around her all the time.
2006-06-14 07:58:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well. if she wanted advice she knows that she can trust me enough to just come out and and anything, she's done it before and thats how its always been.
2006-06-14 08:03:57 · update #1
This is my place. And do love them. I asked my mother to move ion with me because she is going through a diffiuclt financial situation and asking them to leave is out of the question. So, what do you have to say now?
2006-06-14 08:06:01 · update #2
PEOPLE I DON'T NEED TO MOVE. THE HOUSE BELONGS TO MY HUSBAND AND I. ITS NOT THE "I STILL LIVE WITH MY MOM SCENARIO"
2006-06-14 08:07:59 · update #3
MOST OF YOU ARE MISINTERPRETTING MY QUESTION.
2006-06-14 08:11:24 · update #4
Well, my mother hasn't been able to find a decent job to afford any housing here in South Florida. Don't get it twisted though. She is not lazy, she works. Its just that she does not make enough money.
2006-06-14 08:21:08 · update #5
Talk to your sister and let her know that it annoys you to have her trail around where ever you go. you're an adult and you need some time to yourself, and let her know that you still love her. May I ask why your mom and sister are living with you and your husband and child?
Oh. Okay. I just wanted to know.
2006-06-14 08:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by compassion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choices
1. Move out and start a your own life.
2. Deal with the fact that she is living in the same house as you.
3. Find a neighbor or friend that isn't her friend to get away to.
4. Tell her to leave you alone.
I would choose #1. You have a family, it should be separate from your other family.
2006-06-14 15:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds too me that your sister might just need some attention from you. No , you are not wrong for wanting some free time. Lord knows you need some with a husband, daughter and extra family members. Try occasionally making a girls day out and just spending some time with her if you can. I am sure that is hard to do but maybe that will help some. It just sounds to me like she needs your attention some. You are not wrong though...just frustrated and feeling a bit overwhelmed and confined.
2006-06-21 01:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by catsplayyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're her big sister, so I'd imagine she just wants to spend time with you.
However, you're an adult who is married and has a child. Why on earth don't you get your own place? That not only resolves the issue of your sister tagging after you, but it's probably a whole lot more healthy for your marriage.
2006-06-14 15:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by circe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want some alone time, I seriously think you, your husband and child need to MOVE OUT. Get an apartment or something, nothing huge just OUT.
I truely understand if you are helping out your ma but you need to be on your own at some point. That is really the only way to get the space that you want.
2006-06-14 15:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. Everybody needs there own space. Maybe your sister is a little lonely. You can try to introduce her to new people, or you can try getting your own place. That may force her to meet new people. Hope this helps.
I edit this answer. I read your question wrong - I thought you were talking about your mother.
2006-06-14 15:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by hpotter4ever2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, maybe you should think about moving out. If that's not feasible, talk to your mom and your sister. Gently point out you need alone time and you already have a daughter and you don't need your sister up your butt all the time too. But I think the best thing would be for you to move out.
2006-06-14 15:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by harleygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I have a little sis ter that did the same this. And she just started to get on my nerves. Everyone needs their space and that includes you. You should be able to go next door with out her following. I dont think you are wrong at all.
2006-06-14 15:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Delicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to tell her that sometimes you need space. But it looks like she really enjoys being around you. She loves you, but I guess you do not feel the same about her. Maybe you need to move out. After all you are married, shouldn't you have your own place.
2006-06-14 15:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by preferablyyoung 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a similar situation, i live w/my inlaws and husby and we have a toddler son........so, i know how people can work your nerves! but since its your little sis that you are becoming annoyed with i would be careful....she probably does look up to you and just wants your company...since there is a little one in your life now she may feel left out or that your love/attention for her has dwindled....trust me i have two younger siblings and they went throught the same thing......you can still show love and set boundaries!
2006-06-14 15:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋