neither one of us knew i was pregnant.
I did n't know until I had talked to the gyno after I had a "1 day" period.
She told me I had been pregnant but lost it...
We'd talked about children but agreed we both didn't want any within the next 5 years...
2006-06-14 07:57:34 · 15 answers · asked by abcdefg.... 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Our relationship isn't in the best of standings right now...
He just found out he may have a child from a previous relationship...
Ever since he found out we have been growing farther apart... Although I told him that no matter what I'll accept his child because it's his and I love him and that child is a part of him.
I told him that he needs to be a good father to his child if it is his no matter what. He shouldn't be just a "sperm donor" b/c he is in another relationship.
2006-06-18 12:24:48 · update #1
You should definitely tell him. It is/was part his as well. At this point you are still in the same position that you were before you found out. Neither of you want any children yet so in a way it is "for the better" for lack of a better word, that you lost it. Maybe now you will both be alittle more careful. Believe me I wasn't ready when I got pregnant with my son but you learn to take what your given. I couldn't imagine my life with out my son even though I thought my life was over when I found out I was pregnant. Everything happens for a reason...take this as a sign. Brandi =)
2006-06-14 08:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a really hard decision to make, but I think you should. You didn't purposefully lose the child... things like this happen, but he was the father and he does have a right to know. Even though he may never know otherwise, it's something that's on your mind and involves the two of you, and could influence the relationship, so if for no other reason than keeping your relationship with him healthy and open, I would reccomend telling him. It might even mean thinking more seriously about your plans for each other including children, so even though it was a bad thing that happened, there is a lot of opportunity for growth through it. Blessings,
Brian
2006-06-14 08:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by b_switek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-06-14 12:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell him. "I just found out that I was pregnant *x amount of time* ago, and I miscarried." Then you should discuss safer methods of birth control, to prevent another pregnancy from occurring while you're not ready.
Good job, too, on realizing that you're not ready to have a kid yet. If you do have them, they'll thank you for being responsible. :)
2006-06-14 08:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, be honest. Trust in a relationship is very important. You dont want him to find out some other way and then be upset because you were not honest with him.
2006-06-14 08:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by EB&Js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. It was his baby too. This way he will be more careful about getting you pregnant and you will have someone close to you to talk to when you are having problems dealing with it, if that happens.
2006-06-14 08:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by 20mommy05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. It will also help to keep that line of communication open.
I'm so sorry and hope you are doing OK.
2006-06-14 08:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by lilly2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your responsibility to keep him informed of anything that affects the pregnancy
2006-06-14 08:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be open and honest tht is what real lasting relationships are about honesty and trust
2006-06-14 07:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by silvereagle1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. hes the father and he has the right to know.
2006-06-14 08:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by ♥MoMo♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋