Long distance Relationship- Can it work?

Question

My bf and I have only been dating for two weeks. He has already told me that he loves me. He is going into the Air Force in two weeks and he wants me to wait for him. I have no problems with this because I like him a lot. His friend is always telling me that my bf has slept with more people than I know and that as soon as he thinks I am "whipped" he will dump me. He told me not to give in to him and that he does things like that to girls all the time. However, when asked to name these people my bf "slept" with-he couldn't come up with them. Can my bf and I survive "Boot Camp" and what's up with his friend? Is one or both of them lying? Help!!!

Answer 1

Military wives are experts on this subject! Both of parents were in the Navy and I can tell you, the majority of their marriage was long distant! They've been together almost 30 years now. My husband is gone for any where between a month to 14 months at a time. Most of the time he's back for only a month or two and he's gone again! We love each other though and we make it work. It definitely proves that our relationship is much more than physical! If you work at it, it will work.
By the way, these people saying they don't were most likely infatuated not in love. You have to really love the person and trust them to be faithful. Also, don't put yourself in a situation that could be perceived badly. You don't him/her to find out and then it puts these nagging doubts in their head. You have to have love! Good luck!

To those saying it's not love after two weeks, my husband and I married after knowing each other 2 months and 11 days. We have a wonderful marriage and are expecting our second child. I know this sweet old couple who have been together almost 70 years! They married the day they met.

Answer 2

Well. making it through boot camp doesn't sound like your biggest problem. If you have trust issues now, it's only going to get worse later on. You also have to realize that after boot camp, your boyfriend is going to be assigned a permanent duty station somewhere...are you able and willing to move to be with him. If not, I can tell you that the relationship will most likely not work out. You sound very young...are you sure you really want to spend your entire summer stressed out about your boyfriend?

Answer 3

If he said he loved you in only two weeks, then it's not love. It's called infatuation. His friend might either be....

Jealous & trying to break you two up because he wants you.

or He might actually be telling the truth & has seen him do these things before & cares about you & doesn't want you to go through the same.
I once dated a guy, who seemed great, told me he loved me, went into the army, wrote his ex girlfriend the whole time, & ended up marrying his ex right after he got out of bootcamp. & all his friends told me how much of a bad guy he was AFTER everything.

so count yourself lucky that someone is telling you everything before it's too late.

i think his friend is telling you the truth, so you should listen. & sounds like your guy is lying to you also, obviously.
Just watch out.

Answer 4

Hey...I'm in a longdistance relationship right now myself...I think that it can definitely work for y'all if you make sure that you're both open and honest with one another, and you're willing to be supportive as he's away. Make sure he's respecting you and treating you like a lady, though...if he's not, your relationship won't work regardless of distances.

Answer 5

Of course it do. I'm in a long distance relationship, and if my boyfriend was next to me he would be in the hospital from my smacking him to much. The distance is stopping that.

Answer 6

y not........it can definately work