i know if i cannot say him this time then it will b too late bcoz my parents want me to settle down & marry this year. my parents will have no objection if they know that i like someone & wanna marry him. but i just cant say it 2 him . he is studying at present & i dont want 2 disturb him or distract him from his career. i m also scared that i might lose agood friend of mine.so plz help me & tell me what should i do? how do i express my feelings to him ? now even i want to get this way or the other way.
2006-06-14 07:53:39 · 24 answers · asked by life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say it...
"Dad, I love you"..
There done.
-HtJ
2006-06-14 07:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by hesterthehester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is quite simple. But, based upon what you have said I doubt you will ether understand it or will want to.
You are afraid of this because you have put so much importance in it. You believe that if you state your feelings you may be rejected and that thought is so painfull it prevents you from seeing what you should do.
If you are already friends with him it is very unlikely that he will make you feel bad if you tell him.
Ask yourself why this is so important to you. Then ask yourself again how would you feel if he says no. Your answers to these questions will direct your life until you can except the answer no matter what it is.
You are focused on this one person. Are there others that you go out with?
You may try the following. Ask him the following question.
"Have you thought about getting married at some point in the future?"
This let's you know how he feels about it one way or another without putting yourself on the line.
If he is all for it then ask what type of woman he would like to marry.
Be prepared for his answer. It can go either way but you may be surprised to find you fit that ideal woman.
Just know a lot of guy's are just as unsure of this question as you are.
Be brave and go with what ever you find out.
This is not life threatening.....trust me.
2006-06-14 15:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter, talk to him about it. If he loves you back, he will understand. Saying you love someone can sometimes be a hard thing to do, I know what you're going through. Saying you love him will not disturb or distract from ANYTHING, & if it does, move on. & don't be in such a rush to marry just because your parents want you too, rushing things will only ruin it.
Just be honest with him, it's all you can do.
2006-06-14 14:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL ME SOMETHING, HE LIKE YOU?
IF HE NOT, HERE ARE--The Art of Seduction
First, it's very important that you choose the right person to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything else, but most of us at will attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner whom we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are. So, if you are not happy with the way you look and moreover who you are on the inside, then start there!
The thrill of seduction sometimes lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself - this is especially true for men. But those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success.
I suggest planning and setting up the time and the right place knowing you will be alone for some period of time. If the object of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and the place being wrong may also very well add to the thrill. If you're getting the right feedback from him (flirting), the knowledge that that he is interested but that you can't do anything about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement. Let them linger ...
Now - just how do you know that he's interested? Your best clues come from reading his body language. His body signals are far better indicators of how he feels about you than anything he may actually say verbally. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to seduction of either sex. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than you'd normally expect, then chances are he�s quite interested. Trust your instincts and you'll 'feel' whether he's interested or not. Look for small gestures and tone of voice tell you a lot about what he feels towards you.
Flirt. Flirt. Flirt. Important - We flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused, as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on your signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something' good. And ladies, playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure him that you are 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth it in the end. Just beware that you may chase him away.
Once you've made it known that you are attracted to him, you'll need to let him know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things and headed in the same direction. The subtle approach is more likely to get you what you want. Remember, though, men generally take the lead in this area, even asking questions and trying to determine whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be that direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around 'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him some and this creates trust. Try discussing sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when talking with a potential lover, testing each other in a non-committal way.
Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction. Once you�ve talked a little about it, does he still seem interested? Look for signs of acceptance or rejection (remember rejection could depend on many many things - perhaps you�re just too much woman for him). If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you think you fancy him. The right man is out there just waiting to be seduced by you!
Surrender - If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time to make your move. One of you must surrender. In all probability it will be you, because even if you initiated the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place.
Seduce, surrender and enjoy!
2006-06-14 15:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Puffylooff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing so this may be a little hypoctritical to answer but you should definately tell him becuase you never know when it will be too late. How will you know how he feels if you never do? also i doubt you would lose him as a friend if he didn't feel the same way because i told my best friend in the past and he didn't have the same feelings but we are still really close. nothing changed
2006-06-14 14:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly like him or Love him then you would be able to tell him so u must not be ready to say it then u dont want it to get too serious yet and tell him that and if it is that you are just to shy then just say it if he can say it to you and he opened up to you and you love him back then say it wats the problem if you want to marry him then it shouldnt be a problem
2006-06-14 14:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you are writing this, I get the impression that you do not have a romantic relationship with this person, and that they are only your friend.
That is a tough one. Just tell him straight-up, " I'm crazy about you and want to marry you." He'll either stick around or run as fast as he can.
2006-06-14 15:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel,
the worst thing that he can say is that
he does not feel the same. However,
it is better to relieve yourself & let this guy
know how you feel then to end up regretting
never opening your mouth and telling him how you
feel. You shouldnt worry about your parents
wanting you to marry this year. It's not up to them.
Get some control, Girl!
2006-06-14 15:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by Delicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a mistake to hurry things because of what your parents think. You should consult them maybe, let them give you their experience and liten to and consider their opinions if you value them. Then remember that its YOUR life and YOUR choice. Not theirs.
Then, explore WHy you can't express your true feelings to him. What are you most afraid of maybe? Then just tell him. You might always regret it if you don't. You might regret it if you do. At least you find out if you ask. If you don't , you just get a messy soup of never knowing what happened.
2006-06-14 15:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subtle. That's the word I can offer you. It worked for me when I was a child, and still does today. Subtle messages until you see that he feels the same. When you see it, then go for the kill, cheeta! Anything that's along the lines of a childish, 'I really like you...' will work. Also, make your body language subtle hints too. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-06-14 14:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Baku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be about when you are ready and not about what others want. If it would make you feel better to tell him maybe you need to write it out for him but when it is time you will find that it is easier than you are making it by forcing it
2006-06-14 14:57:06 · answer #11 · answered by spyder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋