i was born and raised in sc, but i now live in ohio. i hate it here, i hate my job, the people, and im starting to hate my life!! i dont kno how to cope with things, please give me some kind advice.
2006-06-14 07:52:57 · 34 answers · asked by used and abused 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
We're all placed in stressful situations sometimes that are difficult to cope with. My best advice to you is to look at the positive side of things. The fact that you have a job and an income is a good thing. The fact that you are using a computer to access the Internet is a great privilege (believe me it's a privilege). The fact that you were raised in this great nation is an opportunity. You sound young and you entire life is ahead of you. This is only a chapter in your life. A chapter is bound to end when another begins. Have patience and faith in yourself and in your ability to change your perception of your situation. Thank God for the moments that you have. Remember, this is life, not a dress rehearsal. Make everyday count. And finally, I have personally found that I feel a lot better when I stop focusing on my own problems and try to offer help to someone else. We get so focused on self sometimes that we forget that there are people out there who are in a much worst situation than us. Try to lend a helping hand to someone, and you will see how blessed you will become.
2006-06-14 08:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by rlrmnc 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start by looking for a new job. You spend a third of your life at work, and if you hate it, your whole outlook on life will suffer, as you have found.
Also, remember the hobbies you had in SC, and go back to them. If you rediscover the interests that made you love SC, maybe you'll grow to at least like Ohio. You'll also have an opportunity to meet people who have at least one thing in common with you.
Please get out and get some exercise. Moving around will do wonders for your overall outlook on life, and it will give you time each day to clear your head.
If you moved to Ohio for a husband or boyfriend, you need to enlist his support. Sit him down and rationally and calmly tell him that you really do not like living in Ohio, that you hate your job, haven't met any people you like, and you are beginning to feel depressed overall as a result. Ask him if moving back to SC is a possibility for him professionally. Try not to be overly emotional when you do this, or he'll think you're just PMSing and won't take you seriously.
Whether you moved on your own or with a man, it sounds like you are suffering from depression. If you are not able to get out of your funk on your own, please see a doctor.
Good luck. Keep your chin up.
2006-06-14 08:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... how long have you lived in Ohio, and how many of your neighbors have you met? I think that perhaps you just need some interaction with others. You may find that overall, people who live in South Carolina and those who live in Ohio aren't that much different. However, there can be noticable differences in city dwellers as opposed to rural dwellers. Did you use to live in the city and now live in the country or vice versa? Do you suppose you might be able to find a new job? One more thing - maybe you just need a project to keep you busy. It could be a physical, spiritual, or intellectual project. It's a good escape if you don't want to try to connect with your neighbors - plant a garden, research your genealogy online, take a mechanical class to fix your own car, start attending church/temple/synagogue, or whatever. Find ANYTHING that has EVER remotely interested you and try developing that skill or interest.
2006-06-14 08:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Iamnotarobot (former believer) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that you are not the only person to feel this way and you won't feel this way forever. Although you may not be consciously contemplating killing yourself, a suicide hotline volunteer will have the tools to get you excited about life again. Specific to Ohio, check out http://suicidehotlines.com/ohio.html. Also, temporary medications until you get back on your feet are always an option. If you're too intimidated to check out a psychiatrist in your town, look into online psychiatrist evaluations such as http://www.etherapistsonline.com/therapy/psychiatrist.htm. Also, if you're religious, join a church. If you're not, find a hobby you enjoy in Ohio. Take up something fun and new so that you associate the fun new thing with your new city. Volunteer work will also help you feel you have a purpose. Whatever you do, don't give up.
2006-06-14 08:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by sparkles2U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what ur going through. I had a great life in NM but then had to move to arizona. Now, some people like az but it ain't for me. it is too flippin hot here to do anything outside, which sucks for me cuz i am a big outdoor person. the people stick to their clicks so being new is so hard. i still feel new and i've been here for like 3 years. my advice to you, is to go back to sc if it is possible, or find some positive things about ohio that you can enjoy. no matter how bad things feel, remember that it is not as bad as it seems. you could be on in a country where you can't speak the language with no money or supplies. find someone you can talk to about how you feel. please, don't give up though.
2006-06-14 08:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jugglingmidget06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one - you should do what I did, and call a doctor immediately to get a referral to a psychiatrist.
Number two - look for a job online for a job in a state you can be happy in. If your current situation makes you that miserable, then you need to leave it. If you were happy in SC, then go back there.
Number three - ignore any jerks that might respond unkindly to your question. They have no life.
Number four - Remember that you mean the world to someone, someone would not be alive if not for you, there is someone out there that thinks of you everyday and there are lots of people who would be lost without you.
2006-06-14 08:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by zharantan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first buy you a nice positive book that interests you go home and run a nice warm bubble bath, light some candles, drink some wine not too much. Clear your negative thoughts, relax and read your book. If that idea does not soothe you go treat yourself to dinner and a movie. you may hate your job, but a lot of people do just try and make the best of it. you seem to independent and important to die. you have a job, a roof over your head, and food in your tummy that is a blessing alot of people don't have. GOD BLESS
2006-06-14 08:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by sexy chocolatecakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were happy in SC then find a way to move back home. You are the only one that can make changes to make your life as happy as you want it. So, don't get down about your life and do something to make it better, it is possible. Turn to your family and friends from back home to help and support you. You can do it!
2006-06-14 07:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived in Cincinnati for almost 3 years, moving from Louisiana, and just recently relocated to Arizona. I didn't really like it there either. The people were fairly friendly, although nothing like Southerners, but I didn't make that many close friends. I would recommend trying to relocate as soon as you can. I think that you can get in counseling but ultimately you have to enjoy your job and the city that you are in. If you don't, I would recommend getting another job and relocating. Best of luck to you!!
2006-06-14 08:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by 95Batman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohio isn't too bad visit Columbus, Cleveland or Cincinnati. There are cool things to do. Sure its not the best place in the country for fun.
If it still bores you live on the Internet and forget you are here.
2006-06-14 07:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lupin IV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋