I've been dating this guy for more than 2 years. I really love him so much. Anyway, we did broke up couple months ago for about 1 month but then we decided to get back together. The last couple of days I feel that he doesn't care about me. I have to call him or email him first to know how is he doing. (note: at this time he lives in a different city from me) I waited for a while but he did not call me so I called him at night and asked him why he never call me. I told him that I've been waiting for his news. After I said that to him, he said that I dont deserve this. He said he doesn't want to continue this relationship. Also he said that he loves me but he's not in love with me. What should I do? I really don't want to break up with him. I love him so much. I tried last time but it just hurt me so bad and I am lost. Please give me some advice. What should I do?
2006-06-14 07:49:48 · 24 answers · asked by LoveIsUnpredictable 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been dating this guy for more than 2 years. I really love him so much. Anyway, we did broke up couple months ago for about 1 month but then we decided to get back together. The last couple of days I feel that he doesn't care about me. I have to call him or email him first to know how is he doing. (note: at this time he lives in a different city from me) I waited for a while but he did not call me so I called him at night and asked him why he never call me. I told him that I've been waiting for his news. After I said that to him, he said that I dont deserve this. He said he doesn't want to continue this relationship. Also he said that he loves me but he's not in love with me. What should I do? I really don't want to break up with him. I love him so much. I tried last time but it just hurt me so bad and I am lost. Please give me some advice. What should I do? Note: I am 23
2006-06-14 07:55:08 · update #1
The long distance relationship just happen from last month. Before we live in the same city and the end of this month we will live in the same city again.
2006-06-14 09:27:07 · update #2
Baby girl, there is nothing for you to do but heal and move on with your life. I know that it is easy to say and so hard to do. But it sounds to me that he is exploring other options or that he wants to and he does not want to keep you holding on. I hurt for you, I have been there before. At least you two can part on good terms if you allow for that to happen, don't push and don't be so available. Maybe this is the best thing for you, this may be a blessing in disguise. I know that it hurts and you are going to cry, you are going to miss him and at times you are going to feel that you cant go on without him. But you will, you can and you have to. Being in love is a tricky thing, you can love just about anyone but it takes someone extremely special to fall in love with and it is extremely hard to stay in love. Just know that you WILL be OK with or without him.
2006-06-14 07:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Listen,
I know it sucks, especially if you still love the guy. But obviously, he is not going to be emotionally available to your needs and feelings. You broke up the first time for a reason. You should be the strong one and just break up with him. Maybe you can find someone that lives closer because sometimes long distance relationships suffer due to the distance between you. Take this time to rediscover the things you like to do.
2006-06-14 07:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by echelon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you guys are living in different cities and you guys want to work things out, you need the two parts to be involved that means both of you guys must pay attention to those little things like calling, emailing, texting or w.e. each other. In order for a long distance relationship to be successful there must be mutual LOVE!!!
what i suggest is to ask him this same exact question, see from what perspective he sees the whole relationship from distance.
2006-06-14 07:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's seeing someone else. Ask him.
Guys love the "chase" and often want what they can't have. When my boyfriend acts distant, I give him some space and go out with my girls. He knows I don't cheat but the idea of me out there having fun and guys hitting on me makes him forget about the "space" he needed and has him calling.
So if he's not seeing someone else, then play a little hard to get. It will drive him wild knowing that you're out there having fun. It will only annoy him if you play the needy/clingy girlfriend waiting around for him and always available.
2006-06-14 07:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by melimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a chemical intense. The body/suggestions produces a measurable replace in hormones and chemical compounds at the same time as one is in love, and back at the same time as a image or theory is evoked of their spouse. regrettably that chemical starts to dwindle down after an commonplace of about 6 months. If the couple relied on that chemical to stay attracted to at least one or an different, then they're not likely to proceed loving one yet another. (ie. they get board.) in the adventure that they keep some surprises or use romance, or provide different incentive to keep those chemical compounds flowing, then the feeling maintains. some couples are only disinterested in transferring on, out of convenience, and that typically works too... yet purely till the courting stops being available. Then they typically leave. because the effective chemical compounds that are produced through love, are processed through an similar area of the mind that responds to threat, and anger, many undesirable relationships are very efficient, if measured through length of time period. A strive against ought to really keep a wedding ceremony (briefly), and regrettably that's used so a lot more desirable typically than romance, or skydiving jointly, which could also keep a wedding ceremony. (in my opinion i imagine the combatants are very lazy.) Edit: (Even brilliant your lengthy time period spouse through showing them that you play piano, and they under no circumstances knew, promises a courting that "freshness" that keeps the chemical compounds flowing.)
2016-10-30 21:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear questioner
This is the life. You should accept anything happened to you. You are not the first one happened to him, also not the last one. I can suggest to you some answers as following:
1- May be you are not warriad about the love you might going to lose. May be the problem concentrated that you feel that your proud as a girl has been broken by him since he is trying to break up himself. It is happened sometimes that we don't understand our real inside feeling. The feelings mixed inside ourselves. Get a chance to fix appointment with him m tell him you want to discuss some questions with him (don't tell him it is about your love- keep it ambigeous) let him be waried about it. Then do not go to meet him. You will feel releive and happy . If he ask u why u didn't come on time , give him unimportant reason for not meeting him. You may say (I forgot, or I was sleeping, or important person had phoned you. Told him I feel sory I didn't mean it. Keep his mind puzzeled about your behaviour. Show him that you care or may be you don't care. Let his mind be tired about thinking what is going on.
-Other suggestion is that you may turn your love with him into friendly love or brotherly love . Tell him if he need something from you in the future, he shouldn't be hesitated to come to discuss with him.
Appear strong girl to him. Do not feel weak.
If you are going to lose your love so do not lose your self-respect. God has not founded you on earth to be a toy for him. You are founded to be happy,
Dear me : Love is good thing so why we tast it only one time!!!! ? Taste another dish of love , why not, why not,
I hope I ve given you good answer
Best whishes
I hope you tell me one day ( I am realy thankful to my old boyfriend who was mr. somebody because he given me a chance to get my new lover who is realy great one. otherwise I wouldn't meet my new lovely boyfriend
Goodbye and Goodluck
Have Fun wherever you are in life and whatever difficulties you faced.
2006-06-14 08:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by jamal sharif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let it go.... first of all, i wouldnt be suprised if he's been cheating on you, especially since he's in a different city.... second, you can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try, it just doesn't work like that, and third, why would you even want to be with someone who obviously doesnt want to be with you? there are plenty of other men out there, go find one...
2006-06-14 07:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once said that if u luv sum1/sumthing u've got 2 let it/him go if that's wat he wants & if he truly luvs u he'll com back. u see, 4 sum people the more u "crowd" them the more likely u'll push them away, u can't make sum1 luv u if they don't wan2. Moreso, let it go now cause the longer u hold on the more pain u'll feel when he leaves 4 gud. let the gud things about u remain with him & dont let him grow 2 despise u bcause u're pushing 2 hard. I kno this may sound harsh but I can't think of a better answer than my xperience has taught.God bless u!
2006-06-14 08:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by browneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of a book called "He's just not into you?" Buy it, read it. You will be happy you did.
This guy is so over you and you are just making a fool of yourself. This may sound a little harsh, but . . .grow a spine and get some self respect girl. You deserve better.
2006-06-14 08:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by MJL613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not into you anymore. Move on. He probably found another woman. There's 3 billion male humans in the world, he is but one. Move on. You will be happier if you do. If you try to make it work, you will just get hurt. It's hurts now, but it will hurt much more later. Don't let him come back to you when he just wants some nookie. Just move on.
2006-06-14 07:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by spudric13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋