He doesn't know that, but I was going to tell this to him. Should I? Will I go to hell for that??? Please, help me, because I don't know what to do... P.S., I am nineteen years old, and he's older that me for twenty years. And he's so hot and handsome (can I speak like that about him?) I'm so confused, help me!!!!
2006-06-14 07:46:58 · 38 answers · asked by asker 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
(he can't get married, because he is not a reverend)
2006-06-14 07:58:17 · update #1
Teach him how to love a woman the way he loves God
2006-06-14 07:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mash 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you'll go to hell for your feelings, however you know they aren't going anywhere, and perhaps thats why you are feeling them, what could be safer than 'being in love' with a guy you can never have? no risk involved there because it will never actually be a realtionship that could turn out badly in the end. I'm sure it probably happens alot but you need to let this go and set your sights on someone you can actually be with.
Not to mention the fact that you see him in church but don't really 'know' him so its more the idea of him that you are in love with, not truly HIM. Make yourself a list of the things you 'love' about him, those are the characteristics you want in a partner and find someone who is available that has most of them. You also need to define what you call 'love', it is something that should develop after you have spent time with someone and know who they are....that thing you feel when you see a handsome guy across the room is NOT love, thats attraction and infatuation, COMPLETELY different things. You are getting older now and you need to lose all the high school definitions of things like LOVE and start moving towards more grown up ideas.
2006-06-14 07:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should breathe a word about this to him or anyone in your congregation. It's unfortunate that you've fallen in love with him... is it love or infatuation? Most likely it's infatuation, which to a 19 year old seems like love. Honestly? Don't worry about this if you can help it. You already know this is a waste of time, but since you're 19, you most likely have some time to waste before you'll want to find a husband and have children. Yes, he is a man, you can speak of him as handsome. He isn't God; I don't think that would be sacreligious. You won't go to hell for loving someone! Seriously, don't worry about it, but don't do anything about it either. THAT would be dumb. You would put him in a very awkward position that would forever change the way the relationship between the two of you.
2006-06-14 08:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Iamnotarobot (former believer) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly natural to fall in love with someone like a priest or therapistor teacher. Somehow, "having it all together" or at least seeming so, is very sexy. I have always had crushes on my authority figures. There is nothing wrong with it. I don't think there is harm in telling him either. Aren't you supposed to be able to tell a priest anything? Especially in confession? He is quite a bit older than you. But the problem is, where will it go? Probably no where unless he takes advantage of you, and then, well, he doesn't really deserve to be a priest. It would be unethical for him to act on it. It sucks to be in love with someone who can't really return the emotion or act on it. Good Luck
2006-06-14 08:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by noitall147 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not go to hell just because you fell in love with a priest. But did you know that the priest is not suppose to get married because he committed his life to serve God. You are very young and you got a lot of chance to find a man that can truly love you and take care of you. As for this priest, if you truly love him, you should let him go and fulfill God's calling in his life. He will be very happy if you do, at least he will not be tempted .
2006-06-14 07:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you posted that here, because you are going to get some crazy answers.
Now, here's what I would do. Talk to some besides that priest and tell them what you feel. Ask yourself a few questions,
1. Why do you love him?
2. What was the pivotal point between you seeing him as a priest and you seeing him as someone you romantically love?
3. Do you romantically love him? or is it misinterpreted?
Pray, you can ask God what to do. It's my understanding that Priest are supposed to remain celibate and unmarried, so what could you really get from this relationship. You are okay to have the feelings and thoughts that you have, but you have to ask God to help you through them, because they are unhealthily, because the relationship can go no where. I hope I have been of some help.
2006-06-14 07:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by trulyblssd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid the situation. If he really is of God you could end up hurting him spiritually and you could scar yourself. I write this because I am also a priest. There were many different women who desire to have a relationship with me. When I prayed some of the women, the Lord would tell me "she is not for you". In some cases, He warned me that terrible things would happen out of the relationships. He told who my wife was and I have been content with that, since I have met her. But you would be better off asking God who you soul mate is, so you can avoid being hurt.
2006-06-14 07:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by super saiyan 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you will not go to hell for liking him, in fact hell is where everyone goes when they die, it's a simple misconception with the hell doctrine, hell is just the greek word for the 'common grave' there is no fire or eternal torment there. so rest your heart.
it is a humane thing to like someone, so u should tell him how u feel and i am sure u won't be condem for doing so. the only problem with that is he may not feel the same way, but what the heck, give it a try and in time it will pass off as a simple crush.
all the best.
2006-06-14 07:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Resurrected 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well feeling attraction to any person is right, you are a teen wich is part of your life to feel that way, you are no doing anithing wrong by expressing your self the way u did but you might consider that there are many other single man in the world but to putting your eyes in someone who is compromised to not accept any relation ship might be a mistake, i would tell u to look for other mature people if that is what u like but pls don't look foward a priest , a married man, a gangtar, or that kind of people that would only complicate your life, u know the right choice and u know what is right to do and what is not, by the way there are many single man waiting for a girl like u,
2006-06-14 07:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him...I know where you are coming from...While back I fell in love with a pastor...so sweet, wonderful and cute...But alas, he is happily married....He was 51 years old at the time...just something about older men that is such a turn on and a man of the cloth no less....no you won't go to hell...There are worse sins then being in love with a man of the cloth.
2006-06-14 07:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope that this is a joke....
Hello!!!! Catholic priests cant get married! They cant even have sex its forbidden, they gave that all up when they entered the priest hood!!!!!! And for him to do so, is a huge sin! Anyways you wont go to hell as long as you dont act on your feelings. Just start to think of him as a priest and nothing more than that. Meet other people, go on blind dates, go clubbin whatever. Just leave it alone, get your mind off of the priest!
2006-06-14 07:52:06 · answer #11 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋