2006-06-14 07:14:54 · 38 answers · asked by Ty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
clam down shell get over it just tell her thats wat grownups do n shell get over it
2006-06-14 07:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by ravennravennravenn 2 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Assuming this was a one time accident sort of thing. The very best thing you can do, is RUN to your nearest bookstore (or order on line immediately) and buy a book titled "It's Perfectly Normal".
It is the best birds and bees book I have ever seen (foster parent with 38 children as experience.) I cannot remember the author, and my last copy just left with one of my kids.
What makes this book the best is that it is written literally for multiple age levels, so there is information in a format that can give any child information they can comprehend. The book is honest, calm, thorough, and nonjudgmental.
I wish every child in this country had a copy at an early age.
And, next time, for crying out loud, lock the door!
2006-06-14 07:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by snoweagleltd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, realize that their is nothing wrong with what you were doing. All those people saying she is gonna need therapy are WRONG!!! Yes it can be embarrassing and a little awkward, but eventually she will forget about it. You should probably talk to her or have her mom or another female adult friend that you trust sit down with her and explain things, granted not in detail, but just give her an idea of what happened and why. It happens and no one should feel ashamed about it, not even you. Just be more careful next time and good luck!!
2006-06-14 14:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by sherry_2481 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Major OUCH!!! Number one, if your going to masturbate, don't do it where your kid has the remotest possibility of catching you in the act. Number two, I would have Mommy give her the birds and the bees talk (sounds like your daughter may have already gotten an earful at school when she told her friends what she caught you doing). Someone has probably given the poor kid the pedofile horror story talk, and that is what has made her afraid of you. Once Mommy has given the birds and the bees talk, you should both talk to her about sex, what it was you were doing and about sexual abuse. That way, she will have all of the facts straight instead of second hand from her friends at school.
2006-06-14 07:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by zharantan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been receiving alot of advise so I'll throw in my two cents worth: (A) Therapy and counselling may be the wrong approach. The child may feel guilty or responsible by having to attend therapy and counselling and certainly she has done nothing wrong. (B) Explaining sex to an eight-year-old is both confusing and in most cases, embarrassing to the child. (C) Exposing yourself with an erection, whether accidental or intentional are disgusting, reprehensive, evil and immoral. It is not possible to predict the impact it has or will have on your daughter, step-daughter or the child if you are her guardian. Not withstanding, you should immediately remove yourself from the house and the presence of the child and let this situation work itself out. God help you.
2006-06-14 12:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by JAWM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife (or the mom of the daughter if you aren't married) needs to step up to the plate and talk to her. She needs to tell daughter that what she saw daddy doing is something that most grown ups do that is private. The wife has to get the point across that what you were doing is not wrong or shameful, just a grown up private thing.
The daughter is probably confused and will better voice concerns to a woman and the woman will need to defuse the situation.
2006-06-14 07:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is a tough one. Not only was it quite a sight for her to see, but she probably doesnt even know what you are doing so on top of it all she is confused too. I'm not sure how to fix this one, Im sure lots of people will answer for you to talk to her and explain what was happening, but I think that is not necessary.. I think it will only make her more uncomfortable. If it were me I would continue about my normal routines and I would act naturally in front of my daughter and just try to move on...and please for the future be much more careful you really dont want to scar your kids for life....
2006-06-14 07:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO being a dental hygenist makes you an authority on masturbation these days? lol
I think it is sick that you were doing that with your 8 year old daughter anywhere around. You should be ashamed. Does your wife know? Or the girls mother if you aren't married? Best to let her talk to her about it.
2006-06-14 08:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As uncomfortable as it might be this would be a good time to have the "sex talk" explain her body and your body and what people go through. Of course she is too young to understand and hear everything. But there are some things that she needs to be hearing now.
She is probably scared,confused, and uncomfortable. You just have to let her know nothing is wrong and that is part of the human body.
2006-06-14 07:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit her down and explain to her that masturbation is a natural part of life. Tell her there is nothing wrong with what you were doing. In the future I would try to make sure there is a locked door between you and her.
2006-06-14 07:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by B R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Dad, time to get Mom and have a long age appropriate talk with your daughter. This is a good time to open communication up with her, so that in the future, if she has a question she will know that she can come to you.
Masturbation is normal and healthy...and she needs to be told that it is ok. This is not the time for you to get embarassed and nervous.
Just talk to her.
2006-06-14 15:21:55 · answer #11 · answered by icey shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋