this girl wants to give her baby my last name how can i stop her from using it its not my baby?

Question

i don't want anything to do with her or her baby and i don't want her to use my last name. she said she was going to use it because she likes the last name. she wants my name on the birth certificate when the baby is born. can she just write my name on it. i hope not i don't want my name on it.

i am using my wifes account because i don't usually do this.i have two kids of my own.

i am married just not to her

Answer 1

Yeah, she can't legally do that without your consent. You have to be there to sign if she is putting names on birth certificates. She can't just give the baby any last name. They will question her since it will be different then hers, and she has to have proof of that name. She won't have it, so she can't use it.

Answer 2

One important factor is legal paternity. You say you don't want anything to do with this person or her child, but have you definitively proven that you are NOT the father? You know if you've had sexual relations with her or not, and you should know an approximate timeline if you did.

An unmarried woman usually cannot use the alleged father's last name arbitrarily. The child would have her last name, but the father's name may be listed on the birth certificate. In the case of an unmarried couple wishing to announce the birth of a child in the newspaper, both parents must sign off on a permission form.
If there is no signature from the father, the newspaper cannot run an announcement.

I wonder what is so special about your surname that she would prefer it to her own? I could understand the use of a first name, if you were a special friend to her. The surname thing sounds like a paternity issue.

Answer 3

Unfortunately you can't stop her...Just look at it this way...It's not ONLY YOUR LAST NAME! There are plenty people in the world with your last name I'm sure. I think you should just let her look like the fool in the end and request a paternity test after the baby is born if there is even the slightest doubt (you know, like you really DID have sex with her before). You are going to have to fork over the money for the test though if its not court mandated...they can be VERY expensive like $200+ (I hear, more on the plus side). But of course she can't put you on the birth certificate as the father if you don't sign it so don't worry about that. But she will look crazy when the baby turns out not to be yours and you can move on with your life.

Answer 4

No she can't..Especially if you aren't married..You'll have to be there to sign the birth certificate. In order for the child to have your last name. If so, you'll be acknowledging you are the father...At least in the state of GA.

If it goes down like that..Then you are responsible for child support. Contact who you can to see what your rights are in your state.. Each state varies..But you should have to be there in order for her to put your name down.

Unless she talking about giving the child your name as a middle name or something. AND not as the same last name as yours.

I can't help but ask the question why is she doing this..I know you said she likes your name. Did something happen between the two of you?? I believe there's more to this story than you are sharing with us...

Answer 5

As fir using your last name yes she can. As for your name being on the birth certificate. (at least in california) You have to be present to be put on there. Because you are not married. If you go see her inthe hospital. DO NOT put your name on any papers. Do not sign any thing that says P O P form. I work in a hospital and I help with the birth certificates. If your in california. Your ok. I don't know in othere states. good luck.

Answer 6

She can say your daddy but she cant list your last name without a signature if your not married! You could take home dna later if she figures out how to do it or does it illegally. They are about $200 dollars but it saves child support problems right!See a lawyer. Does your wife know? Talk with her about it because how will it look if she shows up with a baby with your name! Not even cool right?Good Luck! Refuse to go to hospital when baby born or to sign anything.

Answer 7

Well if the baby is yours she should be able to use it. It sounds like you have some cheating issues going on and don't know how to handle them.If your sur the baby isn't yours, legally even if she give the baby your last name as long as you don't sign any documents at the hospital at the time of birth you should be ok. Next time put a Jimmy on your Willy

Answer 8

She could always change the name to yours if that's not what's on the birth certificate, but depending on what state you live in, unless you sign a Voluntary Acknowledgment of Paternity or a DNA test confirms that you are the father she won't have a legal right to child support or to your assets.

Answer 9

hey! I don't know where you live but in the state of Va, She CAN NOT!
I am 38 weeks preggers with my second child! when I divorced my ex-husband I kept his last name for my 6 year old son and now that I am ready any day for this baby it will carry his last name until my fiance signs the papers in front of a notary republic! In a similar case with my sister she had to have DNA to prove who the father was and then he had to pay $600 just to give the baby his name and it was his. So try not to worry!!

Answer 10

she can use the last name if the child is yours, and then you will have to contest it through a blood test, if it comes out to being yours then you will be leagally responsible for the child and will have to pay child support as well as pay for the paternity test

why would someone want to do that? something doesn't seem right

are you just saying this so your wife thinks its really not yours? if thats the case be a man and take responsibility for your actions, the truth will come out and in the end you will be the bad guy

good luck to the lady who is having the baby, you seem like a handful!