My boyfriend and I do not want my brother at my house because he is still friends with my ex. My ex-boyfriend beat me over the course of our relationship for over a year. He Stalked me at my work when I was finally able to leave him, and threated to kill me and anyone else I went out with. My new boyfriend knew nothing about him, but my ex smashed out his windshield and a window from his car when we first started dating, then almost a year later he got into a fight with him at walmart. Soon after he began attempting to set up my new boyfriend up at work (he delivers), and have him deliver to empty apartments on his block where him and his friends would "jump" my new boyfriend...until the point where his work would no longer take deliveries to my ex's street. Now, after all this, and the beatings and abuse I took, my brother is still friends with him (my ex). Am I wrong for not wanting my brother at my new home until he is no longer friends wit my ex?(we have a new baby also)
2006-06-14 06:41:34 · 15 answers · asked by lilhot_mama87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if your brother is still hanging out with this guy after all that he sounds a little unstable himself. keep him away from your baby until he comes around.
2006-06-14 06:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by rishathra7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound like a "know it all", but you and your brother must not be very close. I understand that you don't trust him at this point and don't want him in your house, but do you think that he would allow any of this to go on as long as he is around while it's happening. Maybe he just doesn't want to get involved, or get stuck in the middle. I think your brother loves you, and in his mind he knows that you are a grown woman and can take care of yourself. If your ex is with your brother when your brother comes over, then I would tell him not to come over anymore as long as your ex is with him. Good luck and take good care of that baby.
2006-06-14 13:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand why keeping him away from your house will help the situation. I hope you've went to the authorities for all of your ex's disturbing actions.
uhmm, on second thought, maybe you should take out a "no thug" policy for your home. If your brother is a thug too, then it's him who has lost.
2006-06-14 13:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mariah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong; your brother should have taken your side. What kind of brother doesn't want to protect his sister? Maybe at some point in the future you and your brother can repair your relationship, but if you think that any danger is going to come to your child, you need to protect your child. Also it's your house so guess what--your rules. You get to decide who is welcome and who isn't, on any criteria you wish.
2006-06-14 13:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is that fair? He's your blood. He has every right to be friends with whom ever he chooses. If he didn't like your current boyfriend would you choose your brother over your boyfriend? It's not right to put your brother in the situation to choose. If I was in your situation and I was your brother and you gave me a ultimatum I'd choose my friend.
There is three sides to your story. The ex's, yours, and the truth. It's not fair of you to make him have to choose.
2006-06-14 13:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your brother is a real traitor, normally Im all for sticking by your family, but in this case, I think you are entirely justified. Keep your brother away, hopefully he will wake up and come back to you.
2006-06-14 13:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by bmwdriver11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's totally fine you have the right to protect your home and your family and if your brothers loves you he'll respect that Good Luck Best Wishes;)
2006-06-14 13:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I would also get a restraining order against your ex so that you have a legal leg to stand on if anything else happens.
2006-06-14 13:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by icddppl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your brother is a jerk for siding with your ex. I wouldn't want him around either.
2006-06-14 13:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by gentle giant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to understand your brother, he never takes sides on anything for anyone. that is just the way he is.he would NEVER tell where you lived and you should know that.HE IS BLOOD! yes he was very wrong about what he said on myspace.
love mom
JUST TOO LET YOU ALL KNOW MY SON IS NOT A THUG! NEVER HAS BEEN NEVER WILL!
2006-06-14 19:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyes634970 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋