2006-06-14 06:32:24 · 9 answers · asked by benam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my question is not meant to insult. It raises some very serious issues. When a nation start losing respect and love for their elders then its time to realise that the danger bells are ringing for that culture. it is sad but i am not out of marks if some random statistics done by NGOs are to be believed.
2006-06-14 21:13:40 · update #1
There is no culture of old-age home in this part of the world. It is socially inacceptable for a son not to care for his parents.
2006-06-15 06:19:17 · update #2
I think different cultures usually have different values when it comes to caring for an elderly relative...I know Asian people care for their parents and Reverend them...I am Hispanic...we also would try are hardest not to have to send a parent to a nursing home. Our thoughts are....Honor thy father and thy mother. I would expect the same from my children...though I myself would never want to be a burden to them.
2006-06-14 09:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this perception is not only absolutely incorrect, but very offensive.
People don't "abandon their parents" when they leave them "at the mercy" of "old age home". They are taking their parents into consideration and providing for them the best that they can when they leave their parents in the care of skilled nursing and caregivers. Just as their parents looked out for them and tried to give them the very best as they were growing up, it is now their turn to do the same for their parents. If they can't give their parents the very best care on their own, then sometimes they have to leave them in nursing homes or residential care facilities.
To say that they are leaving them "at the mercy" is horribly offensive, these facilities do all that they can not only to help the residents get healthy and stay healthy, but they provide a loving and caring environment in which they try to promote happiness and satisfactions for the residents of their homes.
Granted, there have been a few homes that give all other homes a bad name--those very small handfull of homes have given millions of homes the label of "abusers", "thiefs" and "murderers". That is as incorrect and as offensive as saying "All middle-easterners are terrorists that hate America", or "All black people are criminals that thrive off the welfare system" or "All white men in their twenties and thirties are serial killers." That's not true. It might be true in select cases, but not in the majority. You can't take a label that is correct for one home and apply it to all others because it IS likely that the particular home could be an exception to the norm.
2006-06-14 13:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by ashley_lynn143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started working in a nursing home at the age of 15 and I now work in a hospital and i told my parents (at the age of 15) that I would never place them in a nursing home and 13 years later I wouldn't change my decision no matter what they would not get the attention or care that I would give at home. I think alot of people do it because they don't have the time or patience to care for them. They don't want to have to put their life on hold or work around dealing with the care of their parents its just easier to drop them off and visit on holidays. (which some families do others never see family it is just too sad)
2006-06-14 13:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by deedees77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This varies greatly across the nation. I have friends that have grandparents that live on their own, live with one of their children, live in assisted living centers, or live in a nursing home. Not all nursing homes are bad, there are some truly great homes that care about their patients. That being said, there are also some terrible ones that I wouldn't put my worst enemy in! Some individuals don't have a life style that allows them to move their parents in when they cannot care for themselves. For example, my father's friend Steve travel all over the world and can't be there to care for his mother. But he has the financial means to provide good care for her so he purchased her a house close to his home and hired a nursing staff for her. Not all people can afford that. It really depends on the child's financial situation and personal beliefs. I hope my kids set me up in a nice condo with a hot pool boy, haha!
2006-06-14 13:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Candice H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife works for a county nursing home. Yes some people are just left there because the next of kin can not care for them or does not want to. But the most people there are to sick to get home care. Their relatives try to spend as much time with them as they can.But its hard to work, raise children, & care for the old.
2006-06-14 13:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in any country normally must send their folks to a geriatric home a s they age. The responsibilkities of life and time constraints make it IMPOSSIBLE to take care of an aged person with all one has to do to simply survive.
2006-06-14 13:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that is not correct. most people that put their parents in an old folks home have money to do it because it is expensive. Most people of the older generation have their own homes and live in them with family or themselfs and their 49 cats. :) :) :D:D:):)
2006-06-14 13:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how insulting!My parents are 85 and 82 and they live in their own house.
where do your elderly live ?
what if your parents were medically needy or senile to a point where they are a danger to themselves and others?
2006-06-14 16:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by changeling 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some don't ..... you attempt to stereotye we Americans .... wonder if you get pissed when we do that to the people wherever you are from?
2006-06-14 13:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by sam21462 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋