There is this one girl who came over to my place and well we had been dating for a long time and already had sex 4 times. The problem that occured is on the fifth time on a different day before there was a fifth time i was kissing the neck the ears and being soft. Then she saise to me come on i know you want it then spread one of her legs far towards the bed as she was laying on her back. Just because you dont love a person doesnt mean sex always has to be a screw fest. So i said to her well i sometimes am passionate and romantic about my ways couldnt you tell? She said im not ready to be serious i said who said serious? So my question is this if you have sex with someone your not in love with but like to be with is all sex just a way to get off or can it be romantic and passionate? What are your thoughst on this lady? Am i in the wrong?
2006-06-14 06:25:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
o and i forgot to add that when she did this i kinda just slowly moved off of her? Basically i said no to sex that night and she started to cry and wanted to go home. What did i do?
2006-06-14 06:32:25 · update #1
well - it sounds like you are both coming at this from different angles. I think you can have passion and romance with someone even if you are not serious or in love. But other people don't look at it that way so you need to find someone to meet in the middle or find someone who looks at it the way you do
2006-06-14 06:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. Continue to have sex the way you like it. The greatest lovers in the world had sex like you do. Just stick to your guns and continue being a Cassanova. Soon, the women will be addicted to you. You'd rather have a good name then a guy who used them.
2006-06-14 13:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by youknowwho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. is just because your are a nice guy. but remember nice guys finish last. if your girlfriend want to have sex the go for it. only if you found out that she has std then don't. truthfully having sex with someone you love is more satisfying.
2006-06-16 06:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can be romantic and have passionate sex even with a person you don't love but obviously this lady doesn't think the same
2006-06-14 13:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by sorryna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope not going to happen right away but can. Sometime the other person gets close and then you just might lose interest and or have found someone else
2006-06-14 13:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by blanco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW YOU CAN HAVE SEX WITH SOME ONE ALL THE TIME, WITH THAT CERTAIN PERSON, AND BE ROMANTIC AND SENSUAL. BUT AT THE SAME TIME NOT BE IN LOVE WITH THEM. YEAH SOME TIME YOU WNAT THAT GIVE IT TO ME ATTITUDE AND OTHERS YOU WANNA JUST TAKE YOUR TIME AND SAVOR THE FLAVOR. I THINK YOU ARE RIGHT, DO YOU BABY! SHE DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE IS MISSING, OR MAY BE SHE WOULD HAVE FELL FOR YOU. AND DON'T WANT TO ALLOW HERSELF TO DO THAT!
2006-06-14 13:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by PHATSWEETCAT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As time goes along and you are in more relationships you will learn the real meaning of sex and love. For the time being please be careful and always use a condom.
2006-06-14 13:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not all sex is just a way to get off you dont have to love someone to have sex and it mean something.
2006-06-14 13:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by shelley v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you needs to find someone who wants the same thing that you want. You want to be passionate and she just wants to go buck wild.
2006-06-14 13:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't wrong. I think people should be flexible and able to have different types of sex. Maybe she was sexually abused. People who are sexually abused sometimes have weird stuff going on.....
2006-06-14 13:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋