The two talk a lot. They like each other as friends. They don't kiss or hug at all but they are very fond of each other and consider themselves boyfriend and girlfriend. Are they too young. They are both going to be 12 in October.
2006-06-14 06:20:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Both kids are very smart and I have HUGE trust in both of them that they won't do anything stupid. Also I know that my daughter likes this kid a lot so I'm not going to cut it off.
2006-06-14 06:49:05 · update #1
Well I won't cut it off unless they attempt to do something stupid or not age-appropriate.
2006-06-14 06:49:51 · update #2
Wow..... I know a lot has changed since I was that age, but "going out" consisted of holding hands in the halls, sitting next to each other at lunch, and helping each other with homework. Because you already know that there is no physical contact, I wouldn't worry about it too much, as long as you keep an eye out, and keep the line of communication open with your daughter. It just seems they are great friends, which is a good thing. Kids in pre-school and kindergarten have "boyfriends" and "girlfriends."
Now if you had any reason to suspect anything further was going on, then I'd worry. I'm aware kids are getting pregnant younger and younger these days, but it doesn't seem that is the situation with your daughter. I would ask her what she knows about sex, and then fill in the holes as you deem necessary, as this realtionship may progress over time. That's maybe what's bugging you- the potential.
2006-06-14 08:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by punchy333 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, your daughter could be fond of my son... as I have a son the same age, who is also very fond of girls from time to time. Like you said, very unserious (although they talk about marriage), no physical contact, infact the girls are always from another town and most communication is by cell phone or MSN. I've been concerned about it, but I know if I tell him he can't have a girlfriend that he'll sneak around. I try to keep the communication open. I do believe they are too young, but have no idea how to stop it. Basically they are just two kids with the same interests, just maybe going a bit overboard. I guess just try to keep on top of things, keep the communication open and let her know the boundaries and what happens if she crosses those boundaries, then stay firm and consistent. Anyway, that's my plan... good luck!
2006-06-14 06:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that it is pretty normal. I have 13 year old sisters (they are twins) who are boy crazy and have had a boys that they consider to be "boyfriends" but have done nothing that is not age appropriate. They talk to each other alot on the phone but have yet to hold hands with a boy let alone kiss a boy.
And who knows I met my husband in the fifth grade...we dated on and off through out high school and got married 6 years ago. We have two beautiful children together.
She's just exploring. I don't think that you have anything to worry about.
2006-06-20 11:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by kristina.constable@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to have a "boyfriend" in 5th grade, as long as basically they are just a boy and girl who are friends, and it ends there. It is sweet, but watch for signs of a changing relationship between the two.
If something more than talking is suspected, cut them off. I'm not saying your daughter is one of these girls, but a lot of 12 year olds these days end up pregnant. Just look at how many of them post questions on here asking about pregnancy symptoms!
Good luck!
2006-06-14 06:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hi.. I am 11 and understand ttly because i am not one of those girls but have friends that are.. It's very very important for you to talk as much as you can about this with your daughter, now see at our school they actually go out to movies and eat lunch at school together. And a kid may have a couples party and they would go. The parents do know about this but dont know ALL the details like recently a girl had an end of year going to 6th grade party (parents invited). almost all of the kids played a game of "would you rather" now in this game you actually had to do it. They were playing behind a huge bounce where no one could see. In our case 3 couples kissed on lips!!! One of them kissed his ex-girlfriend then went and talked and held hands with a different ex-girlfriend of his.
The parents at the party found out and thought this was crazy. A lot of people told you preschoolers do it too. I have a sister who's four we go to the same school and she does this but also plays princess games and stuff, that's totally different 11 yr old's understand what little kids don't. I had my first crush at like 6 or 7 it's a bit more than Just a Crush. And in my school they teach us human developement a.k.a. sex ed. in fifth grade and we all understand and talk about all of it. so talk to her about this stuff. It really depends on you. But in my opinion I think it's okay to like each other and talk and flash smiles but not do CRAZY stuff like my classmates do.
Hope it Helps.
2006-06-15 09:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by monkey. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they're not "alone" together I think it's fine. My daughter (6th grade) has a friend that's a boy. My husband and I were very cautious at first. She asked if he could come to her birthday party, which was a sleepover. My husband about had a heart attack and said no way!!!!! He did relent and let him come and stay until dinner was over. Come to find out...his nick name is "Fancy Pants". Like the boy off of the movie school of rock! He still wasn't allowed to spend the night though!!!!!!!!
We all got a kick out of it.
Good luck with the tweens!
2006-06-14 09:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with this same issue with my 6th grader. Kids this age take themselves so seriously and are so dramatic. I would just keep a very close eye on the situation. I have been told that everything you describe is age appropriate and normal so I try hard to believe that. So I watch and keep communication open with my daughter and pray that she will tell me or another trusted adult about anything that makes her uncomfortable.
Do I personnally feel they are too young? Heck , yes!! But don't let others make you feel like you are a crappy mother because you child is growing up.
2006-06-14 06:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about supervision. If there is constantly adequate supervision then I don't see there being a problem. Realize though that hormones can kick in at any point and make this a situation that will require a lot of communication. Probably best to have such communication now.
2006-06-15 12:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is in 5th grade as well and has a so called boyfriend. I don't find anything inappropriate about it. They are just being friends don't worry so much about it. When I was in that grade my best friend was a boy. We did everything together bike ride sleepovers in the tent. We were just friends nothing more. Good luck
2006-06-18 18:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by misses e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess you have gotten yourself into. You need to focus on one thing at a time. #1 is to protect your children. If there is abuse, you need to get away from it. #2 is to get your life together without adding the drama of a different relationship, especially with a man who is not available. Do not come between your ex and his wife. Think about that poor baby about to be born into such chaos. Stop thinking about yourself for a moment, and think about what is best for the children, and for God's sake, don't have any more!
2016-03-15 04:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋