My parent go divorced when i was 5 and i mom go remarried when i was 10 i have no problem with him but i call him now by his first name and i feel that since i have a father and call him dad am i in the wrong for not calling my step-father dad because he has givin so much to my mother and i.
2006-06-14 06:10:12 · 19 answers · asked by BAM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You call him whatever you want and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Speaking as a stepmother, my stepsons know that they can call me by my first name or they can call me Mom. They choose to call me Mom. Just because they do doesn't mean they love their biological Mother any less, it's just that they know they have 2 Mom's that love them. I'm sure your stepfather feels the same way. If you still have doubts just talk to him about it.
2006-06-14 10:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 9⤊ 3⤋
My first step father i called Dad he married my mom when i was 5 and i didn't have a dad so that's what i called him. Then when i was older my mom married yet again and i just called him by his first name. It's hard to start calling someone dad when you are older and if it feels weird don't do it, it's not neccessary. If you want to show your appreciation for what your step dad has done then make or buy him something nice for father's day ( coming up soon on June 18) and get him a card and write and tell him how you feel about his fatherly skills.
2006-06-14 06:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by noone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a step parent myself, I know what its like. My dad remarried about 7 years ago, and yet to this day I still call my step mother by her first name. Once in a while I call her mom, but I only started doing it once I felt more comfortable.
Its not wrong to call him by his first name, or to call him 'dad'. If your real father is still in your life, then its like you dont want to act like he means nothing to you, and you also dont want to hurt him by calling another man "Dad'. Only start calling your step-father dad when you feel it is right. And explain to your real father that you love him and that no one could ever replace him, but you feel as if you're step-father is a father to you as well.
Maybe (if at all possible) what you need to do is sit down with your parents (All 3 of them mind you) and discuss with them what you are feeling, and they could perhaps tell you what they think about the situation. Ultimately, the choice is yours!
2006-06-14 06:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Iverson*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him whatever you feel comfortable calling him. Both my parents remarried long ago when I was a kid, and I never called my step-parents anything but their first name, because I already had a mom and dad. Maybe you could think of a nickname or a special name just for him.
2006-06-14 06:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First name
2006-06-14 09:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Melissamry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem calling him by his first name. I have about 6 step mothers and 4 step fathers and call them all by fist names. As long as you are conftorble, I dont see the problem
2006-06-15 03:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Destined2beGreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him dad because it sounds like to me that your real dad didn't care about u guys. but this step dad has gave every thing to u. So I would call him dad. My mom just got married and my step dad I call him dad because my real dad left me when I was born? I hope u choose to start calling him dad.
2006-06-15 04:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Army girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him Dad too........I have 2 "Moms" and I love them both. If your stepfather has been like a father to you, then make sure on Fathers day you acknowledge that too.........It takes a very special man to be a dad to a child that's not biologically his.
2006-06-14 06:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by notjunecleaver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its find to call him by his name. I call my step mom by her name. Just because you don't call him dad doesn't mean that you don't love or respect him. You're step father will understand too
2006-06-14 06:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by lemonheads 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is extremely sturdy of u :) in the cardboard u could write, you're my father, or if that's only too a lot write some thing like you've continuously been a good dad to me. i dnt imagine there is anythign incorrect in calling him dad immediately out, as a father is all people who cares for u.
2016-10-30 21:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
similar situation. my ex husband left when my son was 4 1/2 and i have been with my husband now for 5yrs. he is GREAT to me and my son. but my son still calls him by his first name even though he is more of a dad to him then his real dad. i never asked but i dont think that it hurts his feelings that he is called by his first name. do what ever feels more comfortable to you.
2006-06-14 06:15:22 · answer #11 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋