Why do people keep having kids?

Question

I love kids, but arent there enough people out there? And, arent there kids without homes that you could adopt instead? Damn, all my friends are constantly having babies they cant take care of..Its not fair to those kids. What are your thoughts on having kids?

Answer 1

I SAY IF YOU CAN AFFORD THEM GO AHEAD, BUT LIKE YOU SAID, IF THEY CAN'T THEY REALLY SHOULDN'T BE HAVING BABY'S...WHY BRING A CHILD IN TO THE WORLD FOR THE SAKE OF ONLY SUFFERING...???

Answer 2

Hi There-

In fact, we could put all the people in the world in an area the size of Texas, and their population density would be roughly the same as Paris, France. In most places of the world, it is not that there are too many people, but that they lack the technology, infrastructure and honest governments to support their current population...remove half the kids, and you will see the same problems.

There are also a lot of problems that come when you have an aging population (people who are retiring) and no younger people running the factories and services that the retired people rely-upon.

I am about to have a child, and I'll tell you that for me the reason is that it is another form of growth. You can go to school or focus on your carreer only so much. At a certain point, you look for other ways to grow. For me, growing and nurturing a child- showing her how to be a better person than I, and teaching her to become a member of the human race- these are very fulfilling things that force us to become more versatile ourselves. It is truly a selfless act where I no longer get to be the center of my universe...she is.

As to adopting: I have to say that adopting is a very difficult process. I have friends who were unable to have a baby. They spent years doing it and had to travel to China to get her. This was a very very expensive and time consuming process. If you can more easily have a baby who is biologically decended from you, why not do that?

I must say that there is much bonding that takes place between the mother and baby while she is pregnant, and even bonding for me (the dad).

Answer 3

I'm a little tired of this generation having unprotected sex and not being responsible. I don't know if it's them or the parents should be blamed (depending on how old). It's just the females are making very bad decisions, not necessarily the males, because it's the females choice if the want to take it or not.
I'm also a little tired how most men trick women into having sex (mind games). It seems that people these days think that "Love" is "Sex" and it's really just "Sex". Sex is a feeling, it's not love.

Also, I don't care much about the adopting rather than having kids (don't understand much of that unless your old), but I do care about adopting from other countries when there are kids here in USA that needs a good home. Like babies are some kind of collectors item. Like exotic ones, etc.

Answer 4

I have two children of my own and I totally understand where you are coming from. There are so many people inthis world who are suffering, it doesn't make any sense to keep having children if you cannot care for them.

Being a mother of two really great children, I have trouble too. But I am always sure to put them first and they are very well cared for. If I ever wanted any more children then I think that I would consider adoption to give a child without a home and family a chance at a good life.

I think that most people have their own children instead of adopting because they want to produce children of their own flesh and blood. It is an amazing experiance and totally understandable. Though agree with why they keep having their own, as I did, I can see where this could be a selfish thing to do, as they are concerend about producing their own children and saying that the abandond ones are not as good as their own offspring.

I love children very much and your question has got me thinking again, about trying to help out the children with no homes and familys to be with. Thanks for bringing it up!

Answer 5

I am 19 years old I have a one year old son and am 3 months pregnant with another. I am a good mother. I am by no means rich or even just well off but I take care of my son. I do receive some food stamps but that's it. My fiance and I both work so its not like I'm just living off of welfare. I am also attending school in order to better our lives. I wanted to have a family young. I didn't want to be 40 and have a 4 year old. I also wouldn't want to adopt unless I had to. I think there is just something so special and irreplaceable about having your own child. I realize some people cant have kids and they adopt which is great for them but not me. I don't think you should criticize people you know nothing about. I know some people my age have 3 kids, without a father, are very immature, don't take care of their kids, and live on welfare, but not all of them. I also have a few friends my age with kids and they are also good parents.

Answer 6

Because babies and children are wonderful, sweet, beautiful little people. It's impossible to describe to someone who doesn't have children just exactly how you can love one little person so much. They can't fathom it.

Some people just love big families. Personally, I think two or three is a good number. I'm a little concerned about having my third one (I'm not pregnant yet...we're waiting until our other two are in school before we try again, IF we try again.) because at that point, my husband and I will be outnumbered. LOL

Then, there are some people who have large families because they have to. Not so common anymore, but when my great grandmother was born (early 1900s) her mom had 14 children. They had a working farm, and needed the children to help out around the place.

Why are you so against people who have children? Unless I'm mistaken, I detect a hint of jealousy in this question you've posted. Are you barren? If so, I'm deeply sorry...

Answer 7

First of all, sometimes things happen that can't be helped (like an unexpected pregnancy) but after a teen has a baby and isnt' marrried they should use birth control since obviously they knew what caused the first baby to come along. Alot of teens aren't aware of the consequences of having a baby and how much work they are after they are here. As for adults having babies, they are adults and can choose to have as many children as they can provide for. I don't think it is anybody's choice but their own. And as for adopting kids, do you know how hard they make it nowadays to adopt a child!! I think that is ridiculous when there are alot of babies that need a home and couples wanting a baby that can't have them that want one so bad! This is one messed up world we live in today!

Answer 8

you would not know unless you have one. so if I were you i would not even talk.Its a gift that God gives certain women not all women can say I am a mother and not all mothers are good ones but just the thought of making the most beautiful thing from a sperm and an egg wich are two cells very small not noticed through the naked eye. Into something as beautiful as a baby. Again you dont know when you have one then you tell us why people keep having babies.

Answer 9

Unfortunately people do not always think the way you think. I love kids but I had one and never would want to have other. People do not think of what it will cost to raise a child now days and then they get hit with the realty that they can not take care of those innocent little ones and the little ones grow up to get in trouble. I think parents need to be held more accountable for their actions and be responsible for what they do. It is not the child's fault that the parent is not a responsible grown human being

Answer 10

I think humans have an instinctive drive to have children, and it's also common to get pregnant unintentionally.

You're right, many children are waiting for adoption, but most of them have been taken away from their parents and put in foster homes that may not be healthy. They often have serious emotional, mental, or physical difficulties that will make them a challenge to raise. It's not for everyone. Adopting a healthy infant is expensive and time consuming.

I completely agree, no one should have children unless they're prepared to care for them.

Answer 11

Because it is their choice. If you feel that strongly about it then I suggest that when you are old enough you should make the decision to adopt.
I also get the feeling from your question and comments that your friends are young. Yes, I do believe there are way too many teens having babies and it is good to see at least one who is aware of the responsibility.