My son didn't get into pre-school. I was hoping he would b/c he let's little kids run over him and he's quite.

Question

When we are in public he will let another kid take a toy that he was playing w/. He could have just gotten there. When we see family that we have'nt seen in a long time he doesn't associate w/ them. When I took him to pre-school screening he's father had to stay w/ him at first. Then he was the last one out. But he did end up liking the teacher. (Ms. Oliver from Pleasant Grove.) I scared b/c I think he will let kids run him, he may not eat at school(b/c he's so picky), and he just may not play w/ the kids. I did enroll him in t-ball. Sometimes he plays then sometimes he's in his own world. We've been playing since April and he still does not talk to any of the kids or give them 5 after the game.

Answer 1

in response to another answer you have received, no offense to the answerer, but NO the LAST thing you want to do is go to a doctor to diagnose your child at an age that's NOT EVEN OLD ENOUGH FOR SCHOOL! And there is no such thing as a diagnosis doctor that will NOT diagnose a patient; this is because of the insurance money they receive every time they give out medicine, when medicine doesn't work, etc. If you take him to a doctor, he will have to take medicine for THE REST OF HIS LIFE and he is too young to be diagnosed as crazy. If you tell a doctor what you told us, (him in his own world), although I know its just because he's a kid and it IS early enough to fix, we can do something about it, the DOCTOR WILL diagnose him with something that other kids Will call CRAZY. If you tell the doctor he is in his own world, he will be diagnosed with Schizophrenia. And schizophrenia people are the ones everyone hates, including kids.

Let me save you the research and tell u the basics. Schizophrenia means you see things and hear thing that aren't there.

And the medicine they give ur child might even make him WORST! It might make him worst to the 10th power! And you probably won't even notice! And he probably might TELL YOU HIMSELF! but you WON'T LISTEN. So do NOT go have him see a doctor to get him diagnosed with him at the age of 4.

OK now to tell what TO do. Since he is a child, he will be influenced by whatever he sees: including tv. Allow him to watch a PG 13 movie in which someone DOES stand up for himself. Let him watch the movie, like the character, and let him see the character defend himself and stick up for himself. If he likes the character enough, he'll use his technique and see that its ok to defend himself.

And you are a very good parent as far as I can tell! Its good u signed him up for t ball. The only thing my father let me do was homework!

Answer 2

i am a teacher for 25yrs.. i still to day run a inhome childcare from infancy to 29yrs old.. no joking i work a with a lot of ages.. in my field..

you my dear have one of the most amazing children.. Us teachers love.. belive me.. he is the thinker.. he is watching everyone else.. he is observing how to handle problems.. he is watching you and his dad talk back and forth..

as for the t-ball.. he has nothing to say.. it is that simple. these kids have no social skills and probly will not his entire life. i am one of them... THEY MAKE THE BEST TEACHERS.. LOL

So don't worry.. what you can do to help is start makeing a specal daddys and me day and let dad take him to other friend house.. let him see how he is to respond to other men..

no offence but daddy dose not have a lot of friends????? just a question.. becouse when this happends the boys do not know how to ack around other boys.. that could be as simple as this.. it is not a mother thing.. you can not do anything for this child to change this..

it is all about the FATHER AND SON.. have his father take him out to resurants and to the movies... he needs dad time.. let him take him in the car for rides.. and work on them.. let him show him his job.. ect.. stay home.. do something else..

When a boy turns 3 yrs old.. it is daddys time to raise him.. if he dose not have daddys time.. then i am sorry but no mother in the world can make up for this..

i am proven.. i though i could teach my son all the man things.. I WAS SO VERY WRONG.. IN THE END.. he need dad..

Answer 3

Talk to your son's doctor, and make sure there's nothing medically going on with him. If not, he may just be an introverted kid.

Answer 4

Kids have their own way of communication. It may just be that he's not very talkable yet. Don't be too pushy. Let him adjust on his own.