I meet these cute guys that i really like, and then they like me. We go on a date. then the next few days are really awkward..past people have said i act weriod, and i end up not liking them anymore what should i do to change that?
2006-06-14 05:07:45 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i guess i just loose interset in them after a date, and when they call.
2006-06-14 05:23:51 · update #1
Dating is really more challenging than it sounds. We are trained for every other social setting, but like having your first baby, there's no manual than can really prepare you. Most of us flounder and make mistakes and learn from them, and it sounds like you're in that state. Give yourself permission to not be perfect at something you're learning to do, and let what has happened in the past become a tool to take you where you want to go. Here's a site with some tips and ideas: http://www.vitaminsdiary.com/dating/
. If you keep trying, the man you're looking for will come.
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2006-06-14 05:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, does this happens always ? If yes then, its something in you which is too irritating for others. See, all have some psychological traits.. They are more likely to play role in the events that occur to us, Its not always the other people that make it difficult. You have got to understand yourself first. I have a feeling that you have a habbit of beginning anything with good interest and later loose interest with time. I strongly think you need to find out what people comment on you when they seem like they dont wanna go forward with you. Once you know what they think, just keep an eye on yourself and if you find it problemati, consider changing it. I wanna say, you cant base yourself on other peoples opinion. But still you need to understand where you lack. All relations work only when both parties get what they want from each other ! See to it also that no one demands more than what you can provide. Relation will fail in this case too. Be careful ! Have the best
2006-06-14 12:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Aratj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some expectations about how a relationship should go and it doesn't correspond with what happens. You need to communicate clearly with your dates about what you want and expect. Dating is usually awkward at first and to some degree you need to just accept that. The best thing you can do is follow up the first date with a planned second one doing something that you both can look forward to. That way you can fill the time in between planning and talking about the up coming date.
2006-06-14 12:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there is a reason why youre not liking them. is it that you get scared or nervous or do you honestly lose interest in them? sometimes you have to date a lot of people to meet someone youre compatible with so if you dont like them dont feel bad, just hold out for someone that you can really see yourself with. keep dating around and be yourself until you find the right person. good luck!
2006-06-14 12:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Hez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to sit back and take a look at what you are wanting,, is it the thrill of seeing if you can get them to ask you out? Or is it that you aren't sure what to do the day after you had the date.
Take a couple weeks to see how you feel then try try again. Or maybe your wanting instant commitment from them?
Take time to figure out what your expectations are then adjust yourself as needed.
2006-06-14 12:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem- I am very weird, an artist and very off beat... I say weird things and make weird jokes. I use to scare some guys away.... but eventually you'll meet that guy who is perfect for you and gets your personality. I am 29 and last year I met the guy I am marrying.......
Don't change for anybody or anything... just be yourself and it will eventually work out and you meet that special person.
2006-06-14 12:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a look at yourself and see if you have changed since you have been hanging out with your new "friends". Maybe to the old group is jealous or maybe you have been treating them differently. You need to talk to the old group and find out what is really wrong. And you need to listen to there comments and try not to let it get to you. Realize that if it was you who were telling a friend that they treated you different you would want them to hear you out.
2006-06-14 12:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things easy u really dont have to like everything about someone the first time you have a date, take time out to know people before deciding whether or not you like 'em.
2006-06-14 12:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by cyberpaul007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i dint really get u u likes those two guys n u went on date m i right if u dont like them now anymore why are to thinking so much about it
2006-06-14 12:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - love the name!
Second - maybe you should chill out a bit little sister, let the boys chase you for a while!!!
Some dudes don't like agressive women...
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-14 12:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋