What should a mother do if her 5 year old son likes to get in the bed with her every night?

Answer 1

You move the child to their own bed and say this is where you sleep and do it every night untill they sleep in their own rooms. If the child cries let them they have to sleep in their own rooms.

Answer 2

If its ok with the mother and the 5 year old sleeps well, what's the problem? But when mum gets sick of it and he starts looking for for 'my' this and 'my' that, then that's the time to make him a room with a bed that's just as warm and welcoming as mum's. Put his special things in the room. Get him to help. Let him make decisions about where things go. Make him feel something important is happening. Say mum has been watching him and can see he is becoming a big boy and soon will be going to school and needs a special room to call his own. Then have a routine where you spend special time before he sleeps, talking or storytelling. Choose stories that talk about where people live, where animals live - how they all have their own space. I know, I know it all sounds pretty so-so but it worked with my 3 boys. They ended up getting pretty territorial actually.
There'll be lapses and he'll want to come back to her bed, its ok but don't make it too comfortable for him. He'll soon make a conscious decision that his room is better.

Answer 3

Uuum...I don't think that a 5 yr old gettin in bed with his mom every night is really a problem...as long as he breaks it before he gets too much older. From my experience babysitting, I'd say she should set up a 'reward' system to where he'll get something like a small toy or a small bag of candy, a candybar, etc. if he stays in his room. If he's having trouble getting to sleep, maybe he should listen to some quiet music, or wind down by reading a short story before he goes to sleep. If nothing really works, maybe she should talk to a pediatrician or another parent for advice.

Answer 4

You are developing poor sleeping habits for your son. You need to be firm and loving and put him back to bed as many times as it takes. Try making a chart of 7 days and give him a sticker for every night they stay in there own bed and give them a reward for completing a week ( like a toy, or something fun to do) Then extended the time for the challange after that

Answer 5

He loves his mother what is the problem. Maybe he's afraid of something. If the mom wants the child off her bed, she will need to start bed time early. Because it might be a little hard. Stay in the room and read him a story, or sing songs I found that singing made them tired.

Answer 6

Kindly explain that he is a big boy now and big boys sleep in their own beds.Let him know that you are always there when you need him,and even when he doesnt.But sleeping with you every night will not allow either of you the independance you need.Maybe he needs a night light,or an extra bedtime story for awhile to get used to being comfortable in his own space.Or maybe you could give a special stuffed animal that yoy used to sleep with when you were little,if you have one.If not let him pick something of yours that he might find comforting.

Answer 7

If the boy has his own room and does't sleep in it, then maybe he's afraid of the dark (get a nightlight), or afraid of being alone. If he's afraid of being alone, then maybe if she stays in the room next door and let him know that she's there, he might calm down and actually stay in his own bed. Also, they can create a ritual, like brushing his teeth, reading a book or two and then bed time. They have to be consistant and firm about it though.

Answer 8

Well, a lot depends on circumstances. Is there a gorilla in the bed with the mother? If not, and the mother doesn't mind, let the little chimp bond with momma

Answer 9

you need your own time. Make it very clear to him that he has his bed and you have yours. He has to be a big boy and sleep in his own bed. If money isn't really a concern to you, take him to the store with you and let him pick out a cool comforter. Really make it a big deal that he gets to sleep on his big boy bed with his cool comforter. Maybe he'll like that.

Answer 10

WHat do you mean? there's nothing wrong with a 5 year old sleeping with his mom. But he should get used to sleep on his own.